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Mastering Power

The source of a Master's power comes from many forms...but the most important form is being awesome. But there are several key areas that must be addressed in what makes a Master a Master...so I will discuss the source of a Masters power and authority. A Master draws his power from his specialized knowledge, his creativity, from his ability to predict his slave's emotional responses, confidence, from his ability to reward or punish, from agreements you have with your master, and from just plain sex appeal. 

Specialized Knowledge.  A Master requires so much more knowledge and specialized skills over any other typical relationship that's its ridiculous to compare the two. A Master may learn about flogging techniques, rope bondage, fire play, figging, watersports, enemas, electrical play, squirting techniques, mental bondage, hypnosis, needles and bloodplay for a brief list off the top of my head.  And he has to know these well enough to perform them with confidence and safely. So yeah, his specialized knowledge is a big source of power. He can do things to her that other guys haven't even seen done in porn vids.  And her craving this...is a source of his power.

Creativity. Let's face it, Masters are usually of above average intelligence and their kinky minds are always turning and figuring out great new ways to be deviant. A slave that gets used to the perverse variety oozing from her Master's soul soon grows addicted to the new and interesting things her Master is constantly trying on her. Variety is the spice of life and a good Master is always switching it up (no pun intended.)


Ability to predict his slave's state. A good Master is predictive of his slave's mental and emotional state and is always aware of it.  As he learns her ins and outs, he soon begins to play her like a violin -- calculating the effects and changes to her state from each action...playing with her (while learning more about her.) All of this attention and slave specific knowledge becomes are massive powerbase.

Confidence.  A Master must be confident in his own abilities and more importantly, express this confidence. A Master should exude confidence.  I will give a specific article to illustrate this point. This is from my most favorite magazine, New Scientist and it is an article call, Humans Prefer Cockiness to Expertise.  In it, it explains that the vast majority of people will go with the most assured and confident opinion holder over the guy who admits his right answer may be wrong. So scientists who says, "Well, no, I can say for sure that global warming has been caused by these factors" gets totally gunned down by a cocky son-of-a-bitch who is sure it's all bullshit! The difference is, the scientist is completely convinced internally because there's a 99% chance that it's true and all the evidence points that way -- but he's a trained scientist and so always has doubt. Meanwhile, the cocky son-of-a-bitch thought about it for 10 seconds and decided it was wrong. But he can convince 80% of the people to believe him because he has astounding confidence.   It doesn't matter the subject, people always choose the person with confidence over the guy with the facts (and the right answer.) Consider that when you want people to follow you. Confidence is social power.

Rewards.  Ahhhh, the sweet honey of power. Positive reinforcement through rewards and controlling what the slave desires most...and then giving it to her if she's good. That's powerful.

Punishment.  Yes, you can also wield power over a slave through the coercive power of inflicting punishment. However, a lot of noobs and rookie Doms think this is the key to their power...and it is, in my opinion, one of the least powerful forms of power a Dom has. Unless you're a dick who is into abusive relationships and trying to bully and control the girl that way. But generally speaking, having a slave fear and hate you -- is not the kind of slave relationship that really lights my fire. So I use this power sparingly. (Note: I am a bit of sadist so...not that sparingly. ha ha.) 

Agreements. A Master and slave can enter into contracts where they both agree to certain standards and practices...and this too can be a form of power.  Hell, a Master can even get Power of Attorney over his slave...which is a very real legal form of power. So holding your slave to the agreements and commitments she's made to you can be a great way to inspire her to get to the next level...and this is a power you can hold over her.

Sex Appeal. A Master can also so damn sexy and attractive that the slave will gush and want to do anything to please him. I won't speak on how to achieve this state...but if you have it, goddamn it's powerful as you control so much of the slave's actions just based on her desire to please you. 

On Squirting: a Woman's Perspective

The first time I gushed I was was 15 and was masturbating.  I thought, "oh God, did I just piss all over my bed?!? What will my mom think!?"   It didn't take to too long to come to the conclusion it wasn't piss but something far far better.  I have since done this from vaginal sex but something that isn't often mentioned is anal sex.  One of the things that makes me squirt really hard and the most fluid is anal sex!   I have no idea why, but anal makes me the wettest!

As I've gotten older, I have found it just gets easier and easier to do.  Now, I squirt almost every time
using my favorite vibe inserted in me with it's 'rabbit ears' on my clit. I pretty much have to squirt every single time.   

