Being Forced to Pee

Being forced to pee  (adding to the "Is it Piss? The Female Ejaculation Debate") 

Many girls are extremely self conscious about squirting because they are worried or concerned about incontinence...yes peeing themselves.  And to those girls, I offer the following stories based on my personal experiences.

Grabbing her by the hair, I force yet another pitcher of water down her gullet. She's squeezing her thighs together and looking at me with eyes pleading to let her pee.  She's never peed in front of me before.  So I have to make her first time special.

I lead her by the leash attached to her new collar and she eagerly follows me on all fours.  She's butt naked except for the collar. And she actually thinks I'm going to let her pee.

Well...I will. But her body won't.

I lead sit her on the toilet and immediately order her not to pee yet.  I order her to spread her legs so I can inspect her pussy. I know it's perfectly hairless because I've already checked...but nothing like a quick inspection while she's sitting on a toilet to really make her conscious of needing to pee.

Then I start playing with her clit. I expertly run my fingers up and down her slit until her clit is swollen enough to deserve my attention. I play with her clit and look into her eyes as she's almost forgotten she needs to pee at all. It's amazing: being sexually aroused makes it really difficult to pee.  Most guys are totally familiar with this...but girls usually are a bit clueless. You see, guys know you can't piss through a raging hard on. Every 13 year old boy has tried...because they happen all the time then...and it never works!


Well, that's not completely true: you can learn how to control the muscles and piss through a hardon. But if you haven't practiced...it's damn near impossible.  The body is designed to eject cum...not pee...when sexually aroused. Guys all know this. Ask them.  The plumbing switches over to the 'cum piping' and the pee valves get shut off.

Women and men have extremely similar structures and plumbing -- as they all develop from the same basic units and differentiate as the fetus develops into a male or female. And so this trick of the plumbing that doesn't allow you to pee while aroused also applies to women.

How do I know? Because I'm a twisted fucker who has gleefully used this on a variety of girls. I've yet to have one slave that could do pee the first time.

So I make her drink far too much so her bladder is ridiculously full and she's dying to pee. Then, as described above, I sit her on the toilet and instead of letting her pee, I play with her.

With her clit swollen and delightlfully hard...I play with her love button while I start inserting fingers up her pussy and start finger fucking her till she's close to cumming.

"So, you really need to pee, don't you?"

A desperate nod and 'yes' usually follows -- or I make her drink more...but I've never had to make her drink more...she's always bursting.

"Are you ready to pee now?" I ask.

"Yes! Please Master,  I'm really worried about peeing on your hands," she replies and I can tell she really believes it too.

"Ok, you may pee now," I say as I pull my fingers out of her but keep playing with her clit.  She struggles and squirms...but nothing happens.  She looks distressed as she finally has permission to pee...and can't.

"Come on, I thought you said you had to pee," I tease her.

"I do! I don't know why I can't!" she explains to me far more surprised than I am.

"Come on, push it out."

She pushes and pushes...but...   well....  nothing.

"Damn girl, I don't think you ever needed to pee. Shall we go and I'll give you an hour or so before we try again?"

"NOOOO!!! Please!  I can do it!"

Hmmm....well, ok. "Ok, I'll give you one more chance, but if you can't do it, you have to drink

 another full pitcher of water before you can try again, Ok?"

She always agrees to this. And she always has to drink another pitcher. Why? Because girls can't pee when they are really aroused. I have no idea why they are so worried about it, ha ha. It's like no girls read that section of their owner's manual. :)

Inserting a waterproof vibrator with clit vibe attached is the next stage in this prolonged pee torture. This can go on another 10 to 15 minutes.  Her bladder should be at about 150% capacity now and she's complaining that it hurts and she really needs to pee...and by now she's getting the idea that maybe I should stop fucking playing her little pussy so she can pee.  Oh, and it's always good to stop for short periods to give her a chance to try and pee...just to keep her attention fully focused on that.

"Do you really, really need to pee?" I taunt her.

"oh yes, please!"

"Then I will make you a deal," I say with a sly grin, "I will let you pee into this pitcher on the condition that you drink it afterwards."

Her eyes widen with horror. Drink my own pee???

You would be surprised at the number of girls I've convinced to have their first experience drinking their own piss this way. You see...they are desperate at this point and will agree to just about anything.  So they might as well agree to something I think looks really fucking hot.

When she agrees... I allow her to pee into the picture but slowing down how much I play with her...giving her longer and longer breaks between touches until she can finally pee. As soon as she starts I can stop the flow at will by playing with her clit again.  She has no control over it.

