Nipple Torture

Yes, these are titcakes!

One thing I love about nipples is...they are so sensitive! Nipples can take a lot of abuse and yet deliver so much pain at the same time...a sadists' delight, really.  Nipples are an erogenous zone for women too...so training her right can make nipple torture all the more fun. You just have to keep certain safety points in mind to play safe.

Nipples are actually designed to be bitten and twisted. Not by me but by evil breast feeding babies...but I'll take that design feature and run with it. ;)  Unlike other parts of the breast, the nipples are remarkably built for abuse. The skin around the areola (come on spell check! That's right!) is one of the fastest healing tissues in the body too.

And if God did want them to be abused so much, she wouldn't have put so many nerve endings in them! The meridian lines goes through the breast for those fond of Eastern practices and the same nerve that connects to the clit...goes through the nipples...so yeah...playing with a girl's nipples is definitely an erogenous zone (interestingly, men's nipple nerves are not connected to his penis.)   So a good little pain slut quickly learns to associate the pain of nipple clamps with being turned on.

So what is the best way to torture nipples? So many ways. You can squeeze them, twist them, squeeze then twist,  and bite them.  But you can also flog or cane them too <3   But my all favorite thing is using clover nipple clamps. The squeeze so tight and hard. And leaving them on over time...it actually grows in pain. Very nice.

You can also do some needle play and put sterilized needles through the nipples for added fun.

She has to keep her legs in the air to stop the pulley from
pulling the rope attached to her nipples

But using a variety of clamps is my favorite thing. I like to see how many clamps I can put on just one breast!



And the best way to take it up a notch is by using clamps attached to the breasts for predicament bondage.  Basically, you tie the clamps off to a tie point where she is in an awkward position.  If she moves too much one way...say an anal hook will pull on her uncomfortably.   And if she moves the other way...a pulley transfers that motion into pulling on the rope attached to her nipple clamps.  That's why I love the clover clamps! As they pull they tighten and squeeze harder!


Another way to accomplish this is add weights to the clamps so they swing and sway as she moves, pulling on the clamps on her tits. So be sure to have some weights handy.  An easy weight is simply a metal shower curtain rod with some metal washers and nuts slipped on it -- all available from your local hardware store.

Do this as often as possible.

And, again, you do want to train her enjoy the pain so it's always best to stimulate her while she's in
pain.  Nothing, I mean nothing, beats a sybian -- so if you can afford one, use that!  And be sure to be consistent with your use of both pain and pleasure at the same time...the first 25 times you clamp her nipples you should be vibing the hell out of her clit and making her cum.

So clamps hurt more and more the longer they are on.  Great. But you know when they hurt the most? When you take them off!! So she can be begging me to take them off...and I'm thinking, "Yes, yes babe, I will hurt you more."  You see, the blood flows back into the nipple and improves circulation to the nerve...meaning it transmits more pain!

Of course, I enjoy explaining this to a slave so she can anticipate the coming pain when I remove the clamp.  And another way to amplify the pain sensation is to rub and massage the nipple immediately after removing the clamp.

One final note: after she cums...her pain tolerance can go way way down so those clamps that felt so damn good a minute ago are now excruciating. So be nice and take them off after she cums. Or not.

Safety
While nipples are fast healing and made for abuse, you have to be careful not to damage the nerve in there.  To protect it, never leave a nipple clamp on for more than 15 minutes. Use a timer and take it off before you hit 15 min.  It's a good idea to move the clamps around more frequently than that anyway as it hurts her more.

I know there are a lot of breast torture videos out there but a word of caution there from a story I heard within the community. A young 21 year old girl was bound and hung by her breasts and, failing to support her weight, tore away from the rib cage.  This added 40 years of sag instantly and I would consider this 'breaking your toys' and a complete and utter fuck up. So, for the love of God don't do that!

Ok, back to the nipple nerve. Sometimes you can place the clamp right on the nerve in a way that is extremely painful to her. If you get it just right, it will hurt like a son-of-a-bitch...but it also can't be left on for very long at all as the nerve can be damaged more quickly like this.  Mostly you can tell by the level of pain and discomfort.  If she normally can take the clamps for 5 minute easily and is squirming and begging to have it off in 30 seconds...you are probably on it. It's a good idea to move it to protect her nerve...so you can keep giving her the pain she craves.