About a month ago I squirted and gushed a good 8 feet! I couldn't believe it and actually got out the tape measure.  Almost exactly 8 feet!  I regularly squirt and can soak through 3 towels easily...and I'm starting to figure out how to squeeze my muscles just right to get the maximum distance!

And how does it feel? Squirting feels sooooo much better than an absolutely mindblowing orgasm.  Usually with a super intense orgasm I'm dazed and super sensitive afterwards and don't want anything touching my clit.  If it's super intense...I usually have to take a nap just like a guy!! ha ha.   Yet when I squirt I feel a massive pressure buildup to the point I just don't give a flying fuck what I squirt on I fucking have  to squirt! And I love to keep it going too and squirting more and more! The more I squirt the more intense and wonderful it feels.  

After squirting several times minimum, the pressure is relieved for a bit and I can get on with my day...till I feel the need to squirt again or till I happen to stumble across some good porn and then I usually feel the need to give it another go!

Any guy I have been with has responded excessively positively to my squirting.  They all have loved it and expressed desires to drink it, bath in it and just plain watch me do it.  Guys eyes always go wide when I squirt during sex. Every. Fucking. Time.  I am not only not nervous about squirting during sex: I can't wait to see his reaction and have him worship me for the goddess that I am.   

The main thing is: the more I've done it, the easier it gets, the more I squirt, the more control over it I have and the farther it goes. So practice, practice, practice!  I think every woman should make regular squirting a masturbatory goal! 

Muscular suggestion with Hypnosis

One of the key advantages a Master has in using hypnosis is he is free to position the slave as he chooses and he can direct her feeling and body with things like electrowands, floggers and nipple clamps...which, when used correctly, can be extremely effective.

Body positions are closely related to emotions and simply putting yourself into a 'wonderwoman' stance for a minute or so is enough to change your brain chemistry and make you more confident. This is exactly why I use certain postures and have trained the kittens to hold them when waiting or being inspected.

And the opposite is true as well. Hang you head and slouch and soon you will be in a far more mopey mood.  So it's essential to straighten your back, keep your chin up, brighten your eyes and smile for fucks sakes! All of these things will make you happier, healthier and enjoy your life more.

There is a close link between emotions and physical behaviours. Carl G. Lange of Denmark was one of the first to document this thoroughly but the recent advances of the past few years have made it undeniable. It changes your heart rate and rhythm, your breathing, your hormones, eliminates stress hormones from the blood...on and on.

And this most definitely applies to slaves and hypnosis.  Once you have induced your slave, change
her position.  Get her on her knees and clasp her hands together like a devoutly praying saint...and have her thoughts directed so she is subconsciously praying to you.

Or have her prostrate herself to you as she tells you all the reasons why she needs you as her Master. Any position commonly found in worship is ideal: kneeling, bowing, laying prostrate...anything that subconsciously sets her mood. Adjust her position and be mindful of it as you progress through the hypnosis session.

This goes also for her facial expression. Under hypnosis, it is very easy to manipulate a slave's facial expression and you can even do so quite directly.  And these facial expressions will evoke stronger emotions within her while hypnotized than they do in the waking state -- yet even in the waking state they can result in powerful physiological changes.



I will give a very specific example so you can understand the technique.  If you are wanting to her imagine something that please her greatly -- say her imagining herself with a lower body weight and being more fit and attractive...you can suggest that she stand like an athelete crossing the finish line first with her arms in a V over her head in victory! As she walks over to the podium to get he medal have her wave to her adoring fans in the crowd with both hands over her head as the champ. Then have her smile as she 'directs her attention down to her body and feels' her fit and strong core.  As she's beaming away with pride...ask her how she feels with her new slim and strong body. Have her desire it greatly and associate these positive emotions and confidence with a thin and fit state that she now greatly desires -- and you've effectively primed her subconscious to want this and move towards it.




15 Hypnosis Tips

As I have previously mentioned, hypnosis is a wonderful tool for BDSM and training a slave. The use of hypnotic suggestion can greatly improve your slave’s enjoyment of a scene and improve her overall ability to serve you.  (I know, I know, I haven't actually written the How To Hypnotize Your Slave Guide yet...I'm working on it!)

But in order to use hypnosis effectively, you have to understand how to use it as a tool. There are several suggestions (no pun intended) that I can put forth that can you understand how hypnosis works and how to properly use it as a tool.

These guidelines will apply to all hypnosis and not just use in BDSM.

