UNDER THE BED RESTRAINT SYSTEM

The under the bead restraint system is a set of bondage straps that goes underneath the bed with cuffs for both wrists and ankles that come up from under the mattress.  

The advantage of this system is it is fast and easy to turn any bed into a bondage haven -- even if the bed doesn’t have a frame or hooks.  (Now, of course, I have no idea why you would ever consider purchasing a bed without a frame with nice tie points on it...but maybe you were given the bed for free??)   Regardless, this system solves the issue of no suitable tie-points on a bed frame.  Oh, and it also works great for hotels! Many hotel beds suck and lack a frame entirely.  With this system, you can quickly setup the straps in about 7 minutes and you’re good to go.  

If you are all eager, you can buy the underbed restraint system here.

The system itself consists of 2 wrist cuffs jointed to an adjustable length central strap which joins to the 2 ankle cuffs.  Each strap is adjustable and once it is setup for the bed -- and the sub -- it can remain in place under the bed without interfering with anything.  The straps will have to be reset for each sub unless the subs are the same size.  

I first used this with a sub who wanted to be able to play at her place but had her parents come over and visit often and worse, had a bed that was totally flat with no headboard or possible tie points.  I wanted to have something set up so I could easily restrain her whenever I wanted so we simply put a skirt around the bed (a bed skirt? I don't really know what it's called) and so it completely hid the restraints when they were not in use. 

What I liked about the system is it was fast, highly portable and effective.  Because the arms are attached to the ankles via the underbed central strap, when the sub struggles and pulls with their wrists, it pulls directly on their ankles in the opposite direction -- so they can’t get free.  So pulling up with your feet causes your arms to be pulled back over your head.  I also liked the price -- as I bought this for about $60-$70 (it was about 3 years ago.)

What I didn’t like was the cuffs were made of velcro and nylon webbing -- so it lacked a certain something compared with my preference, leather. This will no doubt cause some issues with durability -- but the set I have seems to be holding up fine (but I use leather far more frequently so it’s hard to say exactly how long they’ll last but they don’t seem super flimsy or anything.) Also, the cuffs are a bit on the large side (so Dommes, this is perfect) but for little female subs with tiny wrists, they may be able to slip their wrists out of it.     

The hardest past with an under the bed restraint system is getting the central strap under the bed.  You have to lift the mattress up  and on it’s side in order to lay the central strap down on top of the box spring, in the middle of the bed and an equal distance from both ends.   From here, adjust the length of the central strap so it doesn’t stick out too far from the ends -- look at the length of the ends with the wrist and ankles cuffs on it and imagine them wrapped around the mattress and reaching your sub. Keep in mind there are adjustments on the ankle or wrist straps so you adjust the length a bit -- but you have to get the under the bed part roughly right.  I say this because if you get it wrong, you have to lift the mattress up and off again -- which is a pain in the ass.

Once you lay the mattress down, have your sub lay on top of the bed and adjust the lengths so they are tightly confined. From here, you can simply undo the cuffs themselves to release them without ever requiring adjustment again.  

If need be, you can stuff the wrist and/or ankle cuffs under the mattress when not in use and no one will be the wiser.  Another bonus to this system is you can take the sheets off and wash them without interfering with restraints or having to reset them.   

Finally, here’s some TIPS

1) for the sub:
Just before you cum, flex your stomach and thighs by pulling against your restraints. Pull and flex until you start cumming and when you do, your fatigued muscles will contract -- giving you a much more intense orgasm

2) Tip for the Tops: 
Make your sub perform the above tip ;)

You can purchase on version of it here for just $40.00

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Where to Buy Hardware

I recently discovered Ohio Travel Bag and it is awesome. They have just about everything a pervert could want in terms of fasteners and chains. Every kind of chain, attachment, wall tie points, metal rings and more -- all at really great prices.

I think they may know they are catering to the kinky community too because this page here http://www.ohiotravelbag.com/FlipBook/P212_BOOK_1.indb/index.html#/80/  seems to feature clover clamps with chains between them, bite balls and a riding crop.

The prices are great too!

Of course, you have to call them to get the best prices and order more than $30 but that should be pretty damn easy.   If you want the best prices, as for their 'prices breaks' for X number of items. For example, the price for the nipple chains plummets if you order more than 12.  

I can't emphasize this enough. If you have friends in the kinky community...order together for massive savings. Additionally, they WILL point out perverted uses for items that you'd skimmed over and not seen the potential: so be ready to bump up your order as you will want things you didn't know you wanted.

To give you an idea, they have over 20 pages of stuff like this:

So you can get exactly what you want.

They also feature lots of leather working tools, webbing and belt attachments and much much more!

Once you are ready to order or you just want prices (again, be sure to ask about price breaks for buying many of the item), give them a call at 1-800-800-1941.