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Enemas

An enema is the practice of squirting water up someone ass in order to clean it out inside -- as well as for humiliation or for roleplaying doctor/patient and to make the ass nice and clean for anal sex.

I gotta admit, I'm kinda pissed at Blogger for deleting my original post on this and replacing it with some other crap that was copied. The warning was, "all unsaved changes will be lost" so I clicked ok because I didn't want it saved. Anyway, it lost a brilliant, highly detailed and funny post on enemas. And I don't have the energy to redo it as well (the safety section especially...hope I don't forget anything.)

Ok, so enemas involve putting fluids up your slave's ass. Personally, I use water and milk mainly -- about 1 litre at a time.  It's inserted into the anus via an enema bag and gravity. There is no need to use anything but gravity to get it in.

Equipment

You will need an enema bag which is basically a standard red hot water bottle. Then you need the enema hose which screws in to where the cap of the water bottle. This has a clamp on it (which controls the flow of water) and has a nozzel at the end which goes into the anus. (The nozzle should be nice an smooth.) 

Then you will need liquid to insert. About 1 litre of warm water (30C-35C). You can go up to 40C but no more -- and she will need to expel hot water far sooner.

After that, you'll need some lube to put on the nozzle so it slides in and out easily. If you're going to be repeating the enemas a bunch, have some salt handy.

How to Give an Enema

Once you have you the enema bag loaded with warm water and the nozzle lubed, hang the bag up on a hook above your slave. The recommended position is laying on her left side (so the water flows easily deep into her. Of course, you can also put her in a variety of positions from kneeling, all fours and on her stomach with her ass in the air. Do not invert you slave and give her an enema however.

The area where you give the enema should be waterproof/easy to clean and near a toilet. VERY NEAR.

Release the clamp till water flows out -- this is to clear any air bubble out of the line --then clamp it again. If you don't do this...hope you think farts are sexy.  Now you are ready to insert the *lubed* nozzle into her ass. 

Some nozzles are better than others ;)

Now release the clamp and let the water flow in. You may need to wiggle the nozzle around a bit so it's not up against a bowel wall and therefore blocking the water flow. 

You can watch the bottle get smaller as it drains out into her. She may suddenly feel the need to expel the fluid an will *have* to run to the toilet. If this happens, stay out of her way and clamp the tube shut as it will spray water everywhere. 

She may want to sit on the toilet and expel for awhile. Like 5 minutes or more. Fair warning: the stuff coming out of her is from deep inside her bowels and may stink. Personally, I like to flee for this part because I don't like my eyes watering. 

All this said, if it's your first enema, I wouldn't recommend doing it as part of a scene till you know what to expect. 

While she is expelling, you can reload the enema bag with warm water. Add a tablespoon of salt to the bag to prevent her from becoming hyper-hydrated. (Salt slows water absorption through the bowels.)  Be sure to test the water temperature on your inner forearm to make sure it's not to hot or cold. 

Then, basically rinse an repeat. Do it more till the fluid she expels runs clear.

Fluids

Soap -To help clean her out you can use a tiny bit of soap at first (though I have no real life experience with this so look it up) 

Oil - a small amount of oil (eg. a 1/2 pint of castor oil) or olive oil inserted and held for 20 minutes before the enema can help clean her out well.

Water -- the fluid of choice.

Salt Water - great for repeated enemas for thorough cleaning without hyper-hydrating her

Milk - after she's had several enemas an is all cleaned out -- milk can be a real sexy thing to play with and even force your slave to drink. ;) Of course there may be some health risks with this but I choose to ignore them and haven't had an issue ever. Also, milk is nice as it covers up any unsightly brown colors or tastes an seems nice like just milk. 

Fun with Enemas

Of course, enemas can be a humiliating experience they force the slave into a position of no bowel control. They are great for medical play scenes. They can intensify scenes with bondage. And the use of enemas can also have lots of pervese applications involving grossing slaves out with expelling the enema fluids onto each other, onto themselves, and ...into mouths *evil grin*

Safety

There is a lot of safety issues with enemas and though it isn't particularly dangerous if done correctly, it can be dangerous if done wrong. So here are the things to avoid. And I like how all of these safety precautions end.