Here are my Top 15 Tips for Hypnosis:

  1. Use a script until you are very comfortable with hypnosis. You may find it extremely useful to write out a script that you are going to use with your slave. Beginners often make mistakes when winging it but if you develop a script beforehand, then you can proofread it for errors. After you are more experienced, you will see that the script is just a general guideline-- it’s the phrasing that is of utmost importance.
  2. Imagination is key. Her subconscious mind will respond best by actively engaging her imagination and use every sense possible to make it as vivid as possible.
  3. Be playful. It is best to be flexible and playful...not ridged. If a certain turn of phrase seems particularly useful...use it! If she hints at something she finds deeply relaxing...latch onto it and use that knowledge to get her to ever deeper states.
  4. Belief cannot simply be destroyed...they have to be replaced.
  5. Support beliefs with other known beliefs. Prop up new beliefs with as much logic as possible.
  6. Beliefs are extremely powerful. If you believe you can’t do something...it won’t matter how hard you try to do it… you will fail.  The belief must be changed first.
  7. Strong emotions are great at cementing beliefs. The stronger the emotion is...the easier it is to affix a new belief.
  8. If she is expecting to be hypnotized and allowing of it...it will be super easy to hypnotize her. So prime her a lot beforehand and get her to want it to happen.
  9. Build on small acceptances and agreements. The more she begins to accept what you are saying or suggesting, the easier it will be for her to accept more difficult suggestions later on.
  10. If you can logically convince her that she wants it to happen, add her imagination to visualize it afterwards. This will have a powerful multiplying effect.
  11. The longer she can concentrate vividly on a subject, the more powerfully she will accept it.
  12. On a topic, the first suggestion given will have the greatest effect on her.
  13. Long held beliefs often come with physical and emotional reactions. What her body language closely as she will be communicating with you using it.
  14. Never suggest something that could be dangerous to her.  She may be physically capable of more while hypnotized but there is a risk attached to performing physical tasks while hypnotized. So use this time for mindwork...not body work.
  15. Your job is to guide her and convince her through visualization and logic. Convince her that she wants it to happen and then help her see how it feels to have that happen.  

Hypnosis Overview Part II

You know you have a bunch to say on a subject when the overview takes more than one post ;)   See Part 1 of my Hypnosis Overview here

I want to say to Ashlie if she's reading this that I completely resisted the temptation to give you suggestions of my own making in the hypnotic state. When I did hypnotize you, I asked you what it was that you wished to change about yourself and what your desires were -- and then gave you suggestions towards this.  I don't want you thinking that I have been manipulating you in any way...as that has never been the case. I love you hun! 

Ash, the very first time I hypnotized you (in the condo), I asked you to think about what it was you wanted in life and to list off your main goals that you wanted to achieve --for what you wanted in life. You know what you answered? You said, "I want to be owned and to be a slave: a real slave."  I then asked you, "What is a real slave?" And you replied, "a real slave is just for sex and making her Master happy that way."  --Well, damn... talk about coming pre-loaded with the right software!!! I already knew you were awesome ...but it was at that moment I decided that you were fucking perfect. <3 

Ok, so let's looks the different levels of hypnosis that can be achieved.  There are a couple scales that I know of for this.  First is the simple 3-level scale: lethargic, somnambulistic, and cataleptic.  I like this one as it's simple and gives you a pretty good idea of where you are. Note: If you are wanting to be hypnotised, you may want to skip to the next section so you're not 'over-thinking' things while the hypnotist is working.

Hypnotic Levels

Awake State--  Our normal waking consciousness is still a form of hypnosis. A person tells themselves all sorts of things about themselves, their abilities  and their world...and they are constantly talking to themselves and deeply hypnotized at a fundamental level. Consider the incredible success rates of placebos: this simply wouldn't work at all if we weren't hypnotized into believing our descriptions of the world.  

Somnambulistic State- I think of this as the top level of hypnosis. This level is where you go when the patient has first been induced. Note: I'm going to call the hypnotized person a patient for these purposes...as everything I've read does so.  The patient still retains most aspects of their waking state and may have open eyes and can be spoken to easily. The main difference between this and the waking state is the tone of voice of the responses so listen carefully for shifts in the patient's tonality.  The patient may also be commanded to accept certain suggestions easily here as the patient is most susceptible to suggestions in this state. Of course, the suggestions must be in keeping with the character of the patient or the suggestion will be rejected.

