Nipple Torture

Yes, these are titcakes!

One thing I love about nipples is...they are so sensitive! Nipples can take a lot of abuse and yet deliver so much pain at the same time...a sadists' delight, really.  Nipples are an erogenous zone for women too...so training her right can make nipple torture all the more fun. You just have to keep certain safety points in mind to play safe.

Nipples are actually designed to be bitten and twisted. Not by me but by evil breast feeding babies...but I'll take that design feature and run with it. ;)  Unlike other parts of the breast, the nipples are remarkably built for abuse. The skin around the areola (come on spell check! That's right!) is one of the fastest healing tissues in the body too.

And if God did want them to be abused so much, she wouldn't have put so many nerve endings in them! The meridian lines goes through the breast for those fond of Eastern practices and the same nerve that connects to the clit...goes through the nipples...so yeah...playing with a girl's nipples is definitely an erogenous zone (interestingly, men's nipple nerves are not connected to his penis.)   So a good little pain slut quickly learns to associate the pain of nipple clamps with being turned on.

So what is the best way to torture nipples? So many ways. You can squeeze them, twist them, squeeze then twist,  and bite them.  But you can also flog or cane them too <3   But my all favorite thing is using clover nipple clamps. The squeeze so tight and hard. And leaving them on over time...it actually grows in pain. Very nice.

You can also do some needle play and put sterilized needles through the nipples for added fun.

She has to keep her legs in the air to stop the pulley from
pulling the rope attached to her nipples

But using a variety of clamps is my favorite thing. I like to see how many clamps I can put on just one breast!



And the best way to take it up a notch is by using clamps attached to the breasts for predicament bondage.  Basically, you tie the clamps off to a tie point where she is in an awkward position.  If she moves too much one way...say an anal hook will pull on her uncomfortably.   And if she moves the other way...a pulley transfers that motion into pulling on the rope attached to her nipple clamps.  That's why I love the clover clamps! As they pull they tighten and squeeze harder!


Another way to accomplish this is add weights to the clamps so they swing and sway as she moves, pulling on the clamps on her tits. So be sure to have some weights handy.  An easy weight is simply a metal shower curtain rod with some metal washers and nuts slipped on it -- all available from your local hardware store.

Do this as often as possible.

And, again, you do want to train her enjoy the pain so it's always best to stimulate her while she's in
pain.  Nothing, I mean nothing, beats a sybian -- so if you can afford one, use that!  And be sure to be consistent with your use of both pain and pleasure at the same time...the first 25 times you clamp her nipples you should be vibing the hell out of her clit and making her cum.

So clamps hurt more and more the longer they are on.  Great. But you know when they hurt the most? When you take them off!! So she can be begging me to take them off...and I'm thinking, "Yes, yes babe, I will hurt you more."  You see, the blood flows back into the nipple and improves circulation to the nerve...meaning it transmits more pain!

Of course, I enjoy explaining this to a slave so she can anticipate the coming pain when I remove the clamp.  And another way to amplify the pain sensation is to rub and massage the nipple immediately after removing the clamp.

One final note: after she cums...her pain tolerance can go way way down so those clamps that felt so damn good a minute ago are now excruciating. So be nice and take them off after she cums. Or not.

Safety
While nipples are fast healing and made for abuse, you have to be careful not to damage the nerve in there.  To protect it, never leave a nipple clamp on for more than 15 minutes. Use a timer and take it off before you hit 15 min.  It's a good idea to move the clamps around more frequently than that anyway as it hurts her more.

I know there are a lot of breast torture videos out there but a word of caution there from a story I heard within the community. A young 21 year old girl was bound and hung by her breasts and, failing to support her weight, tore away from the rib cage.  This added 40 years of sag instantly and I would consider this 'breaking your toys' and a complete and utter fuck up. So, for the love of God don't do that!

Ok, back to the nipple nerve. Sometimes you can place the clamp right on the nerve in a way that is extremely painful to her. If you get it just right, it will hurt like a son-of-a-bitch...but it also can't be left on for very long at all as the nerve can be damaged more quickly like this.  Mostly you can tell by the level of pain and discomfort.  If she normally can take the clamps for 5 minute easily and is squirming and begging to have it off in 30 seconds...you are probably on it. It's a good idea to move it to protect her nerve...so you can keep giving her the pain she craves.

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Orgasm Control

Orgasm control should be a part of slave training.  As a Master, you are in charge of your slave's sexuality. It is that simple.  You are in control of if and when she cums, who she fucks and  how often.  This is an essential part of controlling her very being...and, in my humble opinion, this is what slaves desire above all else.  So be sure to give it to them.

There are many methods that a Master can employ in order to gain control over her orgasms:

1) Forced Masturbation. This a favorite of mine. The Master forces the slave to cum many times a day, every day.  He directs her as to the methods employed (use a magic wand for example) and what kind of porn to look at while she touches herself. Of course, this also determines the number of times or the amount of time she spends masturbating.  I like a number between 20 and 40 for my daily orgasm quota.

2) Masturbation without orgasm. A Master can also have the slave get herself in an constant state of arousal but not allow her any release (except perhaps on his cock?)  This method has the slave masturbating several times a day almost to orgasm and then she has to stop. Or you can make her touch herself for an hour -- bringing herself to the edge as many times as she can...but never being allowed to go over the edge.

3) Tie and Tease.  A Master should also take a hands on approach. So the Master can bind her so her legs are spread and she can't move and then stimulate her (I like to use the magic wand here) so while ordering her strictly not to cum.  She has to hold herself back from orgasm under threat of severe punishment. As you see here about to fail and cum...pull it away -- and maybe slap her face to help her not go over the edge.  

4) Cumming on Command. You can use the tie and tease  method above so that she learns to cum on command too! Make it so she has to wait for you to give the order to cum before she can be released. A wonderful benefit of this is training her to beg for the chance to orgasm. God that's hot!  Do the teasing right and she will be begging you with every ounce of her soul to cum.

5) Forced Shejaculation. If a Master can't be around to watch the fun you can force her to shejaculate (female ejaculate aka squirting). This way, when the Master returns home he can see the proof that she's been a good little girl when she presents him with a bowl of her liquid orgasms.  I like the proof method as it gives her something tangible to work to towards...she is physically creating something she can hold and give to you.