1) NEVER USE ALCOHOL. Booze is absorbed super fast through the bowel...far faster than drinking it. So 3 shots in the butt will be absorbed far faster than chugging them. I've seen some people do wine enemas and go from sober to puking drunk in a few short minutes. It's too hard to control and the potential for severe alcohol poisoning is enormous. Remember, your body doesn't have a chance to puke to save itself and it hits faster than that. So do not use alcohol ever. (If you absolutely must [you don't!] only use a very small amount like 1 oz. at a time.)  Using alcohol and especially hard alcohol in an enema can be fatal. 

2) DO NOT OVERFILL -  1 Litre is a good amount to fill her. 3 litres will cause intense amounts of bad pain and put your slave into a miserable mood where she hates life. Even if she's a pain slut. Using too much fluid can also cause internal injuries (I'm not convinced 3 litres didn't cause internal damage when I tried it but she was fucked up for hours and I don't think we ended up having sex at all that day.)   Additionally, too much water being absorbed can cause swelling in the brain which can be fatal. 

3) DO NOT USE ICY WATER - Cold water will cause cramps which will suck for her. But very cold water or ice water can lower her core temperature and cause hypothermia and even death.

4) DO NOT USE HOT WATER - Hot water will make her want to expel right away before she's full.  But water that is too hot can scald -- and the bowels have few nerves and worse, it takes awhile to push the hot water out cause serious internal injuries. These internal burns can be extremely serious and considering the environment, can easily get badly infected and worse...infected in areas you can easily see --both of which can be fatal. 

5) DO NOT DO PRESSURIZED OR INVERTED ENEMAS - Inverting puts extra pressure that can be too much...just as pressurizing or pumping the enema into your slave -- and this is dangerous as it can cause internal injuries as well as over hydration which can cause swelling in the brain which can be fatal. 

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Rope Cutters

A lot of BDSM advice, especially for rope and shibari recommends the use of EMS safety shears for emergency cutting of ropes.  These are designed for cutting quickly while keeping a flat, non-sharp part against the skin.  They are way better than regular scissors so don't confuse them with normal scissors (which are not very good at cutting rope...especially in a hurry.)

You can get them here for $12  http://www.amazon.com/dp/B002L9QML4

3rd Best Option

While these are good and pretty cheap, these are very far from the best.  The best would be either a Karambit emergency knife (http://www.karambit.com/safety_and_rescue_tool.htm) for about $50

2nd Best

Or a Benchmade Model 5 Emergency Tool http://www.benchmade.com/products/5  for $35.00

The Best - get it. 

The benchmade is my choice as the best for BDSM emergency cutting tool.  It's small, easy to use and cuts rope extremely effectively.  It also comes with a handy little case that can be attached to the strap  of a rope bag  -which is really perfect as there is no digging around the bottom of your bag for it -- and it is also clearly not a weapon so you can get it past the bouncer at BDSM events in clubs. 

This handy little tool will cut ropes far faster than EMS shears: especially if you are using thicker rope. 

One thing about this though...don't use it for anything but emergency cutting -- you want it as sharp as possible when seconds count. 

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Beginner Rope Guide

This is the start of a guide to rope bondage.  The idea here will be to post useful links to articles here as I build this. 

I'm not gonna lie to you: it's always best to have in person training from an experienced rigger.  A rigger is community slang for one who likes to play with ropes.  Some charge for giving lessons and workshops. Others don't.   The very first guy that taught me about ropes -- it turns out he charges $500+ for a weekend workshop.  But for me, he never asked for a dime. 

The internet has some awesome resources with guides on YouTube for specific knots or techniques. They are the next best thing to in person training. The best thing to do is practice. The more you ingrain the knots and techniques into your head, the less you have to think about them and the more you can really enjoy yourself --and get creative. 

Get Some Books
I highly recommend “Land" from http://www.CompleteShibari.com.  "Sky" is a good followup book to read.  Complete disclosure: I have met the author -- and I have even posted some photos of one of his former slaves in a prior post....because I'm bad like that...but his book is totally solid.   There is some excellent the rope techniques to be found on  Twisted Monk. 

The most important thing to do is learn the simple ties that perform certain basic funcitons.  From there....you just build on your knowledge and assemble like lego. 

There is rope bondage and then there is shibari which is the more traditional form that comes from Japan.  If you are more interested in traditional shibari, check out Japan Rope

Types of Rope 

If you're unsure what rope is best, pick the hand dyed
purple ones because they be pretty!