Fun with Ashlie-- I noticed that I could give Ashlie some suggestions in this state that she could easily remember and recite in this state but upon awakening her...she had no memory of this whatsoever. I re-induced her and once again she could recite them easily. 

Cataleptic State-  This state is characterized by ridged body...that can be positioned and then held easily without any effort. 

Fun with Ashlie-- I took Ashlie's arm and raised it in a 'heil Hitler' position without speaking about it whatsoever. The arm was locked in place and didn't move nor waver for about 5 minutes as I continued the session. After this point, my amusement passed and I lowered her arm for her. 

Lethargic State- This state is like knocking a person into a coma. She's still aware but she's utterly non-responsive. This is also characterized by the patient having complete anesthesia and she cannot feel pain. The patient will eventually come out of this state of her own accord and it's important not to worry or panic that you've created a lump. :)

Not so fun with Ashlie-- I grabbed and firmly squeezed and tweaked her sensitive nipple: something that in a waking state would always get a lovely pain reaction.  In the Lethargic state...nothing. No change in facial expression...it seemed that she didn't notice it in the slightest.


Who is susceptible to hypnosis?
Personally, I've found ever single sub I've had to be highly susceptible to hypnosis.  I think subs are, by their very nature, the best subjects to hypnotize. They happily follow orders and like to give up control -- so in a BDSM scenario...subs seem to go under super easily.  

This is also helped massively by the added level trust between Master and slave. Additionally, unlike most hypnosis...touching and pain are allowed.  This allows for giving commands, suggestions and orders to notice certain 'feelings' that are super clear...and help to induce the slave extremely effectively. 

For example, a normal hypnotist might say, "Notice the weight of your body pressing down against the chair. Feel how it conforms to your shape. This causes you to feel more relaxed."   Well, it's way more effective to guide her attention if you can actually touch her body and cause her to feel different things and then assign meaning to it.

Joseph Friedlander and Theodore Sarbin came up with a series of tests in 1938 to test a subject's susceptibility to hypnosis. Basically, you induce them with a standard hypnotic induction and give them the following suggestions in order.  The higher level she reaches, the more susceptible she is to suggestion.  

Item NumberTest Suggestion and Responses
1Postural Sway
2Eye Closure
3Hand Lowering (left)
4Immobilization (right arm)
5Finger Lock
6Arm Rigidity (left arm)
7Hands Moving Together
8Verbal Inhibition (name)
9Hallucination (fly)
10Eye catalepsy
11Post-hypnotic (changes chairs)
12Amnesia

Most successful hypnosis depends on 2 factors: trust in the hypnotist and  no fear or resistance to being hypnotized.  The patient has to trust you and want to be hypnotized (or at least not be resisting you) in order for this to work.  Even someone highly susceptible to hypnosis can score a 0 or 1 on the above scale if they are thinking to themselves, "Fuck that. I hate this dude and don't trust him at all. I'm not going to follow his suggestions." 

Now some people fear hypnosis simply because they don't understand it -- and this can be a huge factor in encountering resistance. So it's important for the hypnotist to discuss the process with the patient beforehand so she feels comfortable and safe with it.

Common concerns are are losing control of her mind (no, only you can choose be become a slave...it can't be induced by hypnotic suggestion) and will I ever come out of hypnosis (yes, always. Unless you're the first recorded patient that doesn't...heh heh.)

But the people that are most susceptible to hypnosis are, surprisingly, people in a lot of pain.  Why? Because they realize it is VERY MUCH in their interest to be hypnotized to stop the fucking pain.  So they get on board so easily.  This is something being employed at some (but not nearly enough) hospitals and used extremely effectively on patients that cannot be given traditional anesthetics -- which is most common in emergency situations requiring surgery.

Allow me to illustrate this point with a personal example from around the year 2001-2002ish:
A cyclist in Toronto tried to deek past the front of a streetcar and got hit by it: breaking his leg.  I was cycling nearby and witnessed the incident.  He was laying on the ground and seemed like he was in excruciating pain. Someone called 911 for an ambulance and, since it was a warm day in the summer -- I didn't think getting blankets would help nearly as much as hypnosis.  I told him I was a trained hypnotist and, with his permission, I would like to induce a hypnotic state in order to remove the pain.  He quickly agreed. I induced him in record time...under a minute. And then looked into his eyes and said, "The pain is gone NOW." And he immediately was relieved.  "Good, this relaxed state will help you heal faster."  I honestly was quite surprised as to how fast and effective it was. A shot of morphine couldn't have been more effective. I spoke about how he was safe now and that he would soon see doctors who would fix and fully heal his leg until the ambulance arrived. 