Suddenly I change my mind.  "Wait. You can't pee yet."  Her eyes widen with shock and pleading! Nooooo! But you SAID!  

Ha ha. "I think you need to cum for me first. I want you to be a good little girl and cum for me. Then I will allow you to pee."

I using the vibe and my fingers, I push her over the edge and make her cum hard! God, I love seeing girls cum...it's like my crack pipe always calling to me!

After about 5 seconds of orgasm I stop stimulating her, "Pee for me NOW! Push it out!"

She pushes and struggles...but nothing comes out at all. "PUSH!"

Nothing.

"You keep saying you have to pee to fucking PEE!"

She pushes and pushes, squirms and struggles and... finally the tiniest little flow starts.  I think of this as the plumbing finally switching back...slowly.

The stream starts to gain momentum and goes from a trickle to a thin stream and as soon as it hits a medium stream...I start playing with her again. :)

This can have 1 of 2 effects: It can kill the stream again; or she will push through it with fear and desperation that I will not allow her to pee more than a tiny amount.

Either way, I insert fingers inside her and then order her to pee/keep peeing.  I don't move my fingers at all...I just like to feel her pussy muscles pushing.

Eventually she pees out enough to relieve her swollen bladder...and fill the pitcher with her clear piss.   This is actually really great for her to drink...for a first experience, it's totally watered down and barely tastes like anything at all... a wonderful introduction to watersports.

Besides...I'm nowhere near finished with her as the last pitcher is still being processed by her system and now she's drinking this pitcher of pee...so the games will continue for some time yet.

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So considering this is a technique I use for my own twisted satisfaction: I say to any girl worrying, "is it pee?" when she squirts... I say, "Fuck no. It's not fucking pee." Girls only think they can pee when close to orgasm...believed me, I've asked them. They all think they can pee and are worried about it. Ha ha. Good luck.  The most I've seen is a tiny dribble that couldn't come close to forming a stream...just running a little bit down her butt crack. And that is actively trying to pee-- with a massively overfilled bladder.  The odds you peeing accidentally are minuscule. I would bet against it every time. No, if stuff gushes and squirts out while you're all hot and horny...it's cum. Congratulations...you are able to female ejaculate.

And no, it's not pee.


Final thought: this is a great part of BDSM training that gets her way way more interested in urine and watersports as the powerplay combined with intense bodily urges is really intense.

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Muscular suggestion with Hypnosis

One of the key advantages a Master has in using hypnosis is he is free to position the slave as he chooses and he can direct her feeling and body with things like electrowands, floggers and nipple clamps...which, when used correctly, can be extremely effective.

Body positions are closely related to emotions and simply putting yourself into a 'wonderwoman' stance for a minute or so is enough to change your brain chemistry and make you more confident. This is exactly why I use certain postures and have trained the kittens to hold them when waiting or being inspected.

And the opposite is true as well. Hang you head and slouch and soon you will be in a far more mopey mood.  So it's essential to straighten your back, keep your chin up, brighten your eyes and smile for fucks sakes! All of these things will make you happier, healthier and enjoy your life more.

There is a close link between emotions and physical behaviours. Carl G. Lange of Denmark was one of the first to document this thoroughly but the recent advances of the past few years have made it undeniable. It changes your heart rate and rhythm, your breathing, your hormones, eliminates stress hormones from the blood...on and on.

And this most definitely applies to slaves and hypnosis.  Once you have induced your slave, change
her position.  Get her on her knees and clasp her hands together like a devoutly praying saint...and have her thoughts directed so she is subconsciously praying to you.

Or have her prostrate herself to you as she tells you all the reasons why she needs you as her Master. Any position commonly found in worship is ideal: kneeling, bowing, laying prostrate...anything that subconsciously sets her mood. Adjust her position and be mindful of it as you progress through the hypnosis session.

This goes also for her facial expression. Under hypnosis, it is very easy to manipulate a slave's facial expression and you can even do so quite directly.  And these facial expressions will evoke stronger emotions within her while hypnotized than they do in the waking state -- yet even in the waking state they can result in powerful physiological changes.



I will give a very specific example so you can understand the technique.  If you are wanting to her imagine something that please her greatly -- say her imagining herself with a lower body weight and being more fit and attractive...you can suggest that she stand like an athelete crossing the finish line first with her arms in a V over her head in victory! As she walks over to the podium to get he medal have her wave to her adoring fans in the crowd with both hands over her head as the champ. Then have her smile as she 'directs her attention down to her body and feels' her fit and strong core.  As she's beaming away with pride...ask her how she feels with her new slim and strong body. Have her desire it greatly and associate these positive emotions and confidence with a thin and fit state that she now greatly desires -- and you've effectively primed her subconscious to want this and move towards it.