The type of rope you use has a big impact on what you can do with it, the feel, how it ties and snugs together. The 3 main considerations are a) thickness b) material it's made of c) length.   Thin rope is much easier to accidentally cut off circulation so you have to use more of it and often multiple wraps.

Some people swear that there is only one right thickness or a best material that the rope should be made of...but it really depends on what you want the outcome to be.  I don't believe in one 'right way' but exploring and creating new ties on the fly.



To get you started, check out some of these simple ties.

But you can go from the functional to the masterful...here's a couple examples of AWESOME:

There's more tutorials that here   But don't worry, I'll post more videos and resources later. 


Meet Experienced People
There are lots of experienced people offering seminars and workshops. Attend these to meet like-minded folk. Some you have to pay a lot of money to attend while others are very informal places to practice. Look for rope workshops in your city or go to play parties and talk to the riggers. You can tell who they are as they will be busy tying people up. (Don't interrupt them while they are tying. )

If you want to go to something really awesome, check out Shibaricon.

For now, I'm just wanting to give a taste and outline some of the areas that I will write about. Then I will come back here and link to them later.

SAFETY
Rope bondage is one of the most risky BDSM activities you can do.   It's fairly easy to cause nerve damage and serious injuries -- even though it appears safer than other activities. So make sure you understand how damage can occur from rope bondage. Also, make sure you have tools handy that can safely and rapidly release you rope bunny (cut the damn ropes...her safety is way more important.) Make sure you understand how to tie safely before beginning. 

I'm going to post lots more on safety to be sure to read and understand those posts.  Also, suspension is NOT for beginners. Any type of suspension should not be done until you understand everything else and have lots of practice. DON'T START WITH SUSPENSION!  Start with something like a simple rope dress:

Disclaimer: I'm not a medical doctor nor do I claim to be any form of expert. Using rope is dangerous and you do so at not only your own risk but at the risk of the person you are tying. If you're not sure about how safe a tie is...don't do it. 



 

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SAFEWORDS

A safeword is a word that is used in BDSM scenes to communicate clearly to the Dominant when they are approaching or crossing a physical, emotional or moral boundary.  Some safewords, when used, stop the scene entirely and others either reduce the intensity level, request a change in activities being performed or notify the Dominant of some form of perceived physical threat.

The main reason why safewords are used is to ensure the scene remains safe, sane and consensual while allowing the sub to freely beg for mercy and cry out things like, “Oh God! No! PLEASE STOP!” and the Dominant doesn't have to worry about misunderstanding play cries from the real ones.  However, if the submissive uses a safeword -- the scene is immediately called to a halt. So a safeword really ensures the sub maintains some power and control over their own safety.   

Safewords are usually agreed upon before the scene starts with their meanings being established and discussed.  It is best to choose words that would not normally occur in a sexual or BDSM scene such as aardvark, physics, or rhubarb. A poor choice of safeword would be “Stop” or “Please” or “Oh God!”  :)

There are some safewords that are commonly used as play parties or other public events and can be used in addition to a predetermined safeword.  The word, “RED” means “Stop the Scene” and the word “Yellow” means “slow down” or “stop doing that”.  Another common safeword is “SAFEWORD” and also means “Stop the scene.”    These words are helpful because a Dungeon Monitor who hears either of those words will be sure that they are respected. The event organizers usually insist on common safewords as they take away all confusion from observers and participants -- this is especially helpful in the case of a sub screaming, “RED!” as they will get assistance from other party goers even if the Dom ignores or doesn't understand the word.

Attention Words
Some codewords can also be used to call a momentary stop to a scene in order to address a physical or emotional need.  These words can be used to say to the Dominant, “Stop the scene -- I have something that needs attention.”   For example, I use the codeword “Chemistry” as an attention word. It can be used by the sub to say just about anything including:

• I can’t feel my hand
• I just remembered I left the stove on in the kitchen
• You stumbled upon a childhood trauma I'm not prepared to deal with
• You are hitting too close to my kidneys and I don’t want to be damaged
• I am so thirsty. Please get me a drink
• I really have to pee

GO Words
In addition to words that stop or slow play, some codewords may be used to encourage the Dominant to go harder or do more -- or at the very least indicate that they are fine.  At a play party, “Green” is the accepted default word for being OK.

On Request
If a Dominant is unsure how to interpret where the sub is at, he or she can make a demand such as, “What is your colour” so he can get a clear read from the sub of Green, Yellow or Red.

