Orgasm Control

Orgasm control should be a part of slave training.  As a Master, you are in charge of your slave's sexuality. It is that simple.  You are in control of if and when she cums, who she fucks and  how often.  This is an essential part of controlling her very being...and, in my humble opinion, this is what slaves desire above all else.  So be sure to give it to them.

There are many methods that a Master can employ in order to gain control over her orgasms:

1) Forced Masturbation. This a favorite of mine. The Master forces the slave to cum many times a day, every day.  He directs her as to the methods employed (use a magic wand for example) and what kind of porn to look at while she touches herself. Of course, this also determines the number of times or the amount of time she spends masturbating.  I like a number between 20 and 40 for my daily orgasm quota.

2) Masturbation without orgasm. A Master can also have the slave get herself in an constant state of arousal but not allow her any release (except perhaps on his cock?)  This method has the slave masturbating several times a day almost to orgasm and then she has to stop. Or you can make her touch herself for an hour -- bringing herself to the edge as many times as she can...but never being allowed to go over the edge.

3) Tie and Tease.  A Master should also take a hands on approach. So the Master can bind her so her legs are spread and she can't move and then stimulate her (I like to use the magic wand here) so while ordering her strictly not to cum.  She has to hold herself back from orgasm under threat of severe punishment. As you see here about to fail and cum...pull it away -- and maybe slap her face to help her not go over the edge.  

4) Cumming on Command. You can use the tie and tease  method above so that she learns to cum on command too! Make it so she has to wait for you to give the order to cum before she can be released. A wonderful benefit of this is training her to beg for the chance to orgasm. God that's hot!  Do the teasing right and she will be begging you with every ounce of her soul to cum.

5) Forced Shejaculation. If a Master can't be around to watch the fun you can force her to shejaculate (female ejaculate aka squirting). This way, when the Master returns home he can see the proof that she's been a good little girl when she presents him with a bowl of her liquid orgasms.  I like the proof method as it gives her something tangible to work to towards...she is physically creating something she can hold and give to you.

6) Chastity. A Master can also go to the opposite extremes and deny her the ability to cum at all or even to touch herself.  This method can employ the use of devices like chastity belts with a lock on it so that she has no access to her pussy for self-stimulation.  I am not a huge fan of this method as my kink is getting more and more orgasms out of her...not denying her. But this can be extremely effective to make a slave nuts for a few days after she's been cumming 40 times a day for months: the shock of not cumming at all for a few days can turn her into a raving nympho...which is what every Master should aspire to create!

7) Timed Release.  Basically, the way I like to do this is tell the slave a specific time later on in the day that she can cum for you...that she will have to cum in front of you and for you.  Then you order her to go masturbate almost to orgasm 3 times ...while she knows full well that she won't get to cum till that evening at 8pm in front of you. This gets her all aroused and horny for the rest of the day so she'll be thinking about cumming for you all day long.

Safety

A word of warning here. This can and will get very intimate and intense for her. You are toying with the very core of her sexual being and she will become emotionally and physically attached to you -- needing your words and direction.  Do not do this casually with a slave you don't really care about --as it will create an emotionally dependent slave that if you disgard haphazardly, she will be crushed and ruined for other Masters (or at least, those other Masters will have to spend way too much time undoing your fuckups.)   So don't do this! 

I repeat: orgasm control is very emotional and her emotional safety is at risk so only do this with a slave you care deeply for.  This is emotionally powerful stuff here, so treat her with respect! 

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10 Things a Dom/Domme Should Remember

1. Your submissive's well being and health must always be priority
   
2. Cuddles heal power
3. She is more fragile than you think. You can make her stronger with tender love.
4. You must establish trust with your slave before you attempt to order her around.
5. Be humble. Being a loud and cocky bastard is unappealing
6. Always communicate your desires and allow her frequent opportunities to tell you what's on her mind.
7. You always have more to learn. Part of your job is to learn constantly.
8. If you are inexperienced at something, say so. She has a right to know -- and knowing may have her speak up before she gets accidentally hurt.
9. Alcohol should not be part of your scene. Alcohol impairs you judgement and puts your sub at risk.  So stick to more straightforward fucking when drunk.
10. Aftercare is important. Check in with her often as her emotional state is your responsibility. Appreciate her for all she's given you.  

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Multi-Orgasmic Men

Here's a topic that I've been fond of since I was around 16 or so: being multi-orgasmic.  I'm not going to lie to you though...I've explained this to a bunch of other guys and none have come back with the same results so I can only tell you about what works for me.  And I think it has to do with having a really strong PC muscle and also a strong will.

