Mastering Power

The source of a Master's power comes from many forms...but the most important form is being awesome. But there are several key areas that must be addressed in what makes a Master a Master...so I will discuss the source of a Masters power and authority. A Master draws his power from his specialized knowledge, his creativity, from his ability to predict his slave's emotional responses, confidence, from his ability to reward or punish, from agreements you have with your master, and from just plain sex appeal. 

Specialized Knowledge.  A Master requires so much more knowledge and specialized skills over any other typical relationship that's its ridiculous to compare the two. A Master may learn about flogging techniques, rope bondage, fire play, figging, watersports, enemas, electrical play, squirting techniques, mental bondage, hypnosis, needles and bloodplay for a brief list off the top of my head.  And he has to know these well enough to perform them with confidence and safely. So yeah, his specialized knowledge is a big source of power. He can do things to her that other guys haven't even seen done in porn vids.  And her craving this...is a source of his power.

Creativity. Let's face it, Masters are usually of above average intelligence and their kinky minds are always turning and figuring out great new ways to be deviant. A slave that gets used to the perverse variety oozing from her Master's soul soon grows addicted to the new and interesting things her Master is constantly trying on her. Variety is the spice of life and a good Master is always switching it up (no pun intended.)


Ability to predict his slave's state. A good Master is predictive of his slave's mental and emotional state and is always aware of it.  As he learns her ins and outs, he soon begins to play her like a violin -- calculating the effects and changes to her state from each action...playing with her (while learning more about her.) All of this attention and slave specific knowledge becomes are massive powerbase.

Confidence.  A Master must be confident in his own abilities and more importantly, express this confidence. A Master should exude confidence.  I will give a specific article to illustrate this point. This is from my most favorite magazine, New Scientist and it is an article call, Humans Prefer Cockiness to Expertise.  In it, it explains that the vast majority of people will go with the most assured and confident opinion holder over the guy who admits his right answer may be wrong. So scientists who says, "Well, no, I can say for sure that global warming has been caused by these factors" gets totally gunned down by a cocky son-of-a-bitch who is sure it's all bullshit! The difference is, the scientist is completely convinced internally because there's a 99% chance that it's true and all the evidence points that way -- but he's a trained scientist and so always has doubt. Meanwhile, the cocky son-of-a-bitch thought about it for 10 seconds and decided it was wrong. But he can convince 80% of the people to believe him because he has astounding confidence.   It doesn't matter the subject, people always choose the person with confidence over the guy with the facts (and the right answer.) Consider that when you want people to follow you. Confidence is social power.

Rewards.  Ahhhh, the sweet honey of power. Positive reinforcement through rewards and controlling what the slave desires most...and then giving it to her if she's good. That's powerful.

Punishment.  Yes, you can also wield power over a slave through the coercive power of inflicting punishment. However, a lot of noobs and rookie Doms think this is the key to their power...and it is, in my opinion, one of the least powerful forms of power a Dom has. Unless you're a dick who is into abusive relationships and trying to bully and control the girl that way. But generally speaking, having a slave fear and hate you -- is not the kind of slave relationship that really lights my fire. So I use this power sparingly. (Note: I am a bit of sadist so...not that sparingly. ha ha.) 

Agreements. A Master and slave can enter into contracts where they both agree to certain standards and practices...and this too can be a form of power.  Hell, a Master can even get Power of Attorney over his slave...which is a very real legal form of power. So holding your slave to the agreements and commitments she's made to you can be a great way to inspire her to get to the next level...and this is a power you can hold over her.

Sex Appeal. A Master can also so damn sexy and attractive that the slave will gush and want to do anything to please him. I won't speak on how to achieve this state...but if you have it, goddamn it's powerful as you control so much of the slave's actions just based on her desire to please you. 

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Being Forced to Pee

Being forced to pee  (adding to the "Is it Piss? The Female Ejaculation Debate") 

Many girls are extremely self conscious about squirting because they are worried or concerned about incontinence...yes peeing themselves.  And to those girls, I offer the following stories based on my personal experiences.

Grabbing her by the hair, I force yet another pitcher of water down her gullet. She's squeezing her thighs together and looking at me with eyes pleading to let her pee.  She's never peed in front of me before.  So I have to make her first time special.

I lead her by the leash attached to her new collar and she eagerly follows me on all fours.  She's butt naked except for the collar. And she actually thinks I'm going to let her pee.

Well...I will. But her body won't.

I lead sit her on the toilet and immediately order her not to pee yet.  I order her to spread her legs so I can inspect her pussy. I know it's perfectly hairless because I've already checked...but nothing like a quick inspection while she's sitting on a toilet to really make her conscious of needing to pee.