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Sex Swing

One of the best things for ease of fucking is a sex swing.  If you haven't tried one of these, you really really should. The first time I tried one of these was with a now-rather-famous-sub of mine who happened to have a perfectly placed ceiling hook that easily support her weight -- and from that very first time, I was totally hooked.

Ha ha...just did a post on swinging so of course my next post has to be on sex swings!

A sex swing can be anything that supports the slave's weight, hangs from a tie point and allows her to lie back and sway back and forth. Ideally it has a bit of a hammock type bed for her to lie back on. Some swings have loops that support her legs independently while keeping them spread -- and while these are nice they are are not required to get the job done.

Leather: nice feel...but pricey

A sex swing can be purchased online from various sex vendors for $100-$400 and usually come with
mounting equipment, webbing and possibly some sort of neoprene padding. However, this can be done for far less. Go to a hardware store and investigate the hook possibilities...and you should be able to get something suitable for under $15 easily. The swing itself can also be found at some hardware stores or walmart as backyard swing chairs or even modifying a hammock.  I got one for $35.

Rope...good feel for her and dirt cheap too!
My recommendation

Of course, some swing chairs are made of rough rope which can be a little uncomfortable for her -- which makes the cheaper ones more desirable for me  (you can have her getting to comfortable.)  So not only are the rope ones much cheaper...but they provide the right feel for your little slut.

Advantages
The reason to use a sex swing is simple: it makes sex easy. Like really crazy easy. You know all that moving and humping? Instead of all that effort, you can just move her back and forth with your arms almost as easily as you can move your hands around in the air.  It's easy. Want to go fast for a bunch? You can do it without breaking a sweat.

And if she cums and squirts...it doesn't soak the bed. ha ha.

Swing with spring

Now there is also a version that has a spring or bungee cord at the top...this was actually demonstrated to me by a busty blonde pornstar who was swearing it was the best thing since the invention of lube.  It bounced really nicely and so a spring and/or bungee at the top adds a lot to any swing as it allows for not just back and forth movement but up and down as well. It came with a big frame that was designed to take the weight...but a significantly solid ceiling hook and spring should do the trick just fine.  And yes, I do recommend adding this option.  The spring itself from a hardware store costs around $15-$20.


Safety
Make sure that the ceiling mount is substantial and can take your at least double your weight  and the slave's weight combined. Why double? Because you really don't want this falling down mid-fuck! (That would be a fuck up.)  You may fall onto the sub as you cum...so it should be able to take your weight too.  So a really solid tie point to hang it from is required -- meaning both a good quality hook that is rated for over 600lbs and it attached solidly to a nice beam (do not even think about putting into just a drywall or plaster ceiling --hey! you just thought about that. Grrrrrr.)

If you are going to have a spring added to the top, you will require a much more significant ceiling hook as the acceleration can make the weight of a 125lbs girl seem like 600 pounds or more...so springs require a much more significant ceiling mount. 

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Female Condoms

You might not think of condoms as a particularly sexy thing - especially female condoms.  Actually, not a lot of people have used female condoms nor do they know their benefits.  So I'd like to share my experiences with these as they most definitely have a place in my toolbox.  I will cover what female condoms are, the benefits and downside to them, how to use them and then how I like to use them and why.  

I've only ever used one brand of female, FC,  and honestly, they seem to work pretty well. Unlike regular condoms, they are polyurethane and not latex.  It is basically a clear baggy with a large and a small flexible ring built in.  When put inside the girl, the female condom is held outside by the large ring. The whole purpose is to provide barrier protection by eliminating contact between genital regions.

To use the female condom, squeeze the small ring and stuff it in and deep up her pussy.  So far, I haven't found a really graceful way to do this -- but still, it's easier and more graceful than a male condom --especially because it can be inserted way in advance of use.  The package says you can leave it in for 8 hours with no problem.  You can lube up the outside a bit so it feels better for her -- but I haven't found this necessary as she is usually producing lube on her own.  Lubing up the inside is essential however! It makes sliding in her way easier and also, it tends not to dry up due to the fact it isn't exposed to air. Then, when you are hard, you enter her as normal...just make sure you aim at the big hole. If, under normal circumstances, you can enter her reliably with accidentally going in her ass then you should be fine. (It is tricky, I know...if she wasn't guiding me towards her mouth, I'd go for her nose every time during a blowjobs. Maybe even her ear.)