Non-Verbal
Sometimes the sub is put into situations where they cannot verbally state a safeword -- such as when they are gagged or have a dildo stuffed deep in their mouth.  In these cases, a pre-arranged non-verbal “Safeword” may be used such a being given a ball -- and if the sub drops the ball, it is the same as saying “Red” or some other agreed upon safeword.

Dropping Roleplay
Sometimes, if involved in a roleplaying scene, simply dropping out of character and using the other person’s real name is considered the use of a safeword and should be respected.

Dominants Using a Safeword
While not strictly required, Dominants may also use a safeword if their boundaries are being pushed to much by the sub.  This is a way for a Dom to call a stop to a scene.  For example, a Dom who gets off on pure obedience may use a safeword with a particularly bratty sub who refuses to do anything she is told.

Dungeon Master’s Using a Safeword
At public play parties, Dungeon Masters may use a safeword in order to call a stop to a scene. This can be done by the Dungeon Master to stop any practice that they do not approve of, breaks the rules of the space or some other reason.  If a Dungeon Master call out a safeword, it MUST be respected and the scene must stop immediately.  This is usually to point out a significan safety concern that the dominant has overlooked but it certainly isn't limited to that (some random dude wandering into a scene and starting to grope some bound boobs will get the attention of any DM who is conscious.) 

Observers Using a Safeword
In certain cases, observers can call a stop to a scene.  This can happen, especially with very experienced observers, when they spot something going on that they perceive to be potentially harmful.  Sometimes both the Dom and sub think they are being safe or do not realize that something -- say a certain tie of rope -- has potentially serious side health effects. So if someone in the crowd calls out a safeword, pay close attention.   

Ignoring a Safeword
When a safeword is used, the sub is saying the scene is too much for them and it must stop. Immediately. Not stopping can result in either rape or assault charges and will many subs would certainly guarantee a sub will never play with that Dom again.  Ignoring safewords is also considered highly inappropriate in the BDSM community and can result in persons being banned from parties and shunned from the community in general.   

Not hearing a Safeword
Sometimes Doms do not hear a sub use a safeword. If this happens to you as a sub, be sure to very clearly and loudly repeat the safeword for the Dom. Several times if the Dom does not immediately stop.  A Dom who misses a safeword may cause the sub a great deal of emotional distress -- as the sub is now feeling they are in rape/assault territory -- and this can be especially true with some subs who have a natural inclination to both speak a safeword quietly and then panic and zip up when it is ignored.  If you are this kind of sub, resist the temptation to feel increasingly violated for the remainder of the scene:  your Dom could have simply missed the cue entirely. So be loud and clear with your safewords.

This is especially true for me.  My hearing definitely sucks and I once missed a sub saying her safeword.  I stopped as she inexplicably started to bawl. When I cuddled her and asked her what was going on and she replied, "Daddy, I said yellow and you didn't stop!" :'(    It was heartbreaking but smoothed over once she understood that I wasn't disregarding her need but... deaf.

So especially with me, speak-the-fuck-up. I guarantee you that if I hear a safeword I will stop. 

Afterwards: Guilt and Aftercare with Safewords
Some submissives see using a safeword as being weak or a bad sub. They also fear that they will greatly displease a Dominant by using a safeword.  While sometimes subs can enjoy being pushed past their comfortable points, it is important to take responsibility for your own health and safety and use a safeword if it is required.  

For a Dom, it is important to be both supportive and empathetic to any sub the uses a safeword and not try to make them feel bad about stopping the scene. Respect the sub’s limits and appreciate them for being strong enough to call a stop to the scene -- because the sub make be racked with guilt for stopping the scene and they will need your support.

Furthermore, actively discouraging the use of safewords -- and sulking, leaving, not talking or being a big baby about are definitely in this category!! -- makes it more likely that future scenes become non-consensual. A Dom who chastises or throws the use of a safeword in the sub’s face may harm the bottom’s trust, mental state, self-esteem and likely their body too.

Alternatively, Doms may experience a good deal of guilt when a safeword is used.  A Dom may see it as their failure to read their partner, to understand their body language, or that they lost control.   This is another reason for an intermediate type of safeword such as “Yellow.”