6) Chastity. A Master can also go to the opposite extremes and deny her the ability to cum at all or even to touch herself.  This method can employ the use of devices like chastity belts with a lock on it so that she has no access to her pussy for self-stimulation.  I am not a huge fan of this method as my kink is getting more and more orgasms out of her...not denying her. But this can be extremely effective to make a slave nuts for a few days after she's been cumming 40 times a day for months: the shock of not cumming at all for a few days can turn her into a raving nympho...which is what every Master should aspire to create!

7) Timed Release.  Basically, the way I like to do this is tell the slave a specific time later on in the day that she can cum for you...that she will have to cum in front of you and for you.  Then you order her to go masturbate almost to orgasm 3 times ...while she knows full well that she won't get to cum till that evening at 8pm in front of you. This gets her all aroused and horny for the rest of the day so she'll be thinking about cumming for you all day long.

Safety

A word of warning here. This can and will get very intimate and intense for her. You are toying with the very core of her sexual being and she will become emotionally and physically attached to you -- needing your words and direction.  Do not do this casually with a slave you don't really care about --as it will create an emotionally dependent slave that if you disgard haphazardly, she will be crushed and ruined for other Masters (or at least, those other Masters will have to spend way too much time undoing your fuckups.)   So don't do this! 

I repeat: orgasm control is very emotional and her emotional safety is at risk so only do this with a slave you care deeply for.  This is emotionally powerful stuff here, so treat her with respect! 

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Improving Self-Image of the Slave part 2

[Continued from Part 1]
The best way to improve a slave's self-image is by helping her feel happy.

It may sound too simple, but simply telling your slave when she is pleasing you with her behavior is the best way to improve her self-image and help promote happiness. Whenever she does something that you want repeated...reward her: positively re-enforce the behaviors you want repeated. Clearly let her know that she's done well.

Your slave will most likely come to you burdened with all sorts of ideas of what it means to be a successful member of society: she should have money, possessions and a powerful job. Well guess what? Those things don't fucking make you happy!! It's a bullshit lie that money leads to happiness.  Millionaires and people making $50k a year have identical happiness scores. Material things? Nope. They offer only an extremely short term spike in happiness and then you just have more crap in your house. A powerful job? Well, no...it's not the power that makes you happy...it's the connected-ness with other people, feeling valued and being creative. So let's look at what makes people happy for real.

Top 5 Things that Make People Happy

1. Connection: Family and Relationships 
2. Compassion: Treating everyone with kindness 
3. Caretaking: Looking after others
4. Being grateful for what you have
5. Health: massively influenced by feeling empowered   

And the biggest factor in unhappiness?  Financial stress. (See, this is why we think having money will make us happy! Because we are stressed about it...but the truth is having money just stops you from being miserable: it doesn't make you happy at all.)

So guess what? You are the Master and your fucking job is to make your slave feel happy.  Happiness and self-image go hand and hand. And you job is to guide your slave and look after her.   Luckily, being a slave is one of the most wonderful and simple ways to get happy! Let me explain.

A skilled Master should guide a slave's tonal (a.k.a. mental self-talk) and he can put the slave into a position such that she is free from all financial stress and burdens.  Additionally, he can give her all sorts of opportunities to caretaking and serving and appreciate the hell out of her for it.  He can guide her mind so that she regularly focuses on kindness and compassion. And he can create a solid, safe, secure family type situation where the slave is completely comfortable and confident in her role.

Now, if the Master is vocal of his appreciation of her...she should blossom and her self-worth, self-esteem and yes, happiness should skyrocket. The slave gains satisfaction from connecting with her Master and takes pride in serving and even takes on a special and easy to understand social position amongst the community. Her ability to serve well becomes intrinsically intertwined with her serving and not having to worry about anything else.

Additionally, the Master grows to love and depend on her for her spectacular service -- and it's a real win-win situation. 

The main point is: a Master must create the right circumstances where he reshapes and recasts the slave's thoughts so that her self-esteem becomes linked to serving and gaining the approval and encouragement of her Master. 

The Master has several tools at his disposal to influence his slave strongly and improve her self-image so that she is focused on happiness.

A Master's Top 10 Tools for Improving his slave:

1. Hypnosis
2. NLP
3. Positive Re-enforcement (aka praise)
4. Setting Goals
5. Teaching coping skills
6. Mantras (e.g. compassion meditation) 
7. Visualization
8. Meditation
9. Clearly defined rules and practices
10. Punishment and sexual rewards

I will talk about each of these and attempt to link back to this article and fill these in as the sections are written. 

Ok, I still have more to say on Improving Self-Image of the Slave this will have be....

[To be Continued]

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Improving the Self-Image of your slave Pt.1

Your slave's self-image is your responsibility

First off, before you go running off trying to help and guide others: you absolutely must have a positive self-image for yourself. I repeat: any Master must have a positive self image. If not, it will be super obvious to your slave and any lessons you are trying to teach will come off as in-genuine and inconsistent. (Note: women are 5-10x more sensitive to inconsistent behaviors of men so guys...there really is no faking it.)

Why should a slave have a positive self image? Isn't it easier to control a beaten and broken girl with no self-esteem?  Well, yes...but you then are responsible for a low grade girl who is likely to be miserable.  Besides, slaves can be trained far more easily with good mental health and self-image.  And the whole point of being a Master is to uplift your slaves and improve their lives...and this begins with her internal thinking. 

So after you have mastered yourself, the next step is to grasp exactly where your slave is and how she thinks about herself. She may have an internal dialogue that is completely out of control and feeding her a wonky view of the world and herself. So the first step is talk to her and question her: find out how she thinks of things, what she thinks about and how she feels about herself.  This should be done very early on in her training.

I like to think of the this as guiding the tonal. The tonal is term used by Carlos Castaneda as term for the part of us responsible our internal dialogue and how we see and describe the world to ourselves. The tonal is that internal voice that is constantly talking to us and telling us all sorts of things that make sense to us -- because it's been working with our own personal logic system for all of our lives (ok, since we were 3-4 years old in most cases.)  And this logic system is based entirely on our past experiences alone and can be completely custom tailored to just one person. So the tonal is the voice in our heads but also the part that controls all of our expectations and guides our actions. 