First off, I really prefer female condoms to the male ones. They feel way way better and the sex feels more natural (for me, anyway.)   Once it is in, you can do stuff like make out with her...get hard...and then, when it feels right, slip into her. So sex feels far more spontaneous and less pressured than with a condom.  With a traditional condom, I always feel like when I get ready to fuck her...I've got a raging hard on and we a passionately kissing to the point and right when my desires is at it's peak-- when I want to enter her most, more in the world I want to be in her...and suddenly I'm no longer touching her at all but looking down at my cock trying to rapidly squeeze it into a little bag. Additionally, male condoms work best with a raging hard on...but if you don't get it on fast enough the stress can make you go a bit softer -- which in turn makes it harder to get on...and next thing you know you are awkwardly struggling and apologizing and generally scoring no points on the sexy scale.  So you're inside her...latex is a good insulator meaning that with normal condoms her hot pussy feels a luke-warm pussy. Oh, and once you get in her, your sensation is around 30% of what you would feel without the condom on  (unless you use a good one...which you really should use...I'll do a post on quality condoms soon.) So less sensation also doesn't help the whole hard-on situation and generally the whole affair loses some of it's magic.

Ok, now let's say you decide to use a female condom...I'll go over the same scenario as before but with using a female condom.  FIrst off, you have to put it inside her. This is the worst part. Why? Because if she's not your slave, you have basically got to get her to commit to having sex with you well in advance -- which adds pressure, expectation and the likelihood of fucking it up goes way up. Oh, and if she's never had one in, you have to do it for her --which is gonna make her more self-conscious and the whole, 'this is crazy and should we be doing this?' factor drops to approximately zero.  Balls. Ok, so you get it in her and lube it up. Now what?

Get her some wine or a joint and take it easy. Give her a massage. When it feels right...make out with

her. Then, when you a filled with desire...enter her and fuck as normal. By now it will be fully warmed up to her body temperature. Also, the polyurethane of the female condom is vastly superior to transferring body heat...so it feels like going in a hot pussy...and the sensation...while not 100% natural, still feels vastly better --worlds better -- than normal condoms. Female condoms feel almost like unprotected sex to me. It so much better that there really is no comparison. That, with the ability to spontaneously go in her when it feels right...makes this a big winner.  I've actually panicked a couple of times thinking that I'd somehow slipped around the female condom and was in her unprotected and impregnating her with overly zealous seed. Upon looking down...nope. It just felt like I was in her pussy bare. This has never once happened while wearing a male condom with the awful and sex-stopping exception of when the bloody thing burst.

Other advantages of female condoms include: there is no latex so people with latex allergies can use them. Guys that have difficulty using condoms and have problems staying hard due to decreased sensation...will fucking love these.  If oil gets on a female condom from a massage it will stay intact rather than self-destruct like latex condoms.  The female condom covers and protects against STIs far more effectively than regular condoms as the amount of skin to skin contact is much less. They are also less likely to rupture or accidentally slip off.

In a moment I will explain the real advantages that make female condoms a godsend. But before I hit that, I gotta list off the downsides.  Once it's in, female condoms look like an odd baggy is sticking out of her pussy (which is the case.)  Girls I've talked to seem to feel about the sensation identically to how guys feel about male condoms (so if you don't enjoy using a male condom...you can give her the same experience so she can understand your perspective. Additionally, oral sex is less fun because you've got to work around the baggy -- or conversely, safer as you can use it as a dental dam and lick her clit through the female condom (so this could be an advantage??)  The other disadvantage is price: they tend to cost about $3 to $6 each so they definitely cost more than most regular condoms.

Now let's look at how female condoms come into their own: threesomes and switching holes! If you are having a 3-some and want to go from one girl to the next safely and easily...female condoms are a godsend.  Simply use two female condoms and bam...you're good to go. Switch holes as freely and as often as you like. The girls don't have to worry about giving each other yeast infections and the like...their pussies remain fully protected the entire time. Want to come up for a quick BJ intermission? With a female condom you can just do it. (None of this: 1) pull out 2) remove the condom 3) go in her mouth 4) get a new condom 5) put the damn thing on 6) go back in her pussy. With the female condom, just do steps 1, 3 and 6...the fun parts.)  If you're just worried about pregnancy (gack, I am!) You can go from her ass to her pussy and back as often as you want...with no risk of giving her a nasty yeast infection or worst as fecal matter is not a pussy's best friend -- with a standard condom, once you go in her ass you are pretty much committed. Hell, even with no condom you are committed to her ass. (Note: to keep Ashlie's pussy safe, I find it best to just fuck her ass. heh heh.)

Another great thing about them is, you can keep it in her for a long time. Say you wanted to fuck the slave off and on over the course of 7 hours.  You could use normal condoms and go through a box -- or use just one female condom and just fuck her repeatedly. The only time I personally like to change female condoms is if I cum in it -- as my little guys like to swim into places they aren't welcome and won't take no for an answer...so it's best to limit their opportunities. 

So in summary, if you have problems with regular condoms or just want a superior experience -- try out the female condom. It's kinda weird but worth it.  Now if you're having a 3-some*...these babies are indispensable and will greatly improve everyone's experience. 