If a safeword is used by anyone, it is best to assume the stance of no-fault.  I find it useful to just look at the facts and not attach emotional meaning to the usage of the safeword. Try to be understanding of your partner and not assign any blame but instead look at the facts: “the ropes were tied too tight”, “the nipple clamps were on too long” or “a dog shitting doesn’t turn him on.”

Forgetting the Safeword

A major concern of some people is what happens if I forget the safeword? The sub could be completely at the mercy of the Dom. If this happens, don't be a moron -- say, "Hey, I forgot the safeword!"

Play Without Safewords
While most of the BDSM community considers safewords an essential part of safe, sane consensual play (myself included), some people feel the lack of safewords is a turn on with a submissive consenting not to have consent over anything that happens. This is consensual nonconsent.   

While this may sound like a fun idea, I strongly advise against it because of the vulnerabilities that result from both health and safety and from a legal point of view.   Instead, it is better to have safewords and not use them except in an emergency.  Ideally, this will never happen but you may be grateful to have them. Also, couples who have a lot of experience with each other often have learned, through experience, how to read each other so well that safewords are not required.  

Safewords cover the unexpected:
I do love one lovely sub of mine who has only ever once used an intermediate safeword with me. Wow...she's awesome. <3   But I can read her easily now so it's hardly required...but in the one case where she used it: it was a total surprise to me.  I can (and do) do any perverse thing that crosses my mind with her.  But it was the use of a fairly common, innocuous word that triggered a huge emotional reaction with her.  And we didn't know this line even existed till we inadvertently crossed it.  And that is why they exist. You can never factor in everything and you both may have no idea about a boundary until it is crossed. 

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The Importance of a Warm Up

Getting a slave into the right head space is extremely important because it has a huge effect on their physiological response -- it is the difference between her getting wet and her being turned off. Personally, I make it my business to do all I can to have turned on all the time (and unless you are a bit of a sociopath...this should be hugely important to you too.)

One of the easiest ways to shock her and turn her off is by starting off with hitting her hard with a cane.  She's just not ready for it yet: she's not warmed up.  So instead of being primed for the pain and the endorphin producing parts of her brain in high gear...she just shocked and it hurts and stings and sucks for her. But that exact same hit when she's warmed up will be delightful to her and send her into subspace. ets

HOW IT WORKS
Let's look at why this works.  By starting slow and gradually working your way up to more painful activities you give her a chance to both mentally and physically prepare for it. Mentally, she may be coming back from works or school and be stressed and her mind is on mundane daily activities. So if you warm her up slowly, you give her a chance to mentally adjust to the scene and also to start to anticipate more.

Her anticipation is key.  I think of it as teasing.  You know she wants more but you're not ready yet and she has to deal with your pace and needs. Soon she is begging in her mind for more and more...so when you up the ante-- she has a sense of release. Hint and threaten her first.

Also, some light flogging and easy play lets her easily slip into her slave role...reminding her of who she really is. If you come at her like a freight train...and she's stressed and emotionally weak she may interpret it as abuse and instead of being fun, it is traumatizing. So give her a chance to let go of her daily baggage and become yours.

She also needs some time physically to warm up to higher levels of pain.  Light flogging causes blood to start flowing to her skin, and also gives the nerves a new and higher baseline that you can gradually move upwards. Think of her like an athlete who doesn't just jump into the most strenuous activity but stretches and warms up first so they are ready for the more difficult activity.

At the same time, her brain starts to pump out endorphin in response to the pain stimulus.  This has morphine like drug effects on her and is the thing that helps her convert the signal of 'pain' into an interpretation of 'pleasure'.   But the pharmacy in the brain takes a little bit to get warmed up and start pumping out the good chemicals in volume...so give it a heads up as to what is coming so when you hit her with the cane, she drops a ton of brain candy and goes into ga ga land.

HOW TO WARM A SUB UP

Warming up is quite simple...just look at whatever it is you are wanting to do and think about it on a scale of 1 to 10.  If you plan on flogging the daylights out of her..taking her to a 10 at your roughest....well, from there start a 1 and start moving up slowly. She'll love the anticipation and building of suspense.

If you are biting, I find really long, slow, lingering bites that get harder and harder as time progresses is the way to go.  But still, you can start really low on the scale and go up to a 6.  Then bite again...but move slowly from a 1 to a 7 this time.  Then move up again...starting at a 3 and going up to 8 and so on.