Then I start playing with her clit. I expertly run my fingers up and down her slit until her clit is swollen enough to deserve my attention. I play with her clit and look into her eyes as she's almost forgotten she needs to pee at all. It's amazing: being sexually aroused makes it really difficult to pee.  Most guys are totally familiar with this...but girls usually are a bit clueless. You see, guys know you can't piss through a raging hard on. Every 13 year old boy has tried...because they happen all the time then...and it never works!


Well, that's not completely true: you can learn how to control the muscles and piss through a hardon. But if you haven't practiced...it's damn near impossible.  The body is designed to eject cum...not pee...when sexually aroused. Guys all know this. Ask them.  The plumbing switches over to the 'cum piping' and the pee valves get shut off.

Women and men have extremely similar structures and plumbing -- as they all develop from the same basic units and differentiate as the fetus develops into a male or female. And so this trick of the plumbing that doesn't allow you to pee while aroused also applies to women.

How do I know? Because I'm a twisted fucker who has gleefully used this on a variety of girls. I've yet to have one slave that could do pee the first time.

So I make her drink far too much so her bladder is ridiculously full and she's dying to pee. Then, as described above, I sit her on the toilet and instead of letting her pee, I play with her.

With her clit swollen and delightlfully hard...I play with her love button while I start inserting fingers up her pussy and start finger fucking her till she's close to cumming.

"So, you really need to pee, don't you?"

A desperate nod and 'yes' usually follows -- or I make her drink more...but I've never had to make her drink more...she's always bursting.

"Are you ready to pee now?" I ask.

"Yes! Please Master,  I'm really worried about peeing on your hands," she replies and I can tell she really believes it too.

"Ok, you may pee now," I say as I pull my fingers out of her but keep playing with her clit.  She struggles and squirms...but nothing happens.  She looks distressed as she finally has permission to pee...and can't.

"Come on, I thought you said you had to pee," I tease her.

"I do! I don't know why I can't!" she explains to me far more surprised than I am.

"Come on, push it out."

She pushes and pushes...but...   well....  nothing.

"Damn girl, I don't think you ever needed to pee. Shall we go and I'll give you an hour or so before we try again?"

"NOOOO!!! Please!  I can do it!"

Hmmm....well, ok. "Ok, I'll give you one more chance, but if you can't do it, you have to drink

 another full pitcher of water before you can try again, Ok?"

She always agrees to this. And she always has to drink another pitcher. Why? Because girls can't pee when they are really aroused. I have no idea why they are so worried about it, ha ha. It's like no girls read that section of their owner's manual. :)

Inserting a waterproof vibrator with clit vibe attached is the next stage in this prolonged pee torture. This can go on another 10 to 15 minutes.  Her bladder should be at about 150% capacity now and she's complaining that it hurts and she really needs to pee...and by now she's getting the idea that maybe I should stop fucking playing her little pussy so she can pee.  Oh, and it's always good to stop for short periods to give her a chance to try and pee...just to keep her attention fully focused on that.

"Do you really, really need to pee?" I taunt her.

"oh yes, please!"

"Then I will make you a deal," I say with a sly grin, "I will let you pee into this pitcher on the condition that you drink it afterwards."

Her eyes widen with horror. Drink my own pee???

You would be surprised at the number of girls I've convinced to have their first experience drinking their own piss this way. You see...they are desperate at this point and will agree to just about anything.  So they might as well agree to something I think looks really fucking hot.

When she agrees... I allow her to pee into the picture but slowing down how much I play with her...giving her longer and longer breaks between touches until she can finally pee. As soon as she starts I can stop the flow at will by playing with her clit again.  She has no control over it.

Suddenly I change my mind.  "Wait. You can't pee yet."  Her eyes widen with shock and pleading! Nooooo! But you SAID!  

Ha ha. "I think you need to cum for me first. I want you to be a good little girl and cum for me. Then I will allow you to pee."

I using the vibe and my fingers, I push her over the edge and make her cum hard! God, I love seeing girls cum...it's like my crack pipe always calling to me!

After about 5 seconds of orgasm I stop stimulating her, "Pee for me NOW! Push it out!"

She pushes and struggles...but nothing comes out at all. "PUSH!"

Nothing.

"You keep saying you have to pee to fucking PEE!"

She pushes and pushes, squirms and struggles and... finally the tiniest little flow starts.  I think of this as the plumbing finally switching back...slowly.