I told the ambulance attendants that I had hypnotized him to remove the pain and they looked at me like I was completely batshit crazy and promptly pushed me away saying something to the effect of, "Please stand back: way way over there. We will take it from here."   

Safety:
This is a biggie. Is it safe? It totally depends. Is doing suspension bondage safe? It depends. Does the person know what they are doing or are they a total noob? I think of hypnosis in the same category as suspension bondage.  You have to learn a lot and train yourself -- study the safety risks and common errors -- before you attempt it and even then start slow. 

I will go way more in depth on this later...this is just a general caution to read WAY more and be responsible.

But the biggest safety rule here:  Never, ever give suggestions to feel less pain in BDSM situations.  This is the equivalent of giving her prescription pain-killers just before a scene...and you want her fully able to feel her body so she can help you keep her safe.

Secondly, DO NOT explore past highly emotional events without being properly trained (or conversely, don't let someone do this to you they haven't been properly trained.) You can really fuck up someone this way. 

Self-Hypnosis
Basically, you can't be forced to do anything under hypnosis that you wouldn't do in a waking state. The sub is always in control here ...at a fundamental level.  Just like she is in control in that she can use her safeword to stop the scene at any time.  So hypnosis is and must be consensual. 

I believe we are all acting in some level of 'hypnosis' at all times and our normal waking state is simply the highest and lightest level of hypnosis. We do things because we tell ourselves to do them.  So training an transforming a sub into a slave involves convincing her that this is how she wants to choose to be. 

As a Master, you can facilitate this and help guide her and her thoughts so that she is willing. But ultimately, she has to hypnotize herself and dive in.

But getting on board, not resisting and not trying to control the experience are all key in making this happen. 

How to use Hypnosis
As a Master, I look to hypnosis as a great tool to see how my little pets are thinking and making sure that they are happy. Hypnosis can be used to transform negative habits sure, but it can also be used to strip off her conscious defenses and look at her real emotions and past traumas and how they are influencing her current thinking.  Number one: hypnosis can be used to make things easier for your slave: you can alleviate stress, make it easier for her to achieve her goals and enhance her self-image.   

The steps are:
1) Recognize the problem or behavior you wish to change
2) Determine the belief that is causing the behaviour
3) Remove the faulty belief by replacing it with one that better serves her
4) Visualize the new belief taking hold in her life -- rehearsing specific interactions in her mind
5) Reinforce the new behaviour in her life
6) Monitor the effect the new belief is having on her life and make sure that she is not developing any new behaviours (which is a transference of the underlying cause, which was ineffectively addressed, that caused the old behaviour switching over to a new one. If this happens, you have to go back in and find the real cause and address that. 

To me, hypnosis is a great bonding tool, that has brought me far closer to my slaves and it's tremendously effective.   It can be used for healing and improving your slave and so, when used correctly, it's the best tool a Master has for training his slave...not just training as a slave: for training her in life.

Hypnosis Overview

Hypnosis is one of the most powerful tools in my chest. Why? Because it can control her mind and her thoughts.  Mindfucking is always the best.  Hell, the mind is the biggest erogenous zone by far.  Control that she's perma-wet.  Or at least moist ;)

Goddamn...I have so much to say on this it's hard to even begin: but there's no way in hell this will be a single post.  It will be a series. 

For me, using hypnosis seems natural for slave training.  The mind and body are intricately interlinked and you can directly effect how your slave views the world.  Hypnosis also allows for direct suggestions to be made to the slave that can dramatically improve her life, help her quit smoking, lose weight, overcome anxiety, relieve pain, reduce headaches and stop procrastinating...for starters. Of course, you could also use it to make her more sensitive, erotic and boldly sexual ;)  There is also the possibility of placing post-hypnotic suggestion in her mind that will act as triggers down the road. Basically...this is a way to access her mainframe and rewrite her programming.  
Hint: how does she count?

Now because you can do this doesn't mean you should.  A Master must respect this tool and always keep the well being of his slave first and foremost in his thoughts.  I learned hypnosis mostly from a licensed hypnotherapist and there was tons of discussion on the ethics involved. So I will pass some of that onto you as well.