Sometimes I want to do this to a girl's tonal

But our tonal has tons of faulty logic.  Sure, it may say, "Hey! A $50 bill on the ground! Pick it up before anyone else sees it."  But it may also say, "You can't talk to that girl because she's got a blue umbrella on a sunny day. You know what happened last time you tried to chat up a crazy girl like that." ...which is utter non-sense but the tonal only has to be convincing to one person. In fact, almost anyone else listening in on someone else's internal thoughts from their tonal...would probably think they were totally and utterly nuts. In fact, it's the purpose of the Master to help the slave out by examining her tonal and pointing out the crazy stuff she's convinced herself of.

And the tonal is basing most decisions and actions on past experience...on convictions rather than actually observing the current situation closely.  And with this, the tonal determines how we live our lives. 

Now, being a Master, your job is not easy at all. This is not so 'sexy' but rather useful for the slave. But at the same time, guiding her tonal can have the most profound impact on her life -- and on how she lives as a slave. Adjusting her tonal, she can learn to love herself, you, her body and have the most positive self-image possible. She can learn to view her slavery as that best and most freeing thing that could happen to anyone. And she can learn that sex is awesome and cumming all the time and being happy can be a way of life.

Often, certain key events served to shape your slave's beliefs.  It's important to know what those events were and how she views them.  Remember, there is no judgement at all -- your job is simply 3 things:

1. determine the facts of what happened
2. determine the story her tonal is telling her about those facts
3. Determine the result on her life

NOTE:  do not assess the facts with your own tonal and logic system

If she thinks that putting an eggshell in every cup of tea she drinks makes her happy and pretty because her grandmother did it...fine. Facts: her grandmother put eggshells in her tea and now she does it. Story: eggshells in tea make you happy and pretty. Result: she feels happy and pretty.

If you asses this with your own tonal, you probably think this is nuts. You may even want to completely alter this belief because it's so crazy.  But I wouldn't touch it because the result is serving her: she feels happy and pretty.   

And this whole idea of controlling her tonal is results based. 

Of course, emotions play a massive role in the power of beliefs so pay close attention to the emotions and emotional words that come out of her mouth. 

Now a positive self image is important...and getting there is a trick.  You have to guide her and her tonal so that she slowly abandons the beliefs that are not serving her and replace them beliefs that give her a sense of satisfaction, belonging, accomplishment and joy from serving her Master well.  Linking service with feeling pride and accomplishment is key. Then she will want to serve you because service makes her  happy. 

If her tonal is controlled then you control the slave. 

A slave can also learn to let go of all sorts of stresses and negative ideas and replace them with a feeling of safeness...security...knowing that it's not her responsibility but her Master's and she trusts him with her life.  Instead of feeling worried or stressed she feels ease and safe knowing that she just someone else's property. She knows that the most important things are to serve well. 

Additionally, she cannot own other material things and as a result...she is freed from the most destructive cycles and forces in the Western world: being caught up in trying to acquire material things for 'happiness' and showing off your status through your material wealth. Instead, she feels the happiness of being a slave.

Now how do you get to know all about your slave's tonal? Again, part of slave training is removing any privacy she might have with her thoughts and emotions. You are her Master and she can and must tell you all the important thoughts in her head. This can have a profound effect on her -- and help her to trust you more than any other person on the planet.

Many psychologists have patients fall in love with them because they can tell them anything and they listen-- and are not judgmental at all.  This too is your role as a Master. Never, ever berate her for telling you some stupid thing that is on her mind. If it needs to be changed and adjusted, do that...but never make her feel bad about sharing.

All of this promotes openness, sharing, trust and...love.  So take it very seriously and treat this powerful tool with respect.

Wow, I still have a lot more to say on this subject so I will end this here and continue in my next post on the practical things you can do to help boost your slave's self-image. 

[To Be Continued]

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Figging

Figging is one of those things everyone talks about in the BDSM community at some point but it's not exactly common. Unless, of course, the mention it in 50 Shades of Grey or something, in which case a whole ton of noobs are doing it. Basically figging is using a ginger root to punish your slave as the chemical properties of the root can make her...rather uncomfortable. And with the influx of noobs from the aforementioned book (that I really should read or at least get Ashlie to give me the coles notes version)...I am going to write an how to article so you get it right. ;)

First off, eat the figs you bought in preparation for this. Figging uses exactly zero figs. Why it's not called rooting I have no idea. But you can't call it gingering as they have no souls and are already touchy enough about the name. But the practice was originally used to humiliate female slaves in Ancient Greece and later Rome.

This will be a memorable experience and is certainly worth trying out to see if you or your slave enjoy it.

The kinky and repressed Victorians adopted figging as it was common to punish your household servants by caning them -- yes, you could actually hire a hot young maid and then legally cane her bare ass when she fucked up...those were the days. *sigh*  But if she dared to clench her butt cheeks together while being caned you couldn't see her pussy as well I suppose...so the pervs came up with figging. Insert a ginger root into your housemaid's anus and if she clenches it burns like crazy. So yeah, I can see why that'd want to do this. Clenching is fine but I'm down with any sort of excuse to stick things up a young maid's ass before you cane her so sure, "We just can't have you clenching, can we?"

How to Fig:

1) Acquire a whole ginger root.  NOT the commonly available fingers sold in almost every grocery
store. You want the ones with multiple protrusions.

2) Bind you sub so that she can watch you prepare it -- the anticipation is wonderful to see her watching.

3) Cut off a butt plugged shape piece that is around 4 inches long and be sure to cut it above the narrowest part so you have a 'base' to you butt plug.

4)  With a knife or vegetable peeler, remove the brown skin and make it all nice and smooth and even enhance the butt plug shape a bit -- rounded tip, thick middle, narrow a bit and then wider again.

5) Place the aromatic ginger root under your slave's nose so

she can smell it ...then rub some on her upper lip so she associates the smell of ginger with the experience to cum.