The stream starts to gain momentum and goes from a trickle to a thin stream and as soon as it hits a medium stream...I start playing with her again. :)

This can have 1 of 2 effects: It can kill the stream again; or she will push through it with fear and desperation that I will not allow her to pee more than a tiny amount.

Either way, I insert fingers inside her and then order her to pee/keep peeing.  I don't move my fingers at all...I just like to feel her pussy muscles pushing.

Eventually she pees out enough to relieve her swollen bladder...and fill the pitcher with her clear piss.   This is actually really great for her to drink...for a first experience, it's totally watered down and barely tastes like anything at all... a wonderful introduction to watersports.

Besides...I'm nowhere near finished with her as the last pitcher is still being processed by her system and now she's drinking this pitcher of pee...so the games will continue for some time yet.

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So considering this is a technique I use for my own twisted satisfaction: I say to any girl worrying, "is it pee?" when she squirts... I say, "Fuck no. It's not fucking pee." Girls only think they can pee when close to orgasm...believed me, I've asked them. They all think they can pee and are worried about it. Ha ha. Good luck.  The most I've seen is a tiny dribble that couldn't come close to forming a stream...just running a little bit down her butt crack. And that is actively trying to pee-- with a massively overfilled bladder.  The odds you peeing accidentally are minuscule. I would bet against it every time. No, if stuff gushes and squirts out while you're all hot and horny...it's cum. Congratulations...you are able to female ejaculate.

And no, it's not pee.


Final thought: this is a great part of BDSM training that gets her way way more interested in urine and watersports as the powerplay combined with intense bodily urges is really intense.

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Muscular suggestion with Hypnosis

One of the key advantages a Master has in using hypnosis is he is free to position the slave as he chooses and he can direct her feeling and body with things like electrowands, floggers and nipple clamps...which, when used correctly, can be extremely effective.

Body positions are closely related to emotions and simply putting yourself into a 'wonderwoman' stance for a minute or so is enough to change your brain chemistry and make you more confident. This is exactly why I use certain postures and have trained the kittens to hold them when waiting or being inspected.

And the opposite is true as well. Hang you head and slouch and soon you will be in a far more mopey mood.  So it's essential to straighten your back, keep your chin up, brighten your eyes and smile for fucks sakes! All of these things will make you happier, healthier and enjoy your life more.

There is a close link between emotions and physical behaviours. Carl G. Lange of Denmark was one of the first to document this thoroughly but the recent advances of the past few years have made it undeniable. It changes your heart rate and rhythm, your breathing, your hormones, eliminates stress hormones from the blood...on and on.

And this most definitely applies to slaves and hypnosis.  Once you have induced your slave, change
her position.  Get her on her knees and clasp her hands together like a devoutly praying saint...and have her thoughts directed so she is subconsciously praying to you.

Or have her prostrate herself to you as she tells you all the reasons why she needs you as her Master. Any position commonly found in worship is ideal: kneeling, bowing, laying prostrate...anything that subconsciously sets her mood. Adjust her position and be mindful of it as you progress through the hypnosis session.

This goes also for her facial expression. Under hypnosis, it is very easy to manipulate a slave's facial expression and you can even do so quite directly.  And these facial expressions will evoke stronger emotions within her while hypnotized than they do in the waking state -- yet even in the waking state they can result in powerful physiological changes.



I will give a very specific example so you can understand the technique.  If you are wanting to her imagine something that please her greatly -- say her imagining herself with a lower body weight and being more fit and attractive...you can suggest that she stand like an athelete crossing the finish line first with her arms in a V over her head in victory! As she walks over to the podium to get he medal have her wave to her adoring fans in the crowd with both hands over her head as the champ. Then have her smile as she 'directs her attention down to her body and feels' her fit and strong core.  As she's beaming away with pride...ask her how she feels with her new slim and strong body. Have her desire it greatly and associate these positive emotions and confidence with a thin and fit state that she now greatly desires -- and you've effectively primed her subconscious to want this and move towards it.

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15 Hypnosis Tips

As I have previously mentioned, hypnosis is a wonderful tool for BDSM and training a slave. The use of hypnotic suggestion can greatly improve your slave’s enjoyment of a scene and improve her overall ability to serve you.  (I know, I know, I haven't actually written the How To Hypnotize Your Slave Guide yet...I'm working on it!)

But in order to use hypnosis effectively, you have to understand how to use it as a tool. There are several suggestions (no pun intended) that I can put forth that can you understand how hypnosis works and how to properly use it as a tool.

These guidelines will apply to all hypnosis and not just use in BDSM.