Now hypnotizing someone is both an art and a science.  Hypnotizing your slave is art, science, chemistry, and dancing.  If she is willing to trust you completely...to give her mind over to you completely...there is potential to put her so deep into hypnotic states that a therapist rarely achieves. If you are lucky and blessed enough to have a wonderful and truly submissive (like <3 Ashlie <3 ) then you can touch her very soul. 




So if you don't truly love and want to keep your slave for a long long time...don't fuck with her and don't use hypnosis. 




As a Master, you must take care and be super mindful of everything you say while she is hypnotized as you have an opportunity to remove her bad habits and encourage her at a fundamental level -- and as I said before, this is the most effective training tool. 


I think this post will be a simple overview of what hypnosis is without getting too deep into techniques, ethics and such. But the main idea is: you can use hypnosis to help your slave see and envision herself in the life that she deeply desires to live.  You can improve her behaviors, self-image and thoughts so she is much more satisfied with life. And you can use hypnosis to take the place of actual training where it will have the effect of the most successful training session.  She can visualize herself 'as if' she's been fully trained and how that will make her feel: creating a desire to be fully trained.

A master can also use regression type therapy to get a handle on her various actions and even her sexuality and learn exactly what makes her tick.  And those parts that lead to a poor self-image? Nuke them at their core.



Of course, hypnosis is no replacement for actual training...as why the fuck would I ever give that up?? Absolutely not. Real life training is essential.  But if you hit stumbling blocks, resistance or want to take things to the next level, hypnosis is the way to go.


Now let's cover exactly what hypnosis is and isn't:

1. Hypnosis is NOT mind control.


Hypnosis is the giving over of one's mind and allowing the hypnotist to direct your thoughts for you.  But if the hypnotist tells you to go kill your brother -- it will immediately snap you out of the trance and you will resist the suggestion entirely. Why? Because you don't fucking want to kill your brother! Nothing is going to change that. You can only change that which the slave desires to change.




You have to work with your slave and get her on board with any suggestion...or you will fail to put her under or keep her there.




2. Hypnosis is simply guiding the internal voice inside someone's head. So you can only work within the confines of what they are willing to accept. Cross the line and you will pop her out of it. So being a skilled hypnotist involves developing trust with your slave -- and testing her, coaching her, questioning her and carefully feeling her out before moving to give a suggestion that could potentially pull her out of it. But if you succeed...you can bring her deeper down into even more suggestible states. 




3. It has been argued that all hypnosis is essentially self-hypnosis and even that we are all hypnotized all through our lives from the age of about 3 or so when we start to believe all the things everyone tells us about the world.




4. Being hypnotized doesn't feel any different. Hell, I've had people so deep that they could not feel any pain whatsoever nor even register that I was hurting them...and yet they claimed they 'felt normal' the entire time.  So don't bother analyzing the state and trying to figure out if you have been hypnotized or not -- and don't waste distracted thoughts on  things like, "Do I feel different now?"




5. You cannot force it on someone. In fact, trying to force it will practically guarantee you bring them out of the state or at least up to a higher level. It can only be done effectively with trust. The more the better. She must be willing to cooperate with you. 




6. Hypnosis is a way to talk to the subconscious mind.  You can bypass the filters and critical thinking that is normally overlaid on your actual thoughts....and so hypnosis is really useful to have a deep conversation with the real and true slave-- not the girl that she is projecting out to the world. 



7. Hypnosis makes it far easier to accept suggestions.  You are talking to the subconscious mind. Get it on board and then say, 'hey, wouldn't to be better if..." and she agrees, she's in. She adopts the suggestion at a much deeper level and is way more likely to follow through with it...and remember it even when she doesn't consciously think about it. Basically, the subconscious mind is lazy and will just accept change without wanting to work for it ;)




8. The rational mind (aka normal waking consciousness) spends all kinds of time thinking about right and wrong, different paths to take and problem solving. It is very flexible...but it has no clear idea of what you want or why. 




9. The subconscious mind just is...it's the part of you that makes you YOU. If you want to feel love and pleasure all day long....it will guide you towards that unceasingly and provide every opportunity to make that happen. It is also made for visualizing and envisioning the future...it's the part that shapes your true desires. Oh, and it's also the source of all your emotions too. There's that. All your habits, core beliefs and deepest memories are stored here.




10. Your inner thinking and lifestyle are governed by the subconscious mind.  So you don't need willpower --you need to get the subconscious mind on board so that it wants the change...and the rest is easy. Help her mind to imagine a reality that she deeply desires...and you practically done.