6) Wet the ginger plug with water. Water mixes with the oils from the ginger to create all the required lube -- where traditional lube acts as barrier and messes up the experience.

7) Sloooooooooooooooooooooowly insert it into your sub's anus just like a butt plug.

8) Wash your hands...the longer the ginger is on your hands the more it stings and that's just uncomfortable. And definitely don't rub your eyes!

9) Wait and watch.  It takes a bit but you'll start to see your little subby 'responding' and soon she will be giving all kinds of clues as to how much she's feeling.  Enjoy watching her squirming! (You did tie her up well, right?)

10) After about 20 minutes, the ginger rapidly stops working and it's time to come out and do whatever you might feel like doing to a bound girl who's just had a butt plug removed. ;)

SAFETY
Ginger is pretty much totally safe (as far as I know) to use on anyone without an allergy to it.
Check for an allergy and you should be good. It shouldn't do any serious harm to her anus it just feels super intense.

In fact, the oils actually increase horniness of your sub and...are rapidly absorbed into her bloodstream through the anus so she's likely to be hornier now.

The only other risk here is the butt plug end being too thin and breaking off...leaving your sub with a piece of ginger up her ass. This can be a serious issue (just like any vibe or dildo) as if it works it's way back up and touches the bladder it can cause serious and permanent internal damage requiring an external pee bag...which totally sucks.  What I don't know is the odds of this happening...but the risk of getting a forever-pee-bag far outweighs the risk of being embarrassed in the emergency room.

Mindfuck
Tell the sub lots about ginger as you build it up in her mind beforehand. Let her watch, smell and anticipate. Play up how much it is going to burn. Tell her about how incredibly horny she'll become from the oils (this is all true too!)

Advanced Figging
You want to have more fun? While your figging her, use a flat slice of and place it on her clit (cut a small opening if need be to snuggle the clit...what ever gets it to stay in place. She will definitely notice this and the oils will make her clit hard and horny.

You can also insert a long thin piece of ginger up her urethra to burn like mad.  Make sure you have a thick enough piece that won't break off and long enough that you can easily remove it -- you don't want anything stuck up there!! Note: This is crazy intense and she probably will not take too long to pass her limit where you should remove it.

I've heard that if you seal it in a bag and let mold form it's super potent then...but this sounds pretty sketchy to me...as mold and genitals don't seem like the should go together. 

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Top 10 Squirting Lessons

Yes, females can ejaculate. I've done posts on squirting, how to make girls squirt, adventures in  milking slaves and even the science behind girls squirting. But on a more practical level, here are my

Top 10 Squirting Lessons Learned

1) Hydration is really important. So drink lots beforehand
2) Hydration is really important. So have Gatoraid on hand   (replenish those electrolytes!)
3) Press fingers on her labia to make her orgasms last longer and spray everywhere!
4) Use a blow up mattress to avoid soaking your mattress
5) A large, absorbent pad for hospitals can be great ---used underneath towels to catch the majority of it.
6) Rubber sheets crinkle but can save your mattress too
7) Squirt tends to dry clear and odorless
8) Wearing swim goggles can give you a really sexy view!
9) If she tries to stop you because she really needs to pee...you are on the right track
10) Sleeping on the wet spot in summer is awesome for keeping cool and show her just how much you love it.

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Enemas

An enema is the practice of squirting water up someone ass in order to clean it out inside -- as well as for humiliation or for roleplaying doctor/patient and to make the ass nice and clean for anal sex.

I gotta admit, I'm kinda pissed at Blogger for deleting my original post on this and replacing it with some other crap that was copied. The warning was, "all unsaved changes will be lost" so I clicked ok because I didn't want it saved. Anyway, it lost a brilliant, highly detailed and funny post on enemas. And I don't have the energy to redo it as well (the safety section especially...hope I don't forget anything.)

Ok, so enemas involve putting fluids up your slave's ass. Personally, I use water and milk mainly -- about 1 litre at a time.  It's inserted into the anus via an enema bag and gravity. There is no need to use anything but gravity to get it in.

Equipment

You will need an enema bag which is basically a standard red hot water bottle. Then you need the enema hose which screws in to where the cap of the water bottle. This has a clamp on it (which controls the flow of water) and has a nozzel at the end which goes into the anus. (The nozzle should be nice an smooth.) 

Then you will need liquid to insert. About 1 litre of warm water (30C-35C). You can go up to 40C but no more -- and she will need to expel hot water far sooner.

After that, you'll need some lube to put on the nozzle so it slides in and out easily. If you're going to be repeating the enemas a bunch, have some salt handy.

How to Give an Enema

Once you have you the enema bag loaded with warm water and the nozzle lubed, hang the bag up on a hook above your slave. The recommended position is laying on her left side (so the water flows easily deep into her. Of course, you can also put her in a variety of positions from kneeling, all fours and on her stomach with her ass in the air. Do not invert you slave and give her an enema however.

The area where you give the enema should be waterproof/easy to clean and near a toilet. VERY NEAR.

Release the clamp till water flows out -- this is to clear any air bubble out of the line --then clamp it again. If you don't do this...hope you think farts are sexy.  Now you are ready to insert the *lubed* nozzle into her ass. 

Some nozzles are better than others ;)

Now release the clamp and let the water flow in. You may need to wiggle the nozzle around a bit so it's not up against a bowel wall and therefore blocking the water flow. 

You can watch the bottle get smaller as it drains out into her. She may suddenly feel the need to expel the fluid an will *have* to run to the toilet. If this happens, stay out of her way and clamp the tube shut as it will spray water everywhere. 

She may want to sit on the toilet and expel for awhile. Like 5 minutes or more. Fair warning: the stuff coming out of her is from deep inside her bowels and may stink. Personally, I like to flee for this part because I don't like my eyes watering. 

All this said, if it's your first enema, I wouldn't recommend doing it as part of a scene till you know what to expect. 

While she is expelling, you can reload the enema bag with warm water. Add a tablespoon of salt to the bag to prevent her from becoming hyper-hydrated. (Salt slows water absorption through the bowels.)  Be sure to test the water temperature on your inner forearm to make sure it's not to hot or cold. 