If you a making her gag on a dildo...give a hint about it first and then gradually up the ante.

Using hot wax? Start from a high height and less sensitive area and gradually lower the candle closer to the target while selecting more sensitive targets.

 This works for all sorts of activities...just think about where you are going and dial it back -- remember, in BDSM, it's all about the journey and not just making it to the destination. Warming up also applies to changing activities or parts of the body you are working on. If you are paddling the hell out of her ass after warming her up sufficiently...you can start a lot harder on her nipples but going straight to a 10 on her nipples won't be nearly as effective as starting at a 6 and going up from there.

Finally, warming her up gives her time to become sexually aroused. A turned on girl...will enjoy FAR FAR MORE!  If she's horny and near cumming...all the better! A girl who is highly sexually aroused can endure massive amounts of pain and it will feel pleasurable...where a girl who is not horny at all will just perceive pain.

SAFETY

Subs can react far different than you might anticipate or how previous subs have acted with you...so a warm up acts as a testing of the waters to make sure she's cool with whatever you have planned.   I've seen a slave's ass go deep purple over a huge hand-span-sized area at a hit that would have made my previous sub go slightly red.

Because people react differently to different things: a warm up can save you a lot of both emotional and physical distress.

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BODY BAGS

A body bag is piece of bondage and S&M equipment that is used for enclosing a person's whole body.  it is usually used by people who have encasement and confinement fetish's and fantasies.   They are usually close if not skin tight, once a person is inside they are also built so that the person cannot escape.  Straps and lacing are used to secure the subs arms to their torso's.  Many different materials can be used to make a body bag including leather, latex, or even spandex (if it was made in the 80's). 

Uses: 

Body bags can be used for Surprise play where the sub is completely unaware of what the top is doing or where they are going to strike next.  Body Bags also work well with Temperature play using ice and heat as the sub has no idea which stimulant will be used next.  Long term bondage is also easy to do in  a body bag as most body bags do not stress the body during the bondage it's self.   Body bags can also be great for sensory deprivation, as they often completely obscure sight and muffle sound.   Common enhancements to Body bags are hoods, straps to tie the arms and legs together or to the torso in the arms case.

The best use of body bags is to transport a slave to new locations and they will have absolutely no idea where they are going and being confined -- and the sub will arrive tightly confined and in an aroused state -- completely curious as to where they are.   

Some body bags have a panel that can be secured with snaps or zippers, allowing for the face panel to be easily removed or added.  This is ideal as it allows for communication with the sub and feeding. 

Note: Depending on the material of the bag, it may be necessary to add a blindfold to ensure that no light can be seen by the sub.  It is easy to add a leather blindfolds by strapping it over the eyes and on top of the body bag. 

Effect: 

When I've questioned slaves about such confining experiences, I often hear that they love the feeling of being completely encased: it gives a huge sense of safety and calm as if they were being hugged all over.

Materials: 

Body bags can be made from a variety of materials and each comes with it's own set properties.  They can be made of latex or pvc but these do not breath and so should only be used for shorter time periods. That said, if the sub is confined and needs to pee...latex can take it no problem without being damaged. I recommend materials that breath such as gortex or leather. Leather, of course, can be extremely expensive as -- well, bodybags use a lot of leather.  

This body bag has handy face snaps to lock the face piece in place.

Safety: 

The biggest safety concern with both Body Bags is Asphyxiation.  Most commercial body bags are set up so the sub can breath through the bag -- although some are somewhat difficult to breath through.  The plastic, zip up body bags are for corprses and not intended for a live human to use. Do not assume that you can breath in them as they are a major suffocation hazard. It is both the Top's and the bottom's responsibility to constantly monitor the breathing and ability to breath of the victim.  

The skin also needs to breathe.  If materials are used that don't breathe, then your heart-rate and blood pressure may rise ... but these should not be too significant to cause adverse effects over limited play periods of an hour or so.  I don't know about longer times, however.  Still, every person is different so monitor your sub closely.   If
you want to keep your sub encased for long periods, use a natural fabric that breathes or gortex.

Finally, some people suffer from intense claustrophobia when fully encased which can result in extreme panic -- especially when they can't escape on their own.  This can result is a pronounced 'freak-out' -- the best thing to do is release them ASAP and start by removing the coverings around the face and head to  substantially relieve the sensation. 