*assuming a 2-female, 1 male threesome.

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Bondage Cuffs

Bondage Cuffs

A Bondage Cuff is a piece of equipment used to restrain a person's wrists and ankles for the purpose of sexual bondage.  A bondage cuff is usually made from Leather with a padding or fake fur lining to be easy on the skin of the person being restrained.   Bondage cuffs are used to secure wrists and ankles to other things such as a bed post, a St. Andrews cross or the wrists and ankles to each other.  They are usually equipped with a  D-ring or buckles to fit nylon webbing for easy attachment to what ever you want to attach them too.  

Bondage cuffs are sold in pairs or groups of four to correspond to the number or wrists and/or ankles a person has.    Bondage cuffs are often used to attach wrists and/or ankles together or wrists to ankles.  They are a very convenient way to create a hogtie, or using just the ankle cuffs in conjunction with straps around a person's legs a frog tie can also be easily achieved.  

The ankle cuff's make it very easy to attach a spread bar to a person's ankle's.  

The two main benefits Bondage cuff's have over regular hand or ankle cuffs are comfort and safety.  The use of handcuffs even with padding can lead to quite serious damage to a person's Blood vessels, extremities and nerves.  Bondage cuffs are designed for comfort and safety, where as hand cuffs are designed for immobilization and prevention of escape. 

Bondage cuffs are not designed to carry the weight of a person during suspension.  A special cuff known as a Suspension cuff should be used instead, for it is designed to carry the weight of a person. 

Variations -Materials and Colours

As with all things, there is lots of variety available. The practical side is, you need to stay on the subs wrists and ankles and they should come off and be easy to get on again.

Metal

My favorite cuffs are stainless steel. Super solid, sexy, and elegant. And no issues with any liquids.  They seem like a luxury item...and they are.  These stainless steel ankle cuffs, that do everything right (love the locking hex bolt) -- cost just $128.   Of course, if she's like most girls, she also has 2 hands that need a matching set of stainless steel wrist cuffs.

If you can, I highly recommend going metal. It's got a permanent feel that just says, "I am not fucking around." 

Leather

Leather is nice and study too. These also can be pricey but they tend to last a long time if you get a quality set of leather cuffs like these (in pink!)   These ones actually feel really nice, comfortable and damn study. (Look for a nice wide belt that is also thick on the belt part those closes: this is the most likely area to break. )

These two show some the the variety. You can have steel, pink, black leather, fur lined.  You can also get them in an institutional beige if being locked in a mental institution is your thing (or  doctor/hospital play.

On the down side, you can damage them if you get them wet. But you can also wipe them off fairly easily and take care of them properly and they should last many years.  Oh, and they smell sexy. ;)

Velcro

You can also get cuffs made out of velcro.  These work for situations where you want to be able to rapidly release you victim -- such as if they have medical condition such as epilepsy.  

Velcro cuffs are relatively cheap and can be made fairly sturdy too -- many having some neoprene added to it.  

I'm not the biggest fan of velcro -- like most long haired slaves as there is something about the feel of them that seems kinda...low rent.   Still, if you wanna go velcro...check out these velcro cuffs (they are not the ones pictured above.) 

Vinyl

I've also see these in a club, made of vinyl.  They look really cool under black light...and are total crap for bondage with a sub that likes to resist.  If she's compliant...they may work without breaking too soon...but on advantage is: they are completely waterproof. 

A great way to make her sweat! (Around her wrists)

Safety
As with all restraining equipment it is unsafe to leave the person alone while being restrained.  Also Bondage Cuffs are NOT Suspension cuffs and should not be used in Suspension Play.  Also You are responsible for both you and your partners health and all care and use of judgment should be employed in all aspects of bondage and s&m play.  

Practical Considerations

1. How do I attach my Bondage Cuffs to things example a bedpost.   

Carabiners and D-rings on wrist
cuffs: made for each other

You can use an Eye Screw with an attached Carabineer to clip into the D-ring on the Cuff. 

You can use Rope and tie the D-ring to the Bedpost 

You can even use metal wire and run it through the D-ring and Twist it Tight. 

Really you can use anything that will hold through any struggle the sub will put up. 

2. Can I make Bondage Cuffs myself. 

Yes you can.   You will need Heavy duty Leather Straps, metal D-rings, Metal Buckle, Sewing equipment and thread able to sew leather.  For some Small locks so the Cuffs can be locked and only taken off with a key.  

The easiest to make is velcro. (I actually did this.) You can sew it -make sure your machine has a good, sturdy needle -- and also make sure there is ample length to overlap as too little overlap and they will just pop open.

3. Where can I go to buy Bondage Cuffs 

Most local Sex shops will carry some form of Bondage Cuff.  But a lot of them are faux leather (aka vinyl) and are pretty crappy. I've even had some broken by an over zealous sub. 