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15 Hypnosis Tips

As I have previously mentioned, hypnosis is a wonderful tool for BDSM and training a slave. The use of hypnotic suggestion can greatly improve your slave’s enjoyment of a scene and improve her overall ability to serve you.  (I know, I know, I haven't actually written the How To Hypnotize Your Slave Guide yet...I'm working on it!)

But in order to use hypnosis effectively, you have to understand how to use it as a tool. There are several suggestions (no pun intended) that I can put forth that can you understand how hypnosis works and how to properly use it as a tool.

These guidelines will apply to all hypnosis and not just use in BDSM.

Here are my Top 15 Tips for Hypnosis:

1. Use a script until you are very comfortable with hypnosis. You may find it extremely useful to write out a script that you are going to use with your slave. Beginners often make mistakes when winging it but if you develop a script beforehand, then you can proofread it for errors. After you are more experienced, you will see that the script is just a general guideline-- it’s the phrasing that is of utmost importance.
2. Imagination is key. Her subconscious mind will respond best by actively engaging her imagination and use every sense possible to make it as vivid as possible.
3. Be playful. It is best to be flexible and playful...not ridged. If a certain turn of phrase seems particularly useful...use it! If she hints at something she finds deeply relaxing...latch onto it and use that knowledge to get her to ever deeper states.
4. Belief cannot simply be destroyed...they have to be replaced.
5. Support beliefs with other known beliefs. Prop up new beliefs with as much logic as possible.
6. Beliefs are extremely powerful. If you believe you can’t do something...it won’t matter how hard you try to do it… you will fail.  The belief must be changed first.
7. Strong emotions are great at cementing beliefs. The stronger the emotion is...the easier it is to affix a new belief.
8. If she is expecting to be hypnotized and allowing of it...it will be super easy to hypnotize her. So prime her a lot beforehand and get her to want it to happen.
9. Build on small acceptances and agreements. The more she begins to accept what you are saying or suggesting, the easier it will be for her to accept more difficult suggestions later on.
10. If you can logically convince her that she wants it to happen, add her imagination to visualize it afterwards. This will have a powerful multiplying effect.
11. The longer she can concentrate vividly on a subject, the more powerfully she will accept it.
12. On a topic, the first suggestion given will have the greatest effect on her.
13. Long held beliefs often come with physical and emotional reactions. What her body language closely as she will be communicating with you using it.
14. Never suggest something that could be dangerous to her.  She may be physically capable of more while hypnotized but there is a risk attached to performing physical tasks while hypnotized. So use this time for mindwork...not body work.
15. Your job is to guide her and convince her through visualization and logic. Convince her that she wants it to happen and then help her see how it feels to have that happen.  
    
    
    

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I'm moving to Antarctica

I have decided that I should go do research in Antarctica as:

1) I really should visit every continent
2) have you seen the amount of smokin' hot female researchers there??

Seriously girls smart and adventurous enough to take a job doing research on the coldest place on earth are damn sexy just for that. But damn! Have you seen the shear number of hotties living there? From Fetlife alone the research facilities must be crawling with latex clad ladies!

Now I'm am a little concerned for their health as I've heard ninety-year-olds are way more susceptible to the cold: so why they flock to...well, Antarctica is a bit of a mystery to me. Still, they certainly seem to take care of themselves down there. I have a theory that extreme cold is incredibly good for the skin and is possibly the best way to keep wrinkles and excess body fat at bay. So I'm heading to Antarctica and research my theory.

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Hypnosis Overview Part II

You know you have a bunch to say on a subject when the overview takes more than one post ;)   See Part 1 of my Hypnosis Overview here. 

I want to say to Ashlie if she's reading this that I completely resisted the temptation to give you suggestions of my own making in the hypnotic state. When I did hypnotize you, I asked you what it was that you wished to change about yourself and what your desires were -- and then gave you suggestions towards this.  I don't want you thinking that I have been manipulating you in any way...as that has never been the case. I love you hun! 