So this is the beginning of my overview of hypnosis. I'll talk more on how and why it works, give tips and specifically how to use it in slave training.



Improving Self-Image of the Slave part 2

[Continued from Part 1]
The best way to improve a slave's self-image is by helping her feel happy.


It may sound too simple, but simply telling your slave when she is pleasing you with her behavior is the best way to improve her self-image and help promote happiness. Whenever she does something that you want repeated...reward her: positively re-enforce the behaviors you want repeated. Clearly let her know that she's done well.

Your slave will most likely come to you burdened with all sorts of ideas of what it means to be a successful member of society: she should have money, possessions and a powerful job. Well guess what? Those things don't fucking make you happy!! It's a bullshit lie that money leads to happiness.  Millionaires and people making $50k a year have identical happiness scores. Material things? Nope. They offer only an extremely short term spike in happiness and then you just have more crap in your house. A powerful job? Well, no...it's not the power that makes you happy...it's the connected-ness with other people, feeling valued and being creative. So let's look at what makes people happy for real.

Top 5 Things that Make People Happy

  1. Connection: Family and Relationships 
  2. Compassion: Treating everyone with kindness 
  3. Caretaking: Looking after others
  4. Being grateful for what you have
  5. Health: massively influenced by feeling empowered   

And the biggest factor in unhappiness?  Financial stress. (See, this is why we think having money will make us happy! Because we are stressed about it...but the truth is having money just stops you from being miserable: it doesn't make you happy at all.)
So guess what? You are the Master and your fucking job is to make your slave feel happy.  Happiness and self-image go hand and hand. And you job is to guide your slave and look after her.   Luckily, being a slave is one of the most wonderful and simple ways to get happy! Let me explain.

A skilled Master should guide a slave's tonal (a.k.a. mental self-talk) and he can put the slave into a position such that she is free from all financial stress and burdens.  Additionally, he can give her all sorts of opportunities to caretaking and serving and appreciate the hell out of her for it.  He can guide her mind so that she regularly focuses on kindness and compassion. And he can create a solid, safe, secure family type situation where the slave is completely comfortable and confident in her role.

Now, if the Master is vocal of his appreciation of her...she should blossom and her self-worth, self-esteem and yes, happiness should skyrocket. The slave gains satisfaction from connecting with her Master and takes pride in serving and even takes on a special and easy to understand social position amongst the community. Her ability to serve well becomes intrinsically intertwined with her serving and not having to worry about anything else.

Additionally, the Master grows to love and depend on her for her spectacular service -- and it's a real win-win situation. 

The main point is: a Master must create the right circumstances where he reshapes and recasts the slave's thoughts so that her self-esteem becomes linked to serving and gaining the approval and encouragement of her Master. 

The Master has several tools at his disposal to influence his slave strongly and improve her self-image so that she is focused on happiness.

A Master's Top 10 Tools for Improving his slave:


  1. Hypnosis
  2. NLP
  3. Positive Re-enforcement (aka praise)
  4. Setting Goals
  5. Teaching coping skills
  6. Mantras (e.g. compassion meditation
  7. Visualization
  8. Meditation
  9. Clearly defined rules and practices
  10. Punishment and sexual rewards


I will talk about each of these and attempt to link back to this article and fill these in as the sections are written. 

Ok, I still have more to say on Improving Self-Image of the Slave this will have be....

[To be Continued]



    Improving the Self-Image of your slave Pt.1



    Your slave's self-image is your responsibility


    First off, before you go running off trying to help and guide others: you absolutely must have a positive self-image for yourself. I repeat: any Master must have a positive self image. If not, it will be super obvious to your slave and any lessons you are trying to teach will come off as in-genuine and inconsistent. (Note: women are 5-10x more sensitive to inconsistent behaviors of men so guys...there really is no faking it.)