Great Priced Body Bag:
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Dildos 

A dildo is a sexual aid, or sex toy, which can be used on both men and women. It is generally a penis shaped device, used for penetration of the butt, vagina or mouth. It can be used during both Masturbation and Sexual Intercourse. People sometimes call them "Dills" and my favorite history of the name (no idea if this is true) is: it comes from Italian word "diletto" which means delight.  But the main thing that separates a dildo from vibrators is...no motor and it just plain doesn't vibrate. 

Below is your guide to dildos. 

Types of Dildo's --Materials

A dildo can be made out of many different materials. Common materials are:

PVC- Pvc is the least expensive of the materials, however they are known to have a plasticy aroma and are porous so can harbour bacteria. It's usually fairly soft and flexible. And it also can be discolored fairly easily.  Since it is the cheapest material you will find the biggest dildo made out of pvc.

Silicone Rubber - Silicone Rubber is more expensive generally than their pvc cousins, but are much easier to keep clean as you can just boil them in water to sterilize. Another plus for silicone rubber dildo's is that they do not smell like plastic.  But they can disintegrate if you use silicon based lube. 

Chrome-plated Steel dildos - chrome and metal dildos are much more expensive than both rubber and pvc, however they provide a different set of sensations when inserted in the body. Many Dom's and mistresses in bdsm circles enjoy using this type of dildo for the very reason that it causes their play partner a slight discomfort. They do not flex like rubber or pvc dildo's; this can lead to an uncomfortable feeling. They also transfer heat really well so can provide interesting sensations when placed in the freezer. Easy to clean and sterilize and virtually indestructible. But expensive.

Pyrex glass- Pyrex glass is also an expensive material in comparison to silicon rubber and pvc. This type of dildo also doesn't flex when inserted into the body. The Pyrex glass dildo can be heated using warm water to body temperature and is easily sterilized with boiling water. Also, glass dildos heat up when inserted into the body and can feel comfortable once it has warmed to body temperature. These are great but don't drop them or they can shatter. Also, never bother with cheaper glass dildos which are much more likely to break and considering where they may be when they break...just use the pyrex ones.

Types of Dildo's -Variation in Shapes

The Double Dildo

The Double Dildo. Used for penetrating 2 females at the same time. Used frequently by bi girls and lesbians. Double sided dildo's are commonly used in lesbian sexual intercourse or in a group sex environment. They are also used in heterosexual intercourse for male anal penetration in a practice that is sometimes referred to as pegging. 

Non-Penis Shaped

Of course, not all dildos have to be penis shaped. Certain lesbians really dislike the whole penis shape thing and go for phallic shapes that are not penis-related. Say a banana shaped or ones that are shaped like cute teddy bears. Additionally, certain Asian countries have laws/difficulties with fake penis shaped objects but no problem with other extremely similar shapes...and that, coupled with 'Asian sensibilities' results in some rather odd incarnations of the dildo.

They can also be found in unconventional shapes that are more pleasure based in origin.

Strap-Ons

Strapons are harnesses made for holding dildos in place --just where a cock would normally go. This allows for women to fuck each other effectively. Or can be used as a humiliation play on males. This also works for those that do not want to or cannot use their actual penis.  Dildo require a good base and/or balls in order to be effective in a strap on harness.

Other Uses

Dildo's have many different uses. They can be used as a solo or mutual masturbation tool, of course.  They work as a sexual aid during sex both for men and women. If they are appropriately sized a phallic gag. They can also be used for artificial fellatio or for fellatio training. Larger dildo's can be used for intimidation and humiliation play. Flacid ones can be used by trans people to be placed in their underwear.

Health and Safety Issues facing use of dildos

 Sterilization of a dildo's is very important as Std's and common infection bacteria can be carried on a dildo and transferred to the person receiving insertion of the dildo. Common practice for a dildo being used by more than one person is too apply a condom over the dildo. Special care needs to be taken when using a dildo for anal insertion as they can be difficult to retrieve if it goes fully inside the anus. If a dildo should become fully lost inside someone’s anus, it is important to retrieve it – and this may require medical assistance. If the didos becomes lost and works its way up to the bladder area, a could cause a rupture and this means you’ll have to use a colostomy bag for the rest of your life. So swallow your pride and go to the emergency. To prevent a dildo from being swallowed completely by your ass, you can use a butt plug which has a large end to prevent total insertion.

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