Ash, the very first time I hypnotized you (in the condo), I asked you to think about what it was you wanted in life and to list off your main goals that you wanted to achieve --for what you wanted in life. You know what you answered? You said, "I want to be owned and to be a slave: a real slave."  I then asked you, "What is a real slave?" And you replied, "a real slave is just for sex and making her Master happy that way."  --Well, damn... talk about coming pre-loaded with the right software!!! I already knew you were awesome ...but it was at that moment I decided that you were fucking perfect. <3 

Ok, so let's looks the different levels of hypnosis that can be achieved.  There are a couple scales that I know of for this.  First is the simple 3-level scale: lethargic, somnambulistic, and cataleptic.  I like this one as it's simple and gives you a pretty good idea of where you are. Note: If you are wanting to be hypnotised, you may want to skip to the next section so you're not 'over-thinking' things while the hypnotist is working.

Hypnotic Levels

Awake State--  Our normal waking consciousness is still a form of hypnosis. A person tells themselves all sorts of things about themselves, their abilities  and their world...and they are constantly talking to themselves and deeply hypnotized at a fundamental level. Consider the incredible success rates of placebos: this simply wouldn't work at all if we weren't hypnotized into believing our descriptions of the world.  

Somnambulistic State- I think of this as the top level of hypnosis. This level is where you go when the patient has first been induced. Note: I'm going to call the hypnotized person a patient for these purposes...as everything I've read does so.  The patient still retains most aspects of their waking state and may have open eyes and can be spoken to easily. The main difference between this and the waking state is the tone of voice of the responses so listen carefully for shifts in the patient's tonality.  The patient may also be commanded to accept certain suggestions easily here as the patient is most susceptible to suggestions in this state. Of course, the suggestions must be in keeping with the character of the patient or the suggestion will be rejected.

Fun with Ashlie-- I noticed that I could give Ashlie some suggestions in this state that she could easily remember and recite in this state but upon awakening her...she had no memory of this whatsoever. I re-induced her and once again she could recite them easily. 

Cataleptic State-  This state is characterized by ridged body...that can be positioned and then held easily without any effort. 

Fun with Ashlie-- I took Ashlie's arm and raised it in a 'heil Hitler' position without speaking about it whatsoever. The arm was locked in place and didn't move nor waver for about 5 minutes as I continued the session. After this point, my amusement passed and I lowered her arm for her. 

Lethargic State- This state is like knocking a person into a coma. She's still aware but she's utterly non-responsive. This is also characterized by the patient having complete anesthesia and she cannot feel pain. The patient will eventually come out of this state of her own accord and it's important not to worry or panic that you've created a lump. :)

Not so fun with Ashlie-- I grabbed and firmly squeezed and tweaked her sensitive nipple: something that in a waking state would always get a lovely pain reaction.  In the Lethargic state...nothing. No change in facial expression...it seemed that she didn't notice it in the slightest.

Who is susceptible to hypnosis?

Personally, I've found ever single sub I've had to be highly susceptible to hypnosis.  I think subs are, by their very nature, the best subjects to hypnotize. They happily follow orders and like to give up control -- so in a BDSM scenario...subs seem to go under super easily.  

This is also helped massively by the added level trust between Master and slave. Additionally, unlike most hypnosis...touching and pain are allowed.  This allows for giving commands, suggestions and orders to notice certain 'feelings' that are super clear...and help to induce the slave extremely effectively. 

For example, a normal hypnotist might say, "Notice the weight of your body pressing down against the chair. Feel how it conforms to your shape. This causes you to feel more relaxed."   Well, it's way more effective to guide her attention if you can actually touch her body and cause her to feel different things and then assign meaning to it.

Joseph Friedlander and Theodore Sarbin came up with a series of tests in 1938 to test a subject's susceptibility to hypnosis. Basically, you induce them with a standard hypnotic induction and give them the following suggestions in order.  The higher level she reaches, the more susceptible she is to suggestion.  

	Item Number	Test Suggestion and Responses
	1	Postural Sway
	2	Eye Closure
	3	Hand Lowering (left)
	4	Immobilization (right arm)
	5	Finger Lock
	6	Arm Rigidity (left arm)
	7	Hands Moving Together
	8	Verbal Inhibition (name)
	9	Hallucination (fly)
	10	Eye catalepsy
	11	Post-hypnotic (changes chairs)
	12	Amnesia

Most successful hypnosis depends on 2 factors: trust in the hypnotist and  no fear or resistance to being hypnotized.  The patient has to trust you and want to be hypnotized (or at least not be resisting you) in order for this to work.  Even someone highly susceptible to hypnosis can score a 0 or 1 on the above scale if they are thinking to themselves, "Fuck that. I hate this dude and don't trust him at all. I'm not going to follow his suggestions." 