    Why should a slave have a positive self image? Isn't it easier to control a beaten and broken girl with no self-esteem?  Well, yes...but you then are responsible for a low grade girl who is likely to be miserable.  Besides, slaves can be trained far more easily with good mental health and self-image.  And the whole point of being a Master is to uplift your slaves and improve their lives...and this begins with her internal thinking. 
    So after you have mastered yourself, the next step is to grasp exactly where your slave is and how she thinks about herself. She may have an internal dialogue that is completely out of control and feeding her a wonky view of the world and herself. So the first step is talk to her and question her: find out how she thinks of things, what she thinks about and how she feels about herself.  This should be done very early on in her training.
    I like to think of the this as guiding the tonal. The tonal is term used by Carlos Castaneda as term for the part of us responsible our internal dialogue and how we see and describe the world to ourselves. The tonal is that internal voice that is constantly talking to us and telling us all sorts of things that make sense to us -- because it's been working with our own personal logic system for all of our lives (ok, since we were 3-4 years old in most cases.)  And this logic system is based entirely on our past experiences alone and can be completely custom tailored to just one person. So the tonal is the voice in our heads but also the part that controls all of our expectations and guides our actions. 
    Sometimes I want to do this to a girl's tonal
    But our tonal has tons of faulty logic.  Sure, it may say, "Hey! A $50 bill on the ground! Pick it up before anyone else sees it."  But it may also say, "You can't talk to that girl because she's got a blue umbrella on a sunny day. You know what happened last time you tried to chat up a crazy girl like that." ...which is utter non-sense but the tonal only has to be convincing to one person. In fact, almost anyone else listening in on someone else's internal thoughts from their tonal...would probably think they were totally and utterly nuts. In fact, it's the purpose of the Master to help the slave out by examining her tonal and pointing out the crazy stuff she's convinced herself of.
    And the tonal is basing most decisions and actions on past experience...on convictions rather than actually observing the current situation closely.  And with this, the tonal determines how we live our lives. 
    Now, being a Master, your job is not easy at all. This is not so 'sexy' but rather useful for the slave. But at the same time, guiding her tonal can have the most profound impact on her life -- and on how she lives as a slave. Adjusting her tonal, she can learn to love herself, you, her body and have the most positive self-image possible. She can learn to view her slavery as that best and most freeing thing that could happen to anyone. And she can learn that sex is awesome and cumming all the time and being happy can be a way of life.
    Often, certain key events served to shape your slave's beliefs.  It's important to know what those events were and how she views them.  Remember, there is no judgement at all -- your job is simply 3 things:
    1. determine the facts of what happened
    2. determine the story her tonal is telling her about those facts
    3. Determine the result on her life
    NOTE:  do not assess the facts with your own tonal and logic system

    If she thinks that putting an eggshell in every cup of tea she drinks makes her happy and pretty because her grandmother did it...fine. Facts: her grandmother put eggshells in her tea and now she does it. Story: eggshells in tea make you happy and pretty. Result: she feels happy and pretty.

    If you asses this with your own tonal, you probably think this is nuts. You may even want to completely alter this belief because it's so crazy.  But I wouldn't touch it because the result is serving her: she feels happy and pretty.   

    And this whole idea of controlling her tonal is results based. 

    Of course, emotions play a massive role in the power of beliefs so pay close attention to the emotions and emotional words that come out of her mouth. 

    Now a positive self image is important...and getting there is a trick.  You have to guide her and her tonal so that she slowly abandons the beliefs that are not serving her and replace them beliefs that give her a sense of satisfaction, belonging, accomplishment and joy from serving her Master well.  Linking service with feeling pride and accomplishment is key. Then she will want to serve you because service makes her  happy. 

    If her tonal is controlled then you control the slave. 

    A slave can also learn to let go of all sorts of stresses and negative ideas and replace them with a feeling of safeness...security...knowing that it's not her responsibility but her Master's and she trusts him with her life.  Instead of feeling worried or stressed she feels ease and safe knowing that she just someone else's property. She knows that the most important things are to serve well. 

    Additionally, she cannot own other material things and as a result...she is freed from the most destructive cycles and forces in the Western world: being caught up in trying to acquire material things for 'happiness' and showing off your status through your material wealth. Instead, she feels the happiness of being a slave.

    Now how do you get to know all about your slave's tonal? Again, part of slave training is removing any privacy she might have with her thoughts and emotions. You are her Master and she can and must tell you all the important thoughts in her head. This can have a profound effect on her -- and help her to trust you more than any other person on the planet.

    Many psychologists have patients fall in love with them because they can tell them anything and they listen-- and are not judgmental at all.  This too is your role as a Master. Never, ever berate her for telling you some stupid thing that is on her mind. If it needs to be changed and adjusted, do that...but never make her feel bad about sharing.

    All of this promotes openness, sharing, trust and...love.  So take it very seriously and treat this powerful tool with respect.

    Wow, I still have a lot more to say on this subject so I will end this here and continue in my next post on the practical things you can do to help boost your slave's self-image. 
       
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