You can also get them online Here (I like the quality of the items from this site, the Stockroom. First saw their stuff in a catalog way before visiting their website. They are more expensive than some you can find...but they are also high quality goods.)

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Hitachi Attachments

I did a previous post on one of the best all round orgasm tools ever: Hitachi Magic Wand (go here and get one!! Your welcome.)  This is the most versatile tool for extracting orgasms ever invented. As I was writing that post, I realized that the attachments was a whole other post -- from the variety of attachments to what you can do with them.

Attachments are important for 2 main reasons: 1) if you want to make her squirt -- the attachments really help! 2) If you have more than one girl and are worried about keeping clean...having attachments you can add or remove will give everyone their own toy.

It comes all sorts of different attachments that also work wonders. From a g-spot attachment, an anal probe to an masturbater just for men.
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The g-spot attachment is a squirt inducing masterpiece.

It just snaps on the end of the wand and you're good to go. You can now use it with a slightly softer and more comfortable head...and you can put it inside you to make you cum and squirt. And believe me, you will squirt! ha ha  <evil grins> Now you'll notice that this piece is a bit expensive...but it is worth it in my opinion.  It is made of high quality silicone so you can easily clean it and it will not harbor bacteria and other nasties.  And since you are going to use this a bunch --and you can't easily clean the head of the wand itself...go for this.   The material itself is expensive (silicon is just plain pricey, even if you make your own toys) but there is nothing better to make your toys out of -- just don't use a silicon based lube on it!

If you would prefer green silicon with some fun textured ridges...then THIS is the attachment for you.

Both of these attachments are silicon and both are well suited to both solo and partnered play. And both are nicely curved to help her squirt.

There is other attachments, like this blue one:

And another anal version that looks very similar but is straight instead of curved.  I've owned them both and both worked for awhile then torn getting it on and became useless. Also, they are made of vinyl and so they are porous and hold bacteria well-- even if you boil it.  So if you can, get the silicon ones -- unless you just want to try out the concept to see if you like it and it 'works' for you.

Now boys, don't worry, I also found this attachment just for boys! Of course, it's not really needed. This powerful vibrator just needs to get close to your cock for you to enjoy it...and I have to be honest, I've not used this attachment but it looks REALLY intense to me!  Like crazy so.  If I had a boy slave...I would get this in an instant.



The g-spot attachments are absolutely brilliant for placing an enormous amount of vibration just on her g-spot and forcing her to squirt. I honestly don't know why I haven't seen more of them in porn or on squirt specialized sites.  They know about the  Hitachi Magic Wand but haven't seemed to have discovered the attachments as of yet. Odd, as they are more more effective.

Another thing that's great about the attachments is...anal sex. You fuck her, she's got the attachment in her pussy and it's like you've turned her ass into vibrating heaven.

Also, if you stick the attachment up her ass...it can ALSO make her squirt!! And is really really intense in the good way for anal orgasms.

So, while the attachments are required to have a good time...they definitely add to the fun!

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Hitachi Magic Wand

One of the best all round useful tools is the Hitachi Magic Wand (go here and get one!! Your welcome.)  This is the most versatile tool for extracting orgasms ever invented.  The power and strength of it is unmatched. It comes with a variety of attachments. It can be used in all sorts of different situations and configurations. And it's sturdy, rugged and doesn't require batteries.  If you are to get just one sex toy...get the Hitachi Magic Wand.

This may come off as some sort of add for the Hitachi...but it's not. It's based on literally thousands of orgasms and years of experience...since the 90s  . I've even had 3 of them stolen by ex-girlfriends --that's how good it is.     Actually, 4 if you count Shane who got more than a little too attached to me and one of her crazy demands was: "I am keeping the Hitachi." In truth, it was a small price to pay for extracting myself from her all-kinds-of-crazy (which included wanting me to stay withing 6 feet of her during Pride weekend because otherwise I would end up flirting with other people -- which was technically correct but very specifically nuts!)  I joked recently with Ashlie that I had to take her Magic Wand away -- but I couldn't keep a straight face when I saw how panicked she looked.

So what makes it so good? Well it's POWERFUL! It's a goddamn orgasm on wheels! It is probably too much for the uninitiated. But I've used a bunch of vibes over the years and there's certain frequencies and intensities that I can just touch and know, "Yup. That'll work."  Keep in mind I have an forced orgasm fetish. It's my business to know what works. It's got 2 speeds-- low powerful and high powerful.  They are both orgasm inducing, just one is a lower frequency than the other.  But you need a wall plug to get this kind of power. But don't be fooled --other wand vibes I've used have all sucked in comparison to the original (There may be cheap knockoffs that are good...but I can only confirm that there are crappy ones.)