Here are my Top 15 Tips for Hypnosis:

1. Use a script until you are very comfortable with hypnosis. You may find it extremely useful to write out a script that you are going to use with your slave. Beginners often make mistakes when winging it but if you develop a script beforehand, then you can proofread it for errors. After you are more experienced, you will see that the script is just a general guideline-- it’s the phrasing that is of utmost importance.
2. Imagination is key. Her subconscious mind will respond best by actively engaging her imagination and use every sense possible to make it as vivid as possible.
3. Be playful. It is best to be flexible and playful...not ridged. If a certain turn of phrase seems particularly useful...use it! If she hints at something she finds deeply relaxing...latch onto it and use that knowledge to get her to ever deeper states.
4. Belief cannot simply be destroyed...they have to be replaced.
5. Support beliefs with other known beliefs. Prop up new beliefs with as much logic as possible.
6. Beliefs are extremely powerful. If you believe you can’t do something...it won’t matter how hard you try to do it… you will fail.  The belief must be changed first.
7. Strong emotions are great at cementing beliefs. The stronger the emotion is...the easier it is to affix a new belief.
8. If she is expecting to be hypnotized and allowing of it...it will be super easy to hypnotize her. So prime her a lot beforehand and get her to want it to happen.
9. Build on small acceptances and agreements. The more she begins to accept what you are saying or suggesting, the easier it will be for her to accept more difficult suggestions later on.
10. If you can logically convince her that she wants it to happen, add her imagination to visualize it afterwards. This will have a powerful multiplying effect.
11. The longer she can concentrate vividly on a subject, the more powerfully she will accept it.
12. On a topic, the first suggestion given will have the greatest effect on her.
13. Long held beliefs often come with physical and emotional reactions. What her body language closely as she will be communicating with you using it.
14. Never suggest something that could be dangerous to her.  She may be physically capable of more while hypnotized but there is a risk attached to performing physical tasks while hypnotized. So use this time for mindwork...not body work.
15. Your job is to guide her and convince her through visualization and logic. Convince her that she wants it to happen and then help her see how it feels to have that happen.  
    
    
    

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Hypnosis Overview Part II

You know you have a bunch to say on a subject when the overview takes more than one post ;)   See Part 1 of my Hypnosis Overview here. 

I want to say to Ashlie if she's reading this that I completely resisted the temptation to give you suggestions of my own making in the hypnotic state. When I did hypnotize you, I asked you what it was that you wished to change about yourself and what your desires were -- and then gave you suggestions towards this.  I don't want you thinking that I have been manipulating you in any way...as that has never been the case. I love you hun! 

Ash, the very first time I hypnotized you (in the condo), I asked you to think about what it was you wanted in life and to list off your main goals that you wanted to achieve --for what you wanted in life. You know what you answered? You said, "I want to be owned and to be a slave: a real slave."  I then asked you, "What is a real slave?" And you replied, "a real slave is just for sex and making her Master happy that way."  --Well, damn... talk about coming pre-loaded with the right software!!! I already knew you were awesome ...but it was at that moment I decided that you were fucking perfect. <3 

Ok, so let's looks the different levels of hypnosis that can be achieved.  There are a couple scales that I know of for this.  First is the simple 3-level scale: lethargic, somnambulistic, and cataleptic.  I like this one as it's simple and gives you a pretty good idea of where you are. Note: If you are wanting to be hypnotised, you may want to skip to the next section so you're not 'over-thinking' things while the hypnotist is working.

Hypnotic Levels

Awake State--  Our normal waking consciousness is still a form of hypnosis. A person tells themselves all sorts of things about themselves, their abilities  and their world...and they are constantly talking to themselves and deeply hypnotized at a fundamental level. Consider the incredible success rates of placebos: this simply wouldn't work at all if we weren't hypnotized into believing our descriptions of the world.  

Somnambulistic State- I think of this as the top level of hypnosis. This level is where you go when the patient has first been induced. Note: I'm going to call the hypnotized person a patient for these purposes...as everything I've read does so.  The patient still retains most aspects of their waking state and may have open eyes and can be spoken to easily. The main difference between this and the waking state is the tone of voice of the responses so listen carefully for shifts in the patient's tonality.  The patient may also be commanded to accept certain suggestions easily here as the patient is most susceptible to suggestions in this state. Of course, the suggestions must be in keeping with the character of the patient or the suggestion will be rejected.

Fun with Ashlie-- I noticed that I could give Ashlie some suggestions in this state that she could easily remember and recite in this state but upon awakening her...she had no memory of this whatsoever. I re-induced her and once again she could recite them easily. 

Cataleptic State-  This state is characterized by ridged body...that can be positioned and then held easily without any effort. 