Then, basically rinse an repeat. Do it more till the fluid she expels runs clear.

Fluids

Soap -To help clean her out you can use a tiny bit of soap at first (though I have no real life experience with this so look it up) 

Oil - a small amount of oil (eg. a 1/2 pint of castor oil) or olive oil inserted and held for 20 minutes before the enema can help clean her out well.

Water -- the fluid of choice.

Salt Water - great for repeated enemas for thorough cleaning without hyper-hydrating her

Milk - after she's had several enemas an is all cleaned out -- milk can be a real sexy thing to play with and even force your slave to drink. ;) Of course there may be some health risks with this but I choose to ignore them and haven't had an issue ever. Also, milk is nice as it covers up any unsightly brown colors or tastes an seems nice like just milk. 

Fun with Enemas

Of course, enemas can be a humiliating experience they force the slave into a position of no bowel control. They are great for medical play scenes. They can intensify scenes with bondage. And the use of enemas can also have lots of pervese applications involving grossing slaves out with expelling the enema fluids onto each other, onto themselves, and ...into mouths *evil grin*

Safety

There is a lot of safety issues with enemas and though it isn't particularly dangerous if done correctly, it can be dangerous if done wrong. So here are the things to avoid. And I like how all of these safety precautions end.

1) NEVER USE ALCOHOL. Booze is absorbed super fast through the bowel...far faster than drinking it. So 3 shots in the butt will be absorbed far faster than chugging them. I've seen some people do wine enemas and go from sober to puking drunk in a few short minutes. It's too hard to control and the potential for severe alcohol poisoning is enormous. Remember, your body doesn't have a chance to puke to save itself and it hits faster than that. So do not use alcohol ever. (If you absolutely must [you don't!] only use a very small amount like 1 oz. at a time.)  Using alcohol and especially hard alcohol in an enema can be fatal. 

2) DO NOT OVERFILL -  1 Litre is a good amount to fill her. 3 litres will cause intense amounts of bad pain and put your slave into a miserable mood where she hates life. Even if she's a pain slut. Using too much fluid can also cause internal injuries (I'm not convinced 3 litres didn't cause internal damage when I tried it but she was fucked up for hours and I don't think we ended up having sex at all that day.)   Additionally, too much water being absorbed can cause swelling in the brain which can be fatal. 

3) DO NOT USE ICY WATER - Cold water will cause cramps which will suck for her. But very cold water or ice water can lower her core temperature and cause hypothermia and even death.

4) DO NOT USE HOT WATER - Hot water will make her want to expel right away before she's full.  But water that is too hot can scald -- and the bowels have few nerves and worse, it takes awhile to push the hot water out cause serious internal injuries. These internal burns can be extremely serious and considering the environment, can easily get badly infected and worse...infected in areas you can easily see --both of which can be fatal. 

5) DO NOT DO PRESSURIZED OR INVERTED ENEMAS - Inverting puts extra pressure that can be too much...just as pressurizing or pumping the enema into your slave -- and this is dangerous as it can cause internal injuries as well as over hydration which can cause swelling in the brain which can be fatal. 

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PC Muscle Exercises for Men

I previously did a post on multi-orgasmic men as I myself am multi-orgasmic. I'm not really sure how common it is for men but I think it's an achievable goal for most men. In the prior post I explain exactly how to have multiple orgasms but a really strong PC muscle is key. So this post will give men several exercises to strengthen your PC muscle.

A) When you are peeing,  stop the flow of pee entirely by flexing the muscle. Then start again and cut of the flow again. Aim to start and stop the flow 10 times each and every time you pee. This exercise will get you familiar with the feel of flexing the muscle so you gain control over it at will.

B) Now that you've got some control over the muscle, try pushing out your pee and as soon as it starts, stop it immediately with your PC muscle. Then repeat as many times as you can until you are out of pee.

C) Laying down, flex you PC muscle 50 times in rapid succession.  Repeat daily.

D) During the day, flex your PC muscle 50 times in various positions while standing, walking, sitting and laying down. Do 50 reps once per day in each position.

E) Once you've Mastered exercise C & D, repeat them but this time make each squeeze as hard as you can for 5 seconds before relaxing. Do 3 sets of 50.

F) Now it's time to practice with a hard on. So get hard.  Then practice squeezing repeatedly as you masturbate, doing this as often as you can.  Notice how your dick moves when you flex.

G) Flex the PC muscle and hold it while hard and push down towards your feet to resist it. Actually, a better start might be simply holding you hand above your dick and flexing so that your head hits the palm of your hand. Once you can do that easily, move on to pushing down to resist the upwards movement -- making it harder for you. Each time, flex and squeeze as hard as you can for several seconds.

H) Now add weights.  Sling a towel over your hard cock and practice flexing upwards and holding it.  Do 3 sets of 50 reps.

I) Once you've mastered exercise H, try it with a wet towel (or partially wet towel...whatever you can lift.)

J) Now as you masturbate to be hard...try flexing and squeezing as hard as fucking possible for as long as you can hold it. Squeeze as if your life depended on it. Then relax and then repeat. Try to hold it tight for as long as you possibly can before relaxing. Wait several seconds resting before flexing again.

These are the muscles you squeeze and see how
flexing them cut off the semen flow

K) Now you may be ready for the ultimate test of your willpower and abilities. You've been flexing and will take willpower.  Boatloads of it. Otherwise...you'll be coming boatloads. You will probably find it easiest to not touch yourself at all during your orgasm to make easier to hold back at first. With time...you can keep going...and going...and going.  
exercising now for at least a month or two...so try squeezing as hard as you possibly can for as long as you can WHILE you orgasm. The idea here is to stop the ejaculate entirely.  You will cum...just as hard too...but the idea is to have an orgasm without ejaculating.  This

Note: And fair warning...if you give up and let go at the wrong time it can completely kill your orgasm while you dribble out a completely unsatisfactory ejaculation that pretty much blows. So hold it all the way or you risk blowing your load without the payoff. 