Oh, and in case you're wondering, it's one of the few vibes that works just as well for men as it does for women.  Hell, it even works through someone else. Try that with ANY battery operated vibe.  I will give a word of warning though...it's so powerful it can numb you fairly quickly -- and Ashlie cried once when I left her tied up with the wand on her clit. I was confused until she explained, "Master, I don't want to lose sensitivity there for you! :'("

It comes all sorts of different attachments that also work wonders. From a g-spot attachment, an anal probe to an masturbater just for men.

The g-spot attachment is a squirt inducing masterpiece.

Actually, the attachments is a whole other post. 

But the main reason to use an attachment is to force her to squirt.  The intense vibration deep on her g-spot will milk her like crazy and she won't have a choice but to squirt....even if she's never squirted before.

Of course, the hitachi is a wonderful tool for forced orgasms. You put an Hitachi Magic Wand  on her clit and she'll be begging to get permission to cum -- and she will come with or without you permission (if you're looking for a reason to punish her.)

That's an hitachi on the end of the pole!

It is great for using while fucking her: she can easily put it on her clit while you fuck her pussy...and she will cum hard on your cock --plus you will feel the vibration strongly too!! Hell, you can feel it clearly while fucking her ass.  (See the article on attachments for more ass-fucking benefits.)

The Magic Wand is also great for using on her when she is bound. As long as you can get it near her clit...you should be ok. Even if her clit has ropes protecting it...the Wand will vibe right through it.   Additionally, do to the shape, it's easy to tie it you things like a broom handle so that it's kept in place, on target the whole time.

Girls will probably get overstimulated by this powerful beast and can go numb so be sure to switch it off and on and also change the speed. And I do mean turning it off... she can come in 20seconds with this vibe. Maybe 30 seconds. So leaving it on for 10 minutes is just cruel.

Good LORD!

Another thing I love about these wands is they are super rugged! I had one for 5 years of regular use before it required an repair (the cord needed replacing as the wires got stretched.). Hell, the one Ashlie uses many times a day is from 2006 and is going strong.   They seem to last forever. Honestly, the biggest risk is the girl stealing it -- it's way more likely.

Also on the theme of lasting forever: they don't take any damn batteries either.  The number of times a toy has slowed due to batteries dying at a crucial moment...it's such a letdown.  But the wand...will outlast your wildest desires.  (It may heat up a bit and need a rest...but that tends to happen when everyone needs a rest.)

I am totally and fully serious about this: this is the best sex toy I've ever owned. The Hitachi Magic Wand  is amazingly versatile, rugged, powerful and the price is almost nothing if you count it by $/hours of use or $/Orgasm...you're still looking at under a penny.  If you are into squirting, milking the squirt out of your slave, forced orgasms or just quality sex toys...get one.

Safety

I have had 2 safety concerns with the Magic Wand. First, how to clean it...especially with multiple girls.  It's electrical so soaking it in water doesn't seem the best...so I've used alcohol and wiped it down thoroughly.  Still...adding a silicon attachment or a condom on the head is the way to go.

Proper squirt positioning

Speaking of water...this is a squirt-inducing-sexual-supernova-of-a-vibrator! I have never gotten so
much as a zap from this ....but goddamn, I wonder if I've been lucky.  This thing can make girls squirt like crazy so try to arrange it so she doesn't squirt all over the main handle. I don't know if they are made to be waterproof -- but they should be!

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Rope Cutters

A lot of BDSM advice, especially for rope and shibari recommends the use of EMS safety shears for emergency cutting of ropes.  These are designed for cutting quickly while keeping a flat, non-sharp part against the skin.  They are way better than regular scissors so don't confuse them with normal scissors (which are not very good at cutting rope...especially in a hurry.)

You can get them here for $12  http://www.amazon.com/dp/B002L9QML4

3rd Best Option

While these are good and pretty cheap, these are very far from the best.  The best would be either a Karambit emergency knife (http://www.karambit.com/safety_and_rescue_tool.htm) for about $50

2nd Best

Or a Benchmade Model 5 Emergency Tool http://www.benchmade.com/products/5  for $35.00

The Best - get it. 

The benchmade is my choice as the best for BDSM emergency cutting tool.  It's small, easy to use and cuts rope extremely effectively.  It also comes with a handy little case that can be attached to the strap  of a rope bag  -which is really perfect as there is no digging around the bottom of your bag for it -- and it is also clearly not a weapon so you can get it past the bouncer at BDSM events in clubs. 

This handy little tool will cut ropes far faster than EMS shears: especially if you are using thicker rope. 

One thing about this though...don't use it for anything but emergency cutting -- you want it as sharp as possible when seconds count. 

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Bargain Bondage -- Clover Clamps

When I found this  I was delighted!  You know those specialized bondage nipple clamps that cost a fortune? Well, they don't.