Fun with Ashlie-- I took Ashlie's arm and raised it in a 'heil Hitler' position without speaking about it whatsoever. The arm was locked in place and didn't move nor waver for about 5 minutes as I continued the session. After this point, my amusement passed and I lowered her arm for her. 

Lethargic State- This state is like knocking a person into a coma. She's still aware but she's utterly non-responsive. This is also characterized by the patient having complete anesthesia and she cannot feel pain. The patient will eventually come out of this state of her own accord and it's important not to worry or panic that you've created a lump. :)

Not so fun with Ashlie-- I grabbed and firmly squeezed and tweaked her sensitive nipple: something that in a waking state would always get a lovely pain reaction.  In the Lethargic state...nothing. No change in facial expression...it seemed that she didn't notice it in the slightest.

Who is susceptible to hypnosis?

Personally, I've found ever single sub I've had to be highly susceptible to hypnosis.  I think subs are, by their very nature, the best subjects to hypnotize. They happily follow orders and like to give up control -- so in a BDSM scenario...subs seem to go under super easily.  

This is also helped massively by the added level trust between Master and slave. Additionally, unlike most hypnosis...touching and pain are allowed.  This allows for giving commands, suggestions and orders to notice certain 'feelings' that are super clear...and help to induce the slave extremely effectively. 

For example, a normal hypnotist might say, "Notice the weight of your body pressing down against the chair. Feel how it conforms to your shape. This causes you to feel more relaxed."   Well, it's way more effective to guide her attention if you can actually touch her body and cause her to feel different things and then assign meaning to it.

Joseph Friedlander and Theodore Sarbin came up with a series of tests in 1938 to test a subject's susceptibility to hypnosis. Basically, you induce them with a standard hypnotic induction and give them the following suggestions in order.  The higher level she reaches, the more susceptible she is to suggestion.  

	Item Number	Test Suggestion and Responses
	1	Postural Sway
	2	Eye Closure
	3	Hand Lowering (left)
	4	Immobilization (right arm)
	5	Finger Lock
	6	Arm Rigidity (left arm)
	7	Hands Moving Together
	8	Verbal Inhibition (name)
	9	Hallucination (fly)
	10	Eye catalepsy
	11	Post-hypnotic (changes chairs)
	12	Amnesia

Most successful hypnosis depends on 2 factors: trust in the hypnotist and  no fear or resistance to being hypnotized.  The patient has to trust you and want to be hypnotized (or at least not be resisting you) in order for this to work.  Even someone highly susceptible to hypnosis can score a 0 or 1 on the above scale if they are thinking to themselves, "Fuck that. I hate this dude and don't trust him at all. I'm not going to follow his suggestions." 

Now some people fear hypnosis simply because they don't understand it -- and this can be a huge factor in encountering resistance. So it's important for the hypnotist to discuss the process with the patient beforehand so she feels comfortable and safe with it.

Common concerns are are losing control of her mind (no, only you can choose be become a slave...it can't be induced by hypnotic suggestion) and will I ever come out of hypnosis (yes, always. Unless you're the first recorded patient that doesn't...heh heh.)

But the people that are most susceptible to hypnosis are, surprisingly, people in a lot of pain.  Why? Because they realize it is VERY MUCH in their interest to be hypnotized to stop the fucking pain.  So they get on board so easily.  This is something being employed at some (but not nearly enough) hospitals and used extremely effectively on patients that cannot be given traditional anesthetics -- which is most common in emergency situations requiring surgery.

Allow me to illustrate this point with a personal example from around the year 2001-2002ish:

A cyclist in Toronto tried to deek past the front of a streetcar and got hit by it: breaking his leg.  I was cycling nearby and witnessed the incident.  He was laying on the ground and seemed like he was in excruciating pain. Someone called 911 for an ambulance and, since it was a warm day in the summer -- I didn't think getting blankets would help nearly as much as hypnosis.  I told him I was a trained hypnotist and, with his permission, I would like to induce a hypnotic state in order to remove the pain.  He quickly agreed. I induced him in record time...under a minute. And then looked into his eyes and said, "The pain is gone NOW." And he immediately was relieved.  "Good, this relaxed state will help you heal faster."  I honestly was quite surprised as to how fast and effective it was. A shot of morphine couldn't have been more effective. I spoke about how he was safe now and that he would soon see doctors who would fix and fully heal his leg until the ambulance arrived. 

I told the ambulance attendants that I had hypnotized him to remove the pain and they looked at me like I was completely batshit crazy and promptly pushed me away saying something to the effect of, "Please stand back: way way over there. We will take it from here."   