Now personally, I prefer to cum and take a small break then go at it again with fresh energy...but if you don't ejaculate the refractory period (the time between orgasm and your next orgasm drops from...zero if you keep going or about 3-5min if you stop for a bit. So yeah, there's that ;)  If you want to become multi-orgasmic.

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PC Muscle Exercises for Women Part II

I recently did a post on PC muscle exercises for women (see my starter post here) and now it's time for some advanced exercises. First off, to clarify, Kegel exercises are exercises invented by Dr. Arnold Kegel and they involve strengthening and conditioning your PC muscles. There are many reasons to do Kegel exercises in order to strengthen your PC muscle: it allows you greater vaginal control for gripping and massaging the cocks inside you (giving you a more magical pussy);  it increases you ability for female ejaculation aka squirting; it intensifies your orgasms; and finally it is an energy pump for tantric practices.

So after becoming learning the location of your PC muscles and doing the starter exercises so that you are familiar with the how to flex them (see this post for the basic exercises), it's time to take it to the next level. The following are some more advanced exercises and the more frequently you practice them, the better.

A) Lay on you back and cock your hips backwards as you relax your PC muscles. Then slowly thrust your hips forward in a fucking motion while taking a deep breath and clenching your muscles as hard as you can. Hold the 'thrust forward' position for at least 5 seconds as you continue to inhale. When you can't inhale any further, relax the muscles as you exhale and rock your hips backwards again.  Repeat this 50 to 100 times. 

Note: this exercise is extremely similar to tantric exercises and if you want to make it a tantric exercise too, simply imagine energy flowing up through your taint (between your pussy and asshole) and flowing up through your core while you flex and thrust forwards.  Then as you relax, exhale and  let the energy flow out of the highest point it got to and flow downwards to your taint.  As you proceed with the exercise, have the energy flow higher and higher through your body with each rep until it is flowing out the crown of your head.
   
B) Throughout the day, whenever you find yourself in a different position, do a set of 50 super intense
squeezes: squeeze hard and hold for 3-5 seconds and release. Do this from every possible position including standing, sitting, sitting cross legged,  squatting, prone, on a bike, and kneeling etc.

B) Kegel Exercise devices. There are a number of commercially available devices that are inserted into the vagina for the purpose of strengthening your PC muscles. They all come with instructions and I think these devices are worthy of another post...partially because Ashlie uses them and I really should talk to her about them and get her feedback as I obviously have no firsthand experience. But the device she has allows her to squeeze it shut and has spring in it for resistance.

They come in a wide variety of shapes and sizes:

Note: the best tool I currently know of for strengthening PC muscles is my cock.

C) Using a vibrator or dildo, insert it up inside you. Then practice pushing and squeezing it out of you. At first you might not be able to move it at all or very little. That is OK. Practice makes perfect. Simply push and 'bear down' an notice how far you can move the dildo.  Practice pushing it further and further until eventually you can push it clean out of your pussy. Then put it back up there and practice pushing it out again.  As you start this exercise you will probably only be able to move it an inch or so with each bearing down so it will take multiple pushes to get it out of you. Keep trying and push! If you can barely move it, repeat the exercise just 10 times.  As you get better and better at it, increase the number of repetitions up to 50 or 100.  Soon, with practice, you should be able to push it clear out of you in one solid push.

Also, some vibrators were designed specifically for the purpose of doing kegel exercises.

Note: if you do this one right, at first you may notice that your pussy is sore and achy a day or so afterwards.  This is simply the muscle fibres rebuilding themselves.  It can feel fairly intense. If this happens to you...the 'pain' is a good thing. It's your pussy getting stronger. Do not exercise again for 2 days (so you are doing the exercises every 3 days only). The pain will diminish each time but it is ideal to feel something...so push yourself so you feel this.

D) This is a variation on exercise C above. Once you can easily push a dildo out of you in a solid push 100 times in a row. ..it's time to add resistance to the exercise.   Insert the dildo and put your hand on the end and resist it while you push out.  Make it so you resist it just enough that you can barely push it out. It should be a struggle. Repeat this again 50-100 times and as you keep practicing this...keep increasing the resistance. You may end up squirting as a result of doing this. If this happens, try to save it as a drink of a lover.

Note: You may find it helpful to have a sadistic fucker holding it in you and spanking your pussy for not pushing it hard enough -- as this can provide incentive to get really good at this exercise ;)

By doing the bearing down exercises you will greatly enhance you ability to squirt and to squeeze your pussy.

It kinda looked like this... but shot over
my shoulder and unfortunately most
missed me.

With one girl I went out with for about several years who was able to i) push my cock out of her pussy pretty much no matter what unless I had a good grip of her and was ready for it and holding myself in. ii) she could squeeze so much that she could make me cum just with the pulses of her squeezing her pussy...and she could grip me really tight (as in, like squeezing really hard with her hand.) iii) she could squirt tons and get good distance too. Once, during a 3-some, she squirted from a laying position over 1 other person who was laying down (this person was eating her out), then over my shoulder (I was kneeling while in said laying down person's mouth) and then it cleared the rest of the bed and hit the mirror on the wall above my head level.

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PC Muscle Exercises for Women Part 1

A great way to increase squirting ability is to exercise your PC muscles.  Female ejaculation is a learned skill and it mostly takes practice and getting used to the feelings of the different muscles. As you gain muscle control, you will learn how the muscles in your pussy feel and learn greater muscle control and awareness when different muscles are flexing.  So using the muscles and practicing moving them...is the best way to become more familiar with them.

So this is the basic steps to start exercising and for women to strengthen your PC muscles:

1) Any time you pee, stop the stream of pee as many times as you can and restart.  Aim for more than 10 starts and stops. (This allows you to get familiar with flexing that muscle. )

2) After a few days of starting and stopping peeing...in the morning or evening practice squeezing the muscles while laying on your back in bed.  If you don't have a bed, lay on you back as best you can in your cage. ;)
At this point, you may find it useful to get a mirror and look at your bits while you flex. Seeing yourself flex as well as feeling it helps cement the muscle memory and will make it easier to control the muscle flexing.

3) Flex and hold for 2 seconds and then release. Wait a second then repeat.  Do this 20 times and do it every day for a week.