Now some people fear hypnosis simply because they don't understand it -- and this can be a huge factor in encountering resistance. So it's important for the hypnotist to discuss the process with the patient beforehand so she feels comfortable and safe with it.

Common concerns are are losing control of her mind (no, only you can choose be become a slave...it can't be induced by hypnotic suggestion) and will I ever come out of hypnosis (yes, always. Unless you're the first recorded patient that doesn't...heh heh.)

But the people that are most susceptible to hypnosis are, surprisingly, people in a lot of pain.  Why? Because they realize it is VERY MUCH in their interest to be hypnotized to stop the fucking pain.  So they get on board so easily.  This is something being employed at some (but not nearly enough) hospitals and used extremely effectively on patients that cannot be given traditional anesthetics -- which is most common in emergency situations requiring surgery.

Allow me to illustrate this point with a personal example from around the year 2001-2002ish:

A cyclist in Toronto tried to deek past the front of a streetcar and got hit by it: breaking his leg.  I was cycling nearby and witnessed the incident.  He was laying on the ground and seemed like he was in excruciating pain. Someone called 911 for an ambulance and, since it was a warm day in the summer -- I didn't think getting blankets would help nearly as much as hypnosis.  I told him I was a trained hypnotist and, with his permission, I would like to induce a hypnotic state in order to remove the pain.  He quickly agreed. I induced him in record time...under a minute. And then looked into his eyes and said, "The pain is gone NOW." And he immediately was relieved.  "Good, this relaxed state will help you heal faster."  I honestly was quite surprised as to how fast and effective it was. A shot of morphine couldn't have been more effective. I spoke about how he was safe now and that he would soon see doctors who would fix and fully heal his leg until the ambulance arrived. 

I told the ambulance attendants that I had hypnotized him to remove the pain and they looked at me like I was completely batshit crazy and promptly pushed me away saying something to the effect of, "Please stand back: way way over there. We will take it from here."   

Safety:

This is a biggie. Is it safe? It totally depends. Is doing suspension bondage safe? It depends. Does the person know what they are doing or are they a total noob? I think of hypnosis in the same category as suspension bondage.  You have to learn a lot and train yourself -- study the safety risks and common errors -- before you attempt it and even then start slow. 

I will go way more in depth on this later...this is just a general caution to read WAY more and be responsible.

But the biggest safety rule here:  Never, ever give suggestions to feel less pain in BDSM situations.  This is the equivalent of giving her prescription pain-killers just before a scene...and you want her fully able to feel her body so she can help you keep her safe.

Secondly, DO NOT explore past highly emotional events without being properly trained (or conversely, don't let someone do this to you they haven't been properly trained.) You can really fuck up someone this way. 

Self-Hypnosis

Basically, you can't be forced to do anything under hypnosis that you wouldn't do in a waking state. The sub is always in control here ...at a fundamental level.  Just like she is in control in that she can use her safeword to stop the scene at any time.  So hypnosis is and must be consensual. 

I believe we are all acting in some level of 'hypnosis' at all times and our normal waking state is simply the highest and lightest level of hypnosis. We do things because we tell ourselves to do them.  So training an transforming a sub into a slave involves convincing her that this is how she wants to choose to be. 

As a Master, you can facilitate this and help guide her and her thoughts so that she is willing. But ultimately, she has to hypnotize herself and dive in.

But getting on board, not resisting and not trying to control the experience are all key in making this happen. 

How to use Hypnosis

As a Master, I look to hypnosis as a great tool to see how my little pets are thinking and making sure that they are happy. Hypnosis can be used to transform negative habits sure, but it can also be used to strip off her conscious defenses and look at her real emotions and past traumas and how they are influencing her current thinking.  Number one: hypnosis can be used to make things easier for your slave: you can alleviate stress, make it easier for her to achieve her goals and enhance her self-image.   

The steps are:

1) Recognize the problem or behavior you wish to change

2) Determine the belief that is causing the behaviour

3) Remove the faulty belief by replacing it with one that better serves her

4) Visualize the new belief taking hold in her life -- rehearsing specific interactions in her mind

5) Reinforce the new behaviour in her life

6) Monitor the effect the new belief is having on her life and make sure that she is not developing any new behaviours (which is a transference of the underlying cause, which was ineffectively addressed, that caused the old behaviour switching over to a new one. If this happens, you have to go back in and find the real cause and address that. 

To me, hypnosis is a great bonding tool, that has brought me far closer to my slaves and it's tremendously effective.   It can be used for healing and improving your slave and so, when used correctly, it's the best tool a Master has for training his slave...not just training as a slave: for training her in life.