They are a item commonly used for sewing, known as a clover hem clip.

You can get 1 for $7.25 here
http://www.clover-usa.com/product/268068/22-22-01/Accessories/Hem_Clip_Bird

These hurt like a bitch -- but don't hurt too much or clamp too tightly...they do it just right. :)

You can leave them on for a bit less than 15 minutes and the beauty of these is...they hurt more and more over time. 

Actually, no, the beauty is, they hurt most when you take them off and the blood rushes back in.

I've seen pairs of them sell for $65.   

A great thing about them is...you attach rope to them them and they pull tighter. These are the best for nipple and genitals. I love'em!!  

As far as I can tell, clover is the only manufacturer of this style of clamp (patent?) And the rest repackage them.  Some come in flat black -- which is fairly cheap to do if you know how to powder coat.

If you don't like the string, replace it with a heavier chain.  

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Types of Rope

Common Rope Types

Not sure what material or size rope to use for bondage?


The truth is: there is no right answer! It depends on what you want the rope to do and your personal style.


The most rope materials for bondage are hemp, jute, nylon, and cotton. Hemp and jute are usually associated with traditional Japanese Shibari, while nylon and cotton are usually associated with Western bondage (cowboys loved nylon *jokes* --they actually used hemp.). There are many more possibilities out there though, so try different ropes and go with what feels right!


There are two classes of fibres: Natural and Synthetic.  Natural are plant fibre that are woven into a cord and synthetic fibres are manmade.  Each have their own advantages.

Natural fibers (aka stuff you can dye easily)

Jute and linen
Flexible, rough texture, high friction, low stretch, moderate durability, good strength. Jute is the most popular amongst rope aficionados as the rope snags and catches on itself so it allows for ties simply not possible with slippery ropes. Great quality, can be dyed easily, but pretty expensive.  These are easiest to tie with --but I hate the way jute rope feels. It's all rough and itchy.   Linen is considerably softer.


Hemp
Hemp is the strongest of any natural and most synthetic rope. The fibers are damn strong and it's like steel.  Easy to tie with,  great grip and smells nice too-- very distinct. Hemp is gets stronger when wet (unlike most rope) but it's even rougher than Jute. And it's heavy.   Hemp rope used to be used on all British Navy boats and is just about as durable as you can get. But it is pricey!  Note: I've read places that hemp is not supposed to be as strong when wet and is outdone by many synthetic ropes but this is crap. Hemp is enormously strong -- especially when wet.


Cotton
Flexible, soft, smooth, moderate friction, moderate stretch, low durability, low to moderate strength. This is one of the cheapest ropes out there! Which is great for the wallet -- and horrible for suspension! If you want to do suspension with rope, get specially rated rope that can take over 400lbs.


Silk, bamboo
Flexible, soft and smooth, moderate friction, low stretch, moderate durability, good strength. These feel the best and I think silk is my overall favorite as it's strong, has good grip, reasonable friction and  feels great too.  Bamboo is pretty and feels good too...but both are very pricey!


Manila, sisal, coir
Stiff, harsh texture, moderate friction, low stretch, moderate durability, moderate strength.


I hate these! They feel like crap and stick you and your victim with shards and splinters making life suck.  Slivers in your fingertips while tying is terrible. You'll have to ask your slave how she feels about genital ties with this.   Oh, and they are stretchy in a bad way.

Synthetic fibers

Nylon, paracord, MFP (multi-filament polypropylene)
Flexible, soft texture, low friction, moderate stretch, high durability, very high strength. These are pretty, available in the widest array of colours, patterns and thickness.  They are cheap and easy to clean.  MFP is kinda stuff for my taste. They lack the grip and friction of natural stuff but they are smooth and sweet to use.  Paracord is thin and I like it for certain tying styles.


Synthetic hemp (Promanila, Unmanila, Polyhemp, Hempex)
Flexible, rough texture, moderate friction, low stretch, high durability, very high strength.  Best grip of synthetic fibers but doesn't feel as nice (plastic like).   They are less expensive but it's hard to find pretty stuff.


Polyester, POSH
Moderately flexible, moderate texture, moderate friction, low stretch, high durability, good strength.  This is like the non-stretchy version of nylon.


Generic polypropylene
Stiff, hard plastic texture, low friction, low stretch, high durability, very high strength.  This is that common yellow hardware store rope.  It feels like crap and slips on itself like crazy. Best used for moving and tying stuff to the roof of your car.

Other Considerations

Number of braids
Basically, you have rope in 3 or 4 strands twisted or braided together -- or one solid piece if it's a synthetic rope. Braided rope has an uneven surface that helps with friction.

What? Not what you imagined?