4) Now you should have a bit more control over your PC muscle...so start squeezing and flexing 20 times several times a day as well. Keep doing them on you back and while you pee...but add standing and sitting positions. You can do this anywhere as no one can tell.  So that's 3 sets of 20 reps.

These are just starter exercises. Do them for a week or two before moving on to more serious exercises that will enable you to squeeze, give you a 'magic vagina'*  and help you to squirt like a Queen.

[To be continued]

*all vaginas are magic...but guys will call it that by name ;)

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Multi-Orgasmic Men

Here's a topic that I've been fond of since I was around 16 or so: being multi-orgasmic.  I'm not going to lie to you though...I've explained this to a bunch of other guys and none have come back with the same results so I can only tell you about what works for me.  And I think it has to do with having a really strong PC muscle and also a strong will.

So guys can be multi-orgasmic. I know this with certainty because I am. The key is simple -- all you have to do is separate the ejaculation from the orgasm. If you cum and squirt -- you will quickly lose your erection and desire if you are not around 13-16 years old.  You may even want to fall asleep (in truth, the chemicals released by most male orgasms are 7x more potent than Valium...so girls, don't blame the guys here they are being pummeled with a massive dose of short acting sedatives.) But again, the key is having an orgasm without squirting cum everywhere.

But how the hell do you orgasm without ejaculating??? It's actually pretty easy -- in principle. It does depend partially on how strong your will is and secondly to how strong your PC muscle is.  Let's start with the PC muscle.

The PC or Pubococcygeus muscle is the muscle right under your taint (between your balls and your ass.) Of course, girls also have a PC muscle despite their notable lack of balls. But since this is post on multi-orgasmic men...meh. I'll do a post for the ladies later -- especially since it relates to my most favorite topic for female ejaculation and making girls squirt when they cum.  So the first thing you have to know is the Pubococcygeus muscle is really really difficult to pronounce and I will only ever say PC muscle and if you insist, I'll point to the word because I don't know how to say it. Secondly, you use it all the time to cut off the flow of urine. Squeeze it and it stops you from peeing -- and also is the muscle that forces the remaining pee out of your cock and into your slave, er, I mean toilet.

So my muscle has always been really strong so I can really associate with not being able to flex it. I

can squeeze mine as easily as I can squeeze my hand -- and you should too. I've explained this to friends and they seem to want to squeeze their stomach or thigh muscles but...that's not where it is (squeezing your thighs or stomach is like flexing your bicep to squeeze your hand. They are sorta related I guess -- but that's a whole ton of extra effort that is misguided.)

One for the ladies

Hmmm....there are exercises you can do to strengthen your PC muscle and I will do another post on these (I really should make a list of the posts I say I will do!!)  and you will need a strong PC muscle in order to hold back the ejaculate. What I do is as I am approaching orgasm, I squeeze the living-fuck out of the PC muscle and hold it for about 10-15 seconds to stop the ejaculate from coming out. It really helps to not move much or have massive stimulation to your cock as this is going on-- especially as you are learning.

You gotta be a boss.

The other key component, as I mentioned before, is will. Will is required by the truckload to keep yourself from ejaculating.  Why? Because the urge to ejaculate is massive. It feels fucking wonderful and every aspect of your body is doing all it can to make this happen.  So you are going to have to be strong.  If you let up and relax the muscle at all, you will squirt. And what does that mean? Less pleasure for you in the long run. But the orgasm while clenching the PC muscle is just as intense as the one while ejaculating. It's the same orgasm, just one is accompanied by some white liquid exiting your penis.

So you have to have the will power to resist the temptation to ejaculate and the muscle strength to actually hold it back.  Both of these are apparently pretty hard to have according to friends. Some have reported that they squeezed as hard as possible and still shot their load.  Others said they could hold it off for a few seconds and then it came out.  But none have said, 'nailed it!"

It is bar far easiest to practice this while masturbating. Get used to doing it by yourself before trying while fucking -- as that will be harder.  The pussy was designed to suck cum out of you -- yes, you have been warned.

But the benefits of this are massive:
1) you do not lose your hard on -- or at least can get hard again really really quickly.
2) you can cum again and again
3) see #2

So to become multi-orgasmic, simply:
a) exercise the PC muscle often (daily)
b) squeeze it as tightly as possible when orgasming
c) limit stimulation to the penis during orgasm
d) practice while masturbating.

I think that's about it. Pretty simple really. I am basing this whole article entirely on my own experience and didn't research a damn thing except I googled "pubococcygeus" and "vas deferens" for spelling.

Safety:
While being able to prevent yourself from ejaculating is good, you will still 'leak' semen -- especially for round 2 and beyond. This means that while it is significantly better than ejaculating inside her...this by no means is an effective method of birth control.  If totally successful you still will leak live sperm into her and can impregnate her. In fact, the ones that 'leak out' are by far the most dangerous!  Those are like the advance troops...special ops sperm that are the elite of your boys: the sperm special forces. They go in first, behind enemy lines, well in advance of the regular army and are all trained to get the job done.

Note: I'm not making that up. Read Sperm Wars. Sperm have different roles from blockers and killers to deal with enemy sperm to the leaky guys who are the fastest and most virile swimmers.

Secondly: If you practice this without tantric techniques to reabsorb the sperm and energy, it's best
to actually ejaculate at the end. Otherwise it is possible to end up with  varicosed vas deferens from repeated ejaculating into the vas deferens without giving it a place to go and keeping it there (this can happen by only holding it part way back.) But ejaculation cleans the whole system out and will be totally fine...it's just a build up of several days that's a real problem.  

 

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Female Condoms

You might not think of condoms as a particularly sexy thing - especially female condoms.  Actually, not a lot of people have used female condoms nor do they know their benefits.  So I'd like to share my experiences with these as they most definitely have a place in my toolbox.  I will cover what female condoms are, the benefits and downside to them, how to use them and then how I like to use them and why.  

I've only ever used one brand of female, FC,  and honestly, they seem to work pretty well. Unlike regular condoms, they are polyurethane and not latex.  It is basically a clear baggy with a large and a small flexible ring built in.  When put inside the girl, the female condom is held outside by the large ring. The whole purpose is to provide barrier protection by eliminating contact between genital regions.