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Hypnosis Overview

Hypnosis is one of the most powerful tools in my chest. Why? Because it can control her mind and her thoughts.  Mindfucking is always the best.  Hell, the mind is the biggest erogenous zone by far.  Control that she's perma-wet.  Or at least moist ;)

Goddamn...I have so much to say on this it's hard to even begin: but there's no way in hell this will be a single post.  It will be a series. 

For me, using hypnosis seems natural for slave training.  The mind and body are intricately interlinked and you can directly effect how your slave views the world.  Hypnosis also allows for direct suggestions to be made to the slave that can dramatically improve her life, help her quit smoking, lose weight, overcome anxiety, relieve pain, reduce headaches and stop procrastinating...for starters. Of course, you could also use it to make her more sensitive, erotic and boldly sexual ;)  There is also the possibility of placing post-hypnotic suggestion in her mind that will act as triggers down the road. Basically...this is a way to access her mainframe and rewrite her programming.  

Hint: how does she count?

Now because you can do this doesn't mean you should.  A Master must respect this tool and always keep the well being of his slave first and foremost in his thoughts.  I learned hypnosis mostly from a licensed hypnotherapist and there was tons of discussion on the ethics involved. So I will pass some of that onto you as well.

Now hypnotizing someone is both an art and a science.  Hypnotizing your slave is art, science, chemistry, and dancing.  If she is willing to trust you completely...to give her mind over to you completely...there is potential to put her so deep into hypnotic states that a therapist rarely achieves. If you are lucky and blessed enough to have a wonderful and truly submissive (like <3 Ashlie <3 ) then you can touch her very soul. 

So if you don't truly love and want to keep your slave for a long long time...don't fuck with her and don't use hypnosis. 

As a Master, you must take care and be super mindful of everything you say while she is hypnotized as you have an opportunity to remove her bad habits and encourage her at a fundamental level -- and as I said before, this is the most effective training tool. 

I think this post will be a simple overview of what hypnosis is without getting too deep into techniques, ethics and such. But the main idea is: you can use hypnosis to help your slave see and envision herself in the life that she deeply desires to live.  You can improve her behaviors, self-image and thoughts so she is much more satisfied with life. And you can use hypnosis to take the place of actual training where it will have the effect of the most successful training session.  She can visualize herself 'as if' she's been fully trained and how that will make her feel: creating a desire to be fully trained.

A master can also use regression type therapy to get a handle on her various actions and even her sexuality and learn exactly what makes her tick.  And those parts that lead to a poor self-image? Nuke them at their core.

Of course, hypnosis is no replacement for actual training...as why the fuck would I ever give that up?? Absolutely not. Real life training is essential.  But if you hit stumbling blocks, resistance or want to take things to the next level, hypnosis is the way to go.

Now let's cover exactly what hypnosis is and isn't:

1. Hypnosis is NOT mind control.

Hypnosis is the giving over of one's mind and allowing the hypnotist to direct your thoughts for you.  But if the hypnotist tells you to go kill your brother -- it will immediately snap you out of the trance and you will resist the suggestion entirely. Why? Because you don't fucking want to kill your brother! Nothing is going to change that. You can only change that which the slave desires to change.

You have to work with your slave and get her on board with any suggestion...or you will fail to put her under or keep her there.

2. Hypnosis is simply guiding the internal voice inside someone's head. So you can only work within the confines of what they are willing to accept. Cross the line and you will pop her out of it. So being a skilled hypnotist involves developing trust with your slave -- and testing her, coaching her, questioning her and carefully feeling her out before moving to give a suggestion that could potentially pull her out of it. But if you succeed...you can bring her deeper down into even more suggestible states. 

3. It has been argued that all hypnosis is essentially self-hypnosis and even that we are all hypnotized all through our lives from the age of about 3 or so when we start to believe all the things everyone tells us about the world.

4. Being hypnotized doesn't feel any different. Hell, I've had people so deep that they could not feel any pain whatsoever nor even register that I was hurting them...and yet they claimed they 'felt normal' the entire time.  So don't bother analyzing the state and trying to figure out if you have been hypnotized or not -- and don't waste distracted thoughts on  things like, "Do I feel different now?"

5. You cannot force it on someone. In fact, trying to force it will practically guarantee you bring them out of the state or at least up to a higher level. It can only be done effectively with trust. The more the better. She must be willing to cooperate with you. 

6. Hypnosis is a way to talk to the subconscious mind.  You can bypass the filters and critical thinking that is normally overlaid on your actual thoughts....and so hypnosis is really useful to have a deep conversation with the real and true slave-- not the girl that she is projecting out to the world. 