Safety:

This is a biggie. Is it safe? It totally depends. Is doing suspension bondage safe? It depends. Does the person know what they are doing or are they a total noob? I think of hypnosis in the same category as suspension bondage.  You have to learn a lot and train yourself -- study the safety risks and common errors -- before you attempt it and even then start slow. 

I will go way more in depth on this later...this is just a general caution to read WAY more and be responsible.

But the biggest safety rule here:  Never, ever give suggestions to feel less pain in BDSM situations.  This is the equivalent of giving her prescription pain-killers just before a scene...and you want her fully able to feel her body so she can help you keep her safe.

Secondly, DO NOT explore past highly emotional events without being properly trained (or conversely, don't let someone do this to you they haven't been properly trained.) You can really fuck up someone this way. 

Self-Hypnosis

Basically, you can't be forced to do anything under hypnosis that you wouldn't do in a waking state. The sub is always in control here ...at a fundamental level.  Just like she is in control in that she can use her safeword to stop the scene at any time.  So hypnosis is and must be consensual. 

I believe we are all acting in some level of 'hypnosis' at all times and our normal waking state is simply the highest and lightest level of hypnosis. We do things because we tell ourselves to do them.  So training an transforming a sub into a slave involves convincing her that this is how she wants to choose to be. 

As a Master, you can facilitate this and help guide her and her thoughts so that she is willing. But ultimately, she has to hypnotize herself and dive in.

But getting on board, not resisting and not trying to control the experience are all key in making this happen. 

How to use Hypnosis

As a Master, I look to hypnosis as a great tool to see how my little pets are thinking and making sure that they are happy. Hypnosis can be used to transform negative habits sure, but it can also be used to strip off her conscious defenses and look at her real emotions and past traumas and how they are influencing her current thinking.  Number one: hypnosis can be used to make things easier for your slave: you can alleviate stress, make it easier for her to achieve her goals and enhance her self-image.   

The steps are:

1) Recognize the problem or behavior you wish to change

2) Determine the belief that is causing the behaviour

3) Remove the faulty belief by replacing it with one that better serves her

4) Visualize the new belief taking hold in her life -- rehearsing specific interactions in her mind

5) Reinforce the new behaviour in her life

6) Monitor the effect the new belief is having on her life and make sure that she is not developing any new behaviours (which is a transference of the underlying cause, which was ineffectively addressed, that caused the old behaviour switching over to a new one. If this happens, you have to go back in and find the real cause and address that. 

To me, hypnosis is a great bonding tool, that has brought me far closer to my slaves and it's tremendously effective.   It can be used for healing and improving your slave and so, when used correctly, it's the best tool a Master has for training his slave...not just training as a slave: for training her in life.

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Hypnosis Overview

Hypnosis is one of the most powerful tools in my chest. Why? Because it can control her mind and her thoughts.  Mindfucking is always the best.  Hell, the mind is the biggest erogenous zone by far.  Control that she's perma-wet.  Or at least moist ;)

Goddamn...I have so much to say on this it's hard to even begin: but there's no way in hell this will be a single post.  It will be a series. 

For me, using hypnosis seems natural for slave training.  The mind and body are intricately interlinked and you can directly effect how your slave views the world.  Hypnosis also allows for direct suggestions to be made to the slave that can dramatically improve her life, help her quit smoking, lose weight, overcome anxiety, relieve pain, reduce headaches and stop procrastinating...for starters. Of course, you could also use it to make her more sensitive, erotic and boldly sexual ;)  There is also the possibility of placing post-hypnotic suggestion in her mind that will act as triggers down the road. Basically...this is a way to access her mainframe and rewrite her programming.  

Hint: how does she count?

Now because you can do this doesn't mean you should.  A Master must respect this tool and always keep the well being of his slave first and foremost in his thoughts.  I learned hypnosis mostly from a licensed hypnotherapist and there was tons of discussion on the ethics involved. So I will pass some of that onto you as well.

Now hypnotizing someone is both an art and a science.  Hypnotizing your slave is art, science, chemistry, and dancing.  If she is willing to trust you completely...to give her mind over to you completely...there is potential to put her so deep into hypnotic states that a therapist rarely achieves. If you are lucky and blessed enough to have a wonderful and truly submissive (like <3 Ashlie <3 ) then you can touch her very soul. 

So if you don't truly love and want to keep your slave for a long long time...don't fuck with her and don't use hypnosis. 

As a Master, you must take care and be super mindful of everything you say while she is hypnotized as you have an opportunity to remove her bad habits and encourage her at a fundamental level -- and as I said before, this is the most effective training tool. 