So guys can be multi-orgasmic. I know this with certainty because I am. The key is simple -- all you have to do is separate the ejaculation from the orgasm. If you cum and squirt -- you will quickly lose your erection and desire if you are not around 13-16 years old.  You may even want to fall asleep (in truth, the chemicals released by most male orgasms are 7x more potent than Valium...so girls, don't blame the guys here they are being pummeled with a massive dose of short acting sedatives.) But again, the key is having an orgasm without squirting cum everywhere.

But how the hell do you orgasm without ejaculating??? It's actually pretty easy -- in principle. It does depend partially on how strong your will is and secondly to how strong your PC muscle is.  Let's start with the PC muscle.

The PC or Pubococcygeus muscle is the muscle right under your taint (between your balls and your ass.) Of course, girls also have a PC muscle despite their notable lack of balls. But since this is post on multi-orgasmic men...meh. I'll do a post for the ladies later -- especially since it relates to my most favorite topic for female ejaculation and making girls squirt when they cum.  So the first thing you have to know is the Pubococcygeus muscle is really really difficult to pronounce and I will only ever say PC muscle and if you insist, I'll point to the word because I don't know how to say it. Secondly, you use it all the time to cut off the flow of urine. Squeeze it and it stops you from peeing -- and also is the muscle that forces the remaining pee out of your cock and into your slave, er, I mean toilet.

So my muscle has always been really strong so I can really associate with not being able to flex it. I

can squeeze mine as easily as I can squeeze my hand -- and you should too. I've explained this to friends and they seem to want to squeeze their stomach or thigh muscles but...that's not where it is (squeezing your thighs or stomach is like flexing your bicep to squeeze your hand. They are sorta related I guess -- but that's a whole ton of extra effort that is misguided.)

One for the ladies

Hmmm....there are exercises you can do to strengthen your PC muscle and I will do another post on these (I really should make a list of the posts I say I will do!!)  and you will need a strong PC muscle in order to hold back the ejaculate. What I do is as I am approaching orgasm, I squeeze the living-fuck out of the PC muscle and hold it for about 10-15 seconds to stop the ejaculate from coming out. It really helps to not move much or have massive stimulation to your cock as this is going on-- especially as you are learning.

You gotta be a boss.

The other key component, as I mentioned before, is will. Will is required by the truckload to keep yourself from ejaculating.  Why? Because the urge to ejaculate is massive. It feels fucking wonderful and every aspect of your body is doing all it can to make this happen.  So you are going to have to be strong.  If you let up and relax the muscle at all, you will squirt. And what does that mean? Less pleasure for you in the long run. But the orgasm while clenching the PC muscle is just as intense as the one while ejaculating. It's the same orgasm, just one is accompanied by some white liquid exiting your penis.

So you have to have the will power to resist the temptation to ejaculate and the muscle strength to actually hold it back.  Both of these are apparently pretty hard to have according to friends. Some have reported that they squeezed as hard as possible and still shot their load.  Others said they could hold it off for a few seconds and then it came out.  But none have said, 'nailed it!"

It is bar far easiest to practice this while masturbating. Get used to doing it by yourself before trying while fucking -- as that will be harder.  The pussy was designed to suck cum out of you -- yes, you have been warned.

But the benefits of this are massive:
1) you do not lose your hard on -- or at least can get hard again really really quickly.
2) you can cum again and again
3) see #2

So to become multi-orgasmic, simply:
a) exercise the PC muscle often (daily)
b) squeeze it as tightly as possible when orgasming
c) limit stimulation to the penis during orgasm
d) practice while masturbating.

I think that's about it. Pretty simple really. I am basing this whole article entirely on my own experience and didn't research a damn thing except I googled "pubococcygeus" and "vas deferens" for spelling.

Safety:
While being able to prevent yourself from ejaculating is good, you will still 'leak' semen -- especially for round 2 and beyond. This means that while it is significantly better than ejaculating inside her...this by no means is an effective method of birth control.  If totally successful you still will leak live sperm into her and can impregnate her. In fact, the ones that 'leak out' are by far the most dangerous!  Those are like the advance troops...special ops sperm that are the elite of your boys: the sperm special forces. They go in first, behind enemy lines, well in advance of the regular army and are all trained to get the job done.

Note: I'm not making that up. Read Sperm Wars. Sperm have different roles from blockers and killers to deal with enemy sperm to the leaky guys who are the fastest and most virile swimmers.