7. Hypnosis makes it far easier to accept suggestions.  You are talking to the subconscious mind. Get it on board and then say, 'hey, wouldn't to be better if..." and she agrees, she's in. She adopts the suggestion at a much deeper level and is way more likely to follow through with it...and remember it even when she doesn't consciously think about it. Basically, the subconscious mind is lazy and will just accept change without wanting to work for it ;)

8. The rational mind (aka normal waking consciousness) spends all kinds of time thinking about right and wrong, different paths to take and problem solving. It is very flexible...but it has no clear idea of what you want or why. 

9. The subconscious mind just is...it's the part of you that makes you YOU. If you want to feel love and pleasure all day long....it will guide you towards that unceasingly and provide every opportunity to make that happen. It is also made for visualizing and envisioning the future...it's the part that shapes your true desires. Oh, and it's also the source of all your emotions too. There's that. All your habits, core beliefs and deepest memories are stored here.

10. Your inner thinking and lifestyle are governed by the subconscious mind.  So you don't need willpower --you need to get the subconscious mind on board so that it wants the change...and the rest is easy. Help her mind to imagine a reality that she deeply desires...and you practically done.

So this is the beginning of my overview of hypnosis. I'll talk more on how and why it works, give tips and specifically how to use it in slave training.

[To Be Continued]

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Improving Self-Image of the Slave part 2

[Continued from Part 1]
The best way to improve a slave's self-image is by helping her feel happy.

It may sound too simple, but simply telling your slave when she is pleasing you with her behavior is the best way to improve her self-image and help promote happiness. Whenever she does something that you want repeated...reward her: positively re-enforce the behaviors you want repeated. Clearly let her know that she's done well.

Your slave will most likely come to you burdened with all sorts of ideas of what it means to be a successful member of society: she should have money, possessions and a powerful job. Well guess what? Those things don't fucking make you happy!! It's a bullshit lie that money leads to happiness.  Millionaires and people making $50k a year have identical happiness scores. Material things? Nope. They offer only an extremely short term spike in happiness and then you just have more crap in your house. A powerful job? Well, no...it's not the power that makes you happy...it's the connected-ness with other people, feeling valued and being creative. So let's look at what makes people happy for real.

Top 5 Things that Make People Happy

1. Connection: Family and Relationships 
2. Compassion: Treating everyone with kindness 
3. Caretaking: Looking after others
4. Being grateful for what you have
5. Health: massively influenced by feeling empowered   

And the biggest factor in unhappiness?  Financial stress. (See, this is why we think having money will make us happy! Because we are stressed about it...but the truth is having money just stops you from being miserable: it doesn't make you happy at all.)

So guess what? You are the Master and your fucking job is to make your slave feel happy.  Happiness and self-image go hand and hand. And you job is to guide your slave and look after her.   Luckily, being a slave is one of the most wonderful and simple ways to get happy! Let me explain.

A skilled Master should guide a slave's tonal (a.k.a. mental self-talk) and he can put the slave into a position such that she is free from all financial stress and burdens.  Additionally, he can give her all sorts of opportunities to caretaking and serving and appreciate the hell out of her for it.  He can guide her mind so that she regularly focuses on kindness and compassion. And he can create a solid, safe, secure family type situation where the slave is completely comfortable and confident in her role.

Now, if the Master is vocal of his appreciation of her...she should blossom and her self-worth, self-esteem and yes, happiness should skyrocket. The slave gains satisfaction from connecting with her Master and takes pride in serving and even takes on a special and easy to understand social position amongst the community. Her ability to serve well becomes intrinsically intertwined with her serving and not having to worry about anything else.

Additionally, the Master grows to love and depend on her for her spectacular service -- and it's a real win-win situation. 

The main point is: a Master must create the right circumstances where he reshapes and recasts the slave's thoughts so that her self-esteem becomes linked to serving and gaining the approval and encouragement of her Master. 

The Master has several tools at his disposal to influence his slave strongly and improve her self-image so that she is focused on happiness.

A Master's Top 10 Tools for Improving his slave:

1. Hypnosis
2. NLP
3. Positive Re-enforcement (aka praise)
4. Setting Goals
5. Teaching coping skills
6. Mantras (e.g. compassion meditation) 
7. Visualization
8. Meditation
9. Clearly defined rules and practices
10. Punishment and sexual rewards

I will talk about each of these and attempt to link back to this article and fill these in as the sections are written. 