To use the female condom, squeeze the small ring and stuff it in and deep up her pussy.  So far, I haven't found a really graceful way to do this -- but still, it's easier and more graceful than a male condom --especially because it can be inserted way in advance of use.  The package says you can leave it in for 8 hours with no problem.  You can lube up the outside a bit so it feels better for her -- but I haven't found this necessary as she is usually producing lube on her own.  Lubing up the inside is essential however! It makes sliding in her way easier and also, it tends not to dry up due to the fact it isn't exposed to air. Then, when you are hard, you enter her as normal...just make sure you aim at the big hole. If, under normal circumstances, you can enter her reliably with accidentally going in her ass then you should be fine. (It is tricky, I know...if she wasn't guiding me towards her mouth, I'd go for her nose every time during a blowjobs. Maybe even her ear.)

First off, I really prefer female condoms to the male ones. They feel way way better and the sex feels more natural (for me, anyway.)   Once it is in, you can do stuff like make out with her...get hard...and then, when it feels right, slip into her. So sex feels far more spontaneous and less pressured than with a condom.  With a traditional condom, I always feel like when I get ready to fuck her...I've got a raging hard on and we a passionately kissing to the point and right when my desires is at it's peak-- when I want to enter her most, more in the world I want to be in her...and suddenly I'm no longer touching her at all but looking down at my cock trying to rapidly squeeze it into a little bag. Additionally, male condoms work best with a raging hard on...but if you don't get it on fast enough the stress can make you go a bit softer -- which in turn makes it harder to get on...and next thing you know you are awkwardly struggling and apologizing and generally scoring no points on the sexy scale.  So you're inside her...latex is a good insulator meaning that with normal condoms her hot pussy feels a luke-warm pussy. Oh, and once you get in her, your sensation is around 30% of what you would feel without the condom on  (unless you use a good one...which you really should use...I'll do a post on quality condoms soon.) So less sensation also doesn't help the whole hard-on situation and generally the whole affair loses some of it's magic.

Ok, now let's say you decide to use a female condom...I'll go over the same scenario as before but with using a female condom.  FIrst off, you have to put it inside her. This is the worst part. Why? Because if she's not your slave, you have basically got to get her to commit to having sex with you well in advance -- which adds pressure, expectation and the likelihood of fucking it up goes way up. Oh, and if she's never had one in, you have to do it for her --which is gonna make her more self-conscious and the whole, 'this is crazy and should we be doing this?' factor drops to approximately zero.  Balls. Ok, so you get it in her and lube it up. Now what?

Get her some wine or a joint and take it easy. Give her a massage. When it feels right...make out with

her. Then, when you a filled with desire...enter her and fuck as normal. By now it will be fully warmed up to her body temperature. Also, the polyurethane of the female condom is vastly superior to transferring body heat...so it feels like going in a hot pussy...and the sensation...while not 100% natural, still feels vastly better --worlds better -- than normal condoms. Female condoms feel almost like unprotected sex to me. It so much better that there really is no comparison. That, with the ability to spontaneously go in her when it feels right...makes this a big winner.  I've actually panicked a couple of times thinking that I'd somehow slipped around the female condom and was in her unprotected and impregnating her with overly zealous seed. Upon looking down...nope. It just felt like I was in her pussy bare. This has never once happened while wearing a male condom with the awful and sex-stopping exception of when the bloody thing burst.

Other advantages of female condoms include: there is no latex so people with latex allergies can use them. Guys that have difficulty using condoms and have problems staying hard due to decreased sensation...will fucking love these.  If oil gets on a female condom from a massage it will stay intact rather than self-destruct like latex condoms.  The female condom covers and protects against STIs far more effectively than regular condoms as the amount of skin to skin contact is much less. They are also less likely to rupture or accidentally slip off.

In a moment I will explain the real advantages that make female condoms a godsend. But before I hit that, I gotta list off the downsides.  Once it's in, female condoms look like an odd baggy is sticking out of her pussy (which is the case.)  Girls I've talked to seem to feel about the sensation identically to how guys feel about male condoms (so if you don't enjoy using a male condom...you can give her the same experience so she can understand your perspective. Additionally, oral sex is less fun because you've got to work around the baggy -- or conversely, safer as you can use it as a dental dam and lick her clit through the female condom (so this could be an advantage??)  The other disadvantage is price: they tend to cost about $3 to $6 each so they definitely cost more than most regular condoms.

Now let's look at how female condoms come into their own: threesomes and switching holes! If you are having a 3-some and want to go from one girl to the next safely and easily...female condoms are a godsend.  Simply use two female condoms and bam...you're good to go. Switch holes as freely and as often as you like. The girls don't have to worry about giving each other yeast infections and the like...their pussies remain fully protected the entire time. Want to come up for a quick BJ intermission? With a female condom you can just do it. (None of this: 1) pull out 2) remove the condom 3) go in her mouth 4) get a new condom 5) put the damn thing on 6) go back in her pussy. With the female condom, just do steps 1, 3 and 6...the fun parts.)  If you're just worried about pregnancy (gack, I am!) You can go from her ass to her pussy and back as often as you want...with no risk of giving her a nasty yeast infection or worst as fecal matter is not a pussy's best friend -- with a standard condom, once you go in her ass you are pretty much committed. Hell, even with no condom you are committed to her ass. (Note: to keep Ashlie's pussy safe, I find it best to just fuck her ass. heh heh.)

Another great thing about them is, you can keep it in her for a long time. Say you wanted to fuck the slave off and on over the course of 7 hours.  You could use normal condoms and go through a box -- or use just one female condom and just fuck her repeatedly. The only time I personally like to change female condoms is if I cum in it -- as my little guys like to swim into places they aren't welcome and won't take no for an answer...so it's best to limit their opportunities. 

So in summary, if you have problems with regular condoms or just want a superior experience -- try out the female condom. It's kinda weird but worth it.  Now if you're having a 3-some*...these babies are indispensable and will greatly improve everyone's experience. 

*assuming a 2-female, 1 male threesome.

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