Ends
Whipped, knotted, fused, glued, taped.  Basically, this is what stops the rope from unraveling.
Whipping or tying your ends looks nice but is a pain to do (but tape works almost a well). Knotting works but gets in the way of tying. Synthetic rope can be melted and fused together. Or you can drip the ends in tool dip or contact cement!

How sailors like to whip

Diameter
Thin (under 5mm), average (5mm-8mm), thick (over 8mm). Most bondage rope is 6mm (1/4") in thickness, since it offers a good balance between ease of use and comfort for the bottom. I may be biased though but I think 1/4" is ideal. I don't mind tying with thinner ropes as they  hold knots more tightly, sometimes too much so, but they really dig into a bottom when pulled tight. Extremely thin rope can be used for “microbondage,” tying digits, nipples, genitals, faces although it's hard to tell the difference between rope and string sometimes.  Thick ropes can 'fill' a lot of space in a rope dress and for encasing the sub and will be much more comfortable for her...but let's be honest, how comfortable do you really want to make her?  Also, think ropes make huge, ugly-assed knots!


Length

Pieces (2-5'), Short (10-15'), average (25-35'), long (45-50') Many riggers prefer to keep most of their ropes around the same length. Let's face it, cutting and whipping a new rope for every tie is a pain in the butt.  30' Ropes are a great length for most ties so start off with a bunch of these.   Longer ropes can be annoying as you are constantly feeding it in and out.   Very short pieces are handy for very specific purposes and short tie offs...so I like to keep a few of these handy too (but traditional Shibari riggers have told me that was 'wrong'  and I told them that I don't follow rules.

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BODY BAGS

A body bag is piece of bondage and S&M equipment that is used for enclosing a person's whole body.  it is usually used by people who have encasement and confinement fetish's and fantasies.   They are usually close if not skin tight, once a person is inside they are also built so that the person cannot escape.  Straps and lacing are used to secure the subs arms to their torso's.  Many different materials can be used to make a body bag including leather, latex, or even spandex (if it was made in the 80's). 

Uses: 

Body bags can be used for Surprise play where the sub is completely unaware of what the top is doing or where they are going to strike next.  Body Bags also work well with Temperature play using ice and heat as the sub has no idea which stimulant will be used next.  Long term bondage is also easy to do in  a body bag as most body bags do not stress the body during the bondage it's self.   Body bags can also be great for sensory deprivation, as they often completely obscure sight and muffle sound.   Common enhancements to Body bags are hoods, straps to tie the arms and legs together or to the torso in the arms case.

The best use of body bags is to transport a slave to new locations and they will have absolutely no idea where they are going and being confined -- and the sub will arrive tightly confined and in an aroused state -- completely curious as to where they are.   

Some body bags have a panel that can be secured with snaps or zippers, allowing for the face panel to be easily removed or added.  This is ideal as it allows for communication with the sub and feeding. 

Note: Depending on the material of the bag, it may be necessary to add a blindfold to ensure that no light can be seen by the sub.  It is easy to add a leather blindfolds by strapping it over the eyes and on top of the body bag. 

Effect: 

When I've questioned slaves about such confining experiences, I often hear that they love the feeling of being completely encased: it gives a huge sense of safety and calm as if they were being hugged all over.

Materials: 

Body bags can be made from a variety of materials and each comes with it's own set properties.  They can be made of latex or pvc but these do not breath and so should only be used for shorter time periods. That said, if the sub is confined and needs to pee...latex can take it no problem without being damaged. I recommend materials that breath such as gortex or leather. Leather, of course, can be extremely expensive as -- well, bodybags use a lot of leather.  

This body bag has handy face snaps to lock the face piece in place.

Safety: 

The biggest safety concern with both Body Bags is Asphyxiation.  Most commercial body bags are set up so the sub can breath through the bag -- although some are somewhat difficult to breath through.  The plastic, zip up body bags are for corprses and not intended for a live human to use. Do not assume that you can breath in them as they are a major suffocation hazard. It is both the Top's and the bottom's responsibility to constantly monitor the breathing and ability to breath of the victim.  

The skin also needs to breathe.  If materials are used that don't breathe, then your heart-rate and blood pressure may rise ... but these should not be too significant to cause adverse effects over limited play periods of an hour or so.  I don't know about longer times, however.  Still, every person is different so monitor your sub closely.   If
you want to keep your sub encased for long periods, use a natural fabric that breathes or gortex.

Finally, some people suffer from intense claustrophobia when fully encased which can result in extreme panic -- especially when they can't escape on their own.  This can result is a pronounced 'freak-out' -- the best thing to do is release them ASAP and start by removing the coverings around the face and head to  substantially relieve the sensation. 

Great Priced Body Bag:
http://www.gothic-lifestyle.de/de/BDSM-Artikel/Bodybags/BodyBag-mit-Haube.html

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