Ok, I still have more to say on Improving Self-Image of the Slave this will have be....

[To be Continued]

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Figging

Figging is one of those things everyone talks about in the BDSM community at some point but it's not exactly common. Unless, of course, the mention it in 50 Shades of Grey or something, in which case a whole ton of noobs are doing it. Basically figging is using a ginger root to punish your slave as the chemical properties of the root can make her...rather uncomfortable. And with the influx of noobs from the aforementioned book (that I really should read or at least get Ashlie to give me the coles notes version)...I am going to write an how to article so you get it right. ;)

First off, eat the figs you bought in preparation for this. Figging uses exactly zero figs. Why it's not called rooting I have no idea. But you can't call it gingering as they have no souls and are already touchy enough about the name. But the practice was originally used to humiliate female slaves in Ancient Greece and later Rome.

This will be a memorable experience and is certainly worth trying out to see if you or your slave enjoy it.

The kinky and repressed Victorians adopted figging as it was common to punish your household servants by caning them -- yes, you could actually hire a hot young maid and then legally cane her bare ass when she fucked up...those were the days. *sigh*  But if she dared to clench her butt cheeks together while being caned you couldn't see her pussy as well I suppose...so the pervs came up with figging. Insert a ginger root into your housemaid's anus and if she clenches it burns like crazy. So yeah, I can see why that'd want to do this. Clenching is fine but I'm down with any sort of excuse to stick things up a young maid's ass before you cane her so sure, "We just can't have you clenching, can we?"

How to Fig:

1) Acquire a whole ginger root.  NOT the commonly available fingers sold in almost every grocery
store. You want the ones with multiple protrusions.

2) Bind you sub so that she can watch you prepare it -- the anticipation is wonderful to see her watching.

3) Cut off a butt plugged shape piece that is around 4 inches long and be sure to cut it above the narrowest part so you have a 'base' to you butt plug.

4)  With a knife or vegetable peeler, remove the brown skin and make it all nice and smooth and even enhance the butt plug shape a bit -- rounded tip, thick middle, narrow a bit and then wider again.

5) Place the aromatic ginger root under your slave's nose so

she can smell it ...then rub some on her upper lip so she associates the smell of ginger with the experience to cum.

6) Wet the ginger plug with water. Water mixes with the oils from the ginger to create all the required lube -- where traditional lube acts as barrier and messes up the experience.

7) Sloooooooooooooooooooooowly insert it into your sub's anus just like a butt plug.

8) Wash your hands...the longer the ginger is on your hands the more it stings and that's just uncomfortable. And definitely don't rub your eyes!

9) Wait and watch.  It takes a bit but you'll start to see your little subby 'responding' and soon she will be giving all kinds of clues as to how much she's feeling.  Enjoy watching her squirming! (You did tie her up well, right?)

10) After about 20 minutes, the ginger rapidly stops working and it's time to come out and do whatever you might feel like doing to a bound girl who's just had a butt plug removed. ;)

SAFETY
Ginger is pretty much totally safe (as far as I know) to use on anyone without an allergy to it.
Check for an allergy and you should be good. It shouldn't do any serious harm to her anus it just feels super intense.

In fact, the oils actually increase horniness of your sub and...are rapidly absorbed into her bloodstream through the anus so she's likely to be hornier now.

The only other risk here is the butt plug end being too thin and breaking off...leaving your sub with a piece of ginger up her ass. This can be a serious issue (just like any vibe or dildo) as if it works it's way back up and touches the bladder it can cause serious and permanent internal damage requiring an external pee bag...which totally sucks.  What I don't know is the odds of this happening...but the risk of getting a forever-pee-bag far outweighs the risk of being embarrassed in the emergency room.

Mindfuck
Tell the sub lots about ginger as you build it up in her mind beforehand. Let her watch, smell and anticipate. Play up how much it is going to burn. Tell her about how incredibly horny she'll become from the oils (this is all true too!)

Advanced Figging
You want to have more fun? While your figging her, use a flat slice of and place it on her clit (cut a small opening if need be to snuggle the clit...what ever gets it to stay in place. She will definitely notice this and the oils will make her clit hard and horny.

You can also insert a long thin piece of ginger up her urethra to burn like mad.  Make sure you have a thick enough piece that won't break off and long enough that you can easily remove it -- you don't want anything stuck up there!! Note: This is crazy intense and she probably will not take too long to pass her limit where you should remove it.

I've heard that if you seal it in a bag and let mold form it's super potent then...but this sounds pretty sketchy to me...as mold and genitals don't seem like the should go together. 

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