Secondly: If you practice this without tantric techniques to reabsorb the sperm and energy, it's best
to actually ejaculate at the end. Otherwise it is possible to end up with  varicosed vas deferens from repeated ejaculating into the vas deferens without giving it a place to go and keeping it there (this can happen by only holding it part way back.) But ejaculation cleans the whole system out and will be totally fine...it's just a build up of several days that's a real problem.  

 

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Knowing your Little from A to Z

DADDY DOM -- from the perspective of a little.

So you're a Daddy Dom.  Don't get stuck in your head about what YOU like about it.  

You probably like:
1) fucking her.
2) teaching her how to suck your cock
3) the cute babygirl sounds she makes and how she talks to you
4 )seeing her cum for Daddy
5) beating her like a bad little girl

But if you want to keep up this dynamic, you have to look at things from her perspective and make sure you are providing everything that she needs.

Think about it from her point of view.

Here's the A-Z of Things to Consider for your Little:

a) Is he still going to be my Daddy outside the bedroom?

b) Is he still going to be my Daddy outside the house?
c) Will he hold me when I'm scared?
d) Will he tell me what to do because I'm too young to make hard decisions?
e) Will he tuck me in a night?
f) Will he choose my stuffie that I will sleep with?
g) Will he buy me new stuffies?!!!
h) How will he react to a temper tantrum?
i) Will Daddy discipline me to do the right thing? To make me grow up into the bestest girl I can be? (Not just be a mean Daddy!)
j) Will Daddy love me and be interested when I show him the things I can do?
k) Will Daddy be interested in the little girl things I tell him about? Like the puppy I saw today!!!
l) Will Daddy watch cartoons with me?

m) Will Daddy send me to bed at bedtime?
n) Will Daddy read me stories at night?
o) Will Daddy re-read my favorite book as much as I want?
p) Will Daddy brush my hair?
q) Will Daddy put my drawing up on his fridge?
r) Will Daddy give me baths and wash me?
s) Will Daddy tie my shoes?
t) Will Daddy explain to me the grown up things using words a little girl can understand?
u) Will Daddy ask for crayons for me to colour at the restaurant?
v) Will Daddy check under the bed for monsters?
w) Will Daddy remember the name of my blankie?
x) Will Daddy care for me emotionally, mentally and physically too?
y) Will Daddy help me in the bathroom?
z) Will Daddy hold me when I cry?

Your little is doing her best to be a certain age...to immerse herself in that role. She's doing it because she loves you.   And it's your job to make a safe environment for her to be little. She wants to be a good little girl for you -- but you have to be a great Daddy for her.

Then she will love you with her great BIG little heart!  And be go to sleep dreaming of you sneaking into her room in the middle of the night for a little sleep creep. ;)

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Bargain Bondage - Dom Masks

When I wrote this, I didn't know where to put it until I realized that it should go in a whole new category: Bargain Bondage!  I'm totally cheap can make stuff C and C machines, laser cutters and good old tools....so I hate to buy stuff marked up beyond belief just because it's a 'sex thing.'

I remember talking with my friend Rat about his hockey bag of goodies that he'd just plunked down on the floor of my slave's apartment --  he'd made a lot of the stuff and still it had about $2500 worth of materials in it.

So I'm gonna write a series posts on how and where to get bdsm equipment/gear for cheap (without the added 'sex tax').  Note: Some leather work by talented artisans IS worth the high price.  I don't object to paying for quality and hours of workmanship...I object to paying $35 for some piece of crap at a sex shop that cost them under $1.

So let's get started.

DOM MASKS
There's something awesome about dressing up and being scary. Being fairly attractive and cuddly, sometimes it helps to bump up the scare factor.   Also, not seeing my mouth and eyes...adds a certain coldness.

If this is your thing, you can do it really cheap too.  Just search for Airsoft Masks and you can find them starting at $5.   http://www.aliexpress.com/products/army-of-two-airsoft-masks.html

Not bad for bondage gear on the cheap.

If you want to do it up a little, check out these:

http://www.c2coffer.com/buy/20032637/Army-of-Two-Rios-Paintball-Airsoft-Mask.html

$25 for a little terror? Nice.  Also, these are designed for paintball so you can run around in them without massive sweat meltdowns that plague plastic Halloween masks that don't breathe.