I think this post will be a simple overview of what hypnosis is without getting too deep into techniques, ethics and such. But the main idea is: you can use hypnosis to help your slave see and envision herself in the life that she deeply desires to live.  You can improve her behaviors, self-image and thoughts so she is much more satisfied with life. And you can use hypnosis to take the place of actual training where it will have the effect of the most successful training session.  She can visualize herself 'as if' she's been fully trained and how that will make her feel: creating a desire to be fully trained.

A master can also use regression type therapy to get a handle on her various actions and even her sexuality and learn exactly what makes her tick.  And those parts that lead to a poor self-image? Nuke them at their core.

Of course, hypnosis is no replacement for actual training...as why the fuck would I ever give that up?? Absolutely not. Real life training is essential.  But if you hit stumbling blocks, resistance or want to take things to the next level, hypnosis is the way to go.

Now let's cover exactly what hypnosis is and isn't:

1. Hypnosis is NOT mind control.

Hypnosis is the giving over of one's mind and allowing the hypnotist to direct your thoughts for you.  But if the hypnotist tells you to go kill your brother -- it will immediately snap you out of the trance and you will resist the suggestion entirely. Why? Because you don't fucking want to kill your brother! Nothing is going to change that. You can only change that which the slave desires to change.

You have to work with your slave and get her on board with any suggestion...or you will fail to put her under or keep her there.

2. Hypnosis is simply guiding the internal voice inside someone's head. So you can only work within the confines of what they are willing to accept. Cross the line and you will pop her out of it. So being a skilled hypnotist involves developing trust with your slave -- and testing her, coaching her, questioning her and carefully feeling her out before moving to give a suggestion that could potentially pull her out of it. But if you succeed...you can bring her deeper down into even more suggestible states. 

3. It has been argued that all hypnosis is essentially self-hypnosis and even that we are all hypnotized all through our lives from the age of about 3 or so when we start to believe all the things everyone tells us about the world.

4. Being hypnotized doesn't feel any different. Hell, I've had people so deep that they could not feel any pain whatsoever nor even register that I was hurting them...and yet they claimed they 'felt normal' the entire time.  So don't bother analyzing the state and trying to figure out if you have been hypnotized or not -- and don't waste distracted thoughts on  things like, "Do I feel different now?"

5. You cannot force it on someone. In fact, trying to force it will practically guarantee you bring them out of the state or at least up to a higher level. It can only be done effectively with trust. The more the better. She must be willing to cooperate with you. 

6. Hypnosis is a way to talk to the subconscious mind.  You can bypass the filters and critical thinking that is normally overlaid on your actual thoughts....and so hypnosis is really useful to have a deep conversation with the real and true slave-- not the girl that she is projecting out to the world. 

7. Hypnosis makes it far easier to accept suggestions.  You are talking to the subconscious mind. Get it on board and then say, 'hey, wouldn't to be better if..." and she agrees, she's in. She adopts the suggestion at a much deeper level and is way more likely to follow through with it...and remember it even when she doesn't consciously think about it. Basically, the subconscious mind is lazy and will just accept change without wanting to work for it ;)

8. The rational mind (aka normal waking consciousness) spends all kinds of time thinking about right and wrong, different paths to take and problem solving. It is very flexible...but it has no clear idea of what you want or why. 

9. The subconscious mind just is...it's the part of you that makes you YOU. If you want to feel love and pleasure all day long....it will guide you towards that unceasingly and provide every opportunity to make that happen. It is also made for visualizing and envisioning the future...it's the part that shapes your true desires. Oh, and it's also the source of all your emotions too. There's that. All your habits, core beliefs and deepest memories are stored here.

10. Your inner thinking and lifestyle are governed by the subconscious mind.  So you don't need willpower --you need to get the subconscious mind on board so that it wants the change...and the rest is easy. Help her mind to imagine a reality that she deeply desires...and you practically done.

So this is the beginning of my overview of hypnosis. I'll talk more on how and why it works, give tips and specifically how to use it in slave training.

[To Be Continued]

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More than just sex slaves

We function better in a state of empathy and love than we do in state of separation. And my goal, as Master is to create conditions to elevate my slaves to the highest state.

I've done a lot of soul searching in the past week and I've been thinking of how and why I want to be a Master -- and it really doesn't come from a place of lack...it comes from a place of love and generosity.  And so, to be the best man that I can be, I have decided to rethink being a Dom and rethink how I can make my slaves the happiest and most fulfilled slaves possible.

One beautiful element that has always resonated with me about slaves is removing them for the capitalist dogma that has infected the entirety of Western civilization. There is a most negative state of affairs in the world that trickles down from several core concepts: that greed is good, that the more stuff /wealth you have the happier you will be, that the strongest competitors are the best people and that we live in a world of survival of the fittest.

Yet I believe these are the cause of so much sickness and unhappiness in the world.  If you ever read Darwin's The Descent of Man  you will find that Darwin barely mentions survival of the fittest. Instead, he talks about man's strongest evolutionary advantage being co-operation and talks frequently about love. Meanwhile study after study shows that true happiness has no correlation with wealth above meeting your basic needs of food and shelter. None. The rich are no happier than the lower middle class. But what does make you happy? I've been studying that? Why? Because I want truly happy slaves. It's not about suppression...it's about consensual joy.

A phrase "Follow the path with heart" resonated so strongly with me since I first heard it years ago -- it is the way to make decisions. If I can lead my slaves to focus not on material things but love, compassion, cooperation and kindness...then I will have succeeded as a human being.

I want to make 2 t-shirts. One will say,  "Follow the path with Heart" and the other will say "Free Hugs." Nay, I will make many free hug shirts so I can wear it every day of the week (different colours, of course.)

Ok, so how does this affect a BDSM relationship? I'm still figuring that out. But I want to make this a core value...my mission.

Slave shall be:
1) Removed from the wealth accumulation game
2) Put in situations where they can share and socialize
3) Be guided to be healthy in both body and mind
4) The slave shall have creative outlets to satisfy and fulfill her on every level

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Slave Application Form

This is the slave application form that prospective slaves should fill out if they are interested in becoming a slave of mine and coming to the Home for Wayward Sluts (what one slave called the Slut Pound or the Slutphanage --made me laugh.)

A slut should answer all the questions in the below spreadsheet.  This gives a very clear idea of how much of a slut she is, how much experience she has, what turns her on, what she is willing to do and what her hard limits are. And I do enjoy seeing the depth of your depravity too.

The application is long. Really long in fact. And the girl should be masturbating and ideally have a vibrator inside of her the entire time she is filling out the application. This will take some time and several sessions for her to complete.  But part of the point is to show that you are serious about the application and developing a relationship and getting to know you.

So aside from proving you are serious about joining us (just completing all 7 tabs of the application is a task, I assure you), this application will show me if you have interests that are common with me and if you are perverted enough to join.  Someone that has read 50 Shades of Grey and is now playing with the idea -- would likely be crushed underfoot by me. I need truly depraved perverts. Also note that some questions reflect the variety of sexual experience that some slaves have had including growing up in abusive conditions. This does happen and my understanding the nature of the abuse gives me valuable insight into the mind of such a slut and her life experience.  If you cannot deal with all perverted sexual behaviors, do not attempt to take this test --you are not ready.

It's a Google doc so you may need to create a gmail account for yourself in order to open the application. Just open it and then you may need to save it as your own document before you can modify it.  Then send me a copy of the completed form and I will get back to you.

The Steps are:
1) Create a Gmail Account
2) Go to Google Docs (aka Google Drive) and make sure you can create documents
3) Open the link below.
4) Goto to File --> Make a Copy and create a new application just for you.
5) Fill out all the yellow fields in all available tabs
6) Click "Share" in the upper right and share it with me while sending me a note saying you would like to apply. Send to (Balmmaker 'squiggly A' gmail 'sentence ender' com


If the application is acceptable,  then and only then will we proceed to your sending photos -- as I'm far more interested in your level of kink, your experience and your willingness to serve than your physical state. And if I see your photo and think you're super cute and hot...well, I can't have my opinion favorably swayed by looks as life as a slave is not for everyone.

application WILL also be used as a basis for the slave contract that you will eventually sign.  The contract states in no uncertain terms what you are agreeing to and can also be used to denote hard limits that I will respect. For example, if you state that being called names and humiliated is a devastating to you and would crush you...then this is a place to put it so I know!  I will never ever intentionally break a hard limit for you.  I respect that slaves are different and need to be treated differently to be happy.   Oh, and knowing the things that turn you on the most...also very useful information for me.  (Note: Since I have a fetish for seeing girls get off and orgasm...if when I know the things that turn you on like mad, I am going to force you to do those

things...a lot. Yes, you've been warned.)

Remember, you MUST be masturbating the whole time you fill this out! Pick the format that best suits you:
SLAVE APPLICATION IN GOOGLE DOCS (BEST)

SLAVE APPLICATION IN EXCEL

SLAVE APPLICATION IN OPEN OFFICE 
NOTE: Download Open Office here (free spreadsheet and word processor)

If you have questions about what some of the items are...leave a comment and I'll explain.

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