They also look pretty sick from behind:

What? $25 is too much for you?? How pretty much the same mask for $18?  http://www.aliexpress.com/item/free-shipping-Retail-and-wholesale-army-of-two-airsoft-masks-full-face-Amy-green-Black-Titanium/897997040.html

If you're into military Dom outfits like me, how about this?
http://www.365airsoftshop.com/gas-mask-style-full-face-cool-airsoft-maskbk-p-538.html?zenid=pomf081e9hu0bqvqlil89kbrp1

Sure, it'll set you back $30...but how much would something like this cost in Northbound Leather???

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Forced Bisexuality

It being Pride week, I made a prior post about bisexuality but now I want to address what can be done with it. First of all, I really don't like to date girls that are not bi. However, I do get a certain sense of satisfaction from enforcing bisexuality. When they are bi, there is so much more you can do with them.  As a Dom, giving her no choice about her actions adds a whole dimension of possibilities to her life with a whole new set of feelings. Bi girls also fit so much better into a poly lifestyle and household. And finally, being bi helps complete her transformation from good girl to wanton slut.

I have a fairly strict policy of only taking on bi subs that are open to poly.  (If you are unfamiliar with polyamory, see my post about it here.)  Bi girls are more sexual with a higher libido, orgasm more easily and tend to be much more likely to know what they want/need in bed. Additionally, they will get turned on by both the girls and the boys in porn and in real life -- which makes them great just to share and appreciate beauty.  But ultimately, I've found bi girls to be far more likely to understand a deep level, grok even, the need to be with more than one person because they just get that it's impossible for one person to completely satisfy all of their needs.  If she needs both cock and pussy -- she's obviously used to looking at multiple options on the menu.  So if other girls are introduced, a bi poly slut sees the direct benefit to her and is way less likely to freak out with a jealousy meltdown.

I also want to say here that I just plain have a tendency to attract girls that are bi. Not really sure why. I dated girls that pretty much date girls exclusively and I've been told that I know how to flirt like a girl when need be. (These kind of girls don't respond so well to the cave man approach of just grabbing them but take a far more subtle tact.) I've dated girls that have ended up marrying girls. And I also don't have the build up in my head about being with 2 girls at once being some sort of holy grail.  Hell, I've made out with 5 girls at the same time and had more 3-somes than I can count. I've lived in a triad more than once so 3-somes are just another way to have sex...like a blowjob.  But I also don't have the weird ideas that guys have that a girl is bi so she can have 3-somes with me.  She's bi so she's attracted to girls WITHOUT me in the picture. If I want a 3-some, the girls both have to have a close connect with each other and with myself -- and that is definitely not something you can just assume.


My Dom style enjoys the enforcing of bisexuality.  I don't like to leave it an option open to debate. No, a good little sexpet will be bi.  Of course, the girls that work with deeply want to be bi and do things with girls but often feel social constraints that inhibit them from acting on their bi urges.  So basically, I am forcing her to do the things she wants to do in her heart of hearts.

I can work with a girl who finds it deeply humiliating to be forced to do things to a girl when their preference is men. This is deeply fun to do as even a simple kiss can humiliate her.  Especially in public. ha ha.  Making a girl do things she finds degrading such as being with a girl -- it's like crack to me. She needs to do this often so that she knows her place and has no illusions about her being a pure sex slave.

The other aspect that really rocks my world is taking complete and total control of her sexuality.   I control when she masturbates (see Forced Masturbation) , the number of orgasms she has a day (see Demanding Orgasms), the kind of clothes she wears (see Appropriate Slutwear),  where she pees, what she puts inside of her and...who she has sex with.  Making 2 slaves eat each other out is wonderful as they can make each other cum...which I find fulfilling to watch.  If more than 2 slaves are involved it's even better. But I am happy just to grab them by the hair and make them kiss.  The important thing is: she loses control of her sexuality and it becomes something in my control.

Of course, with a fetish for female ejaculation, having bi sluts to pleasure and milk each other is wonderful wonderful thing.  Girls can make each other squirt -- which I could watch endlessly -- and then give me the fruits of their labor in a delicious beverage!  And what better way to confirm that the girls have been playing well with each other than seeing the squirts they have collected (see Milking Slaves.)

Having bi subs also opens up a window to all sorts of creative play.  I do enjoy seeing girls play with toys and asses: and of course, this opens the door to forcing a girl to pull a toy out of the other slave's ass and put it in her mouth. She may also be deeply humiliated and turned on by having to stick her tongue up another girl's ass or to taste her ass off of my cock.  She can be made to eat food out of her holes  (do be sure to thoroughly wash the vegetables as there can be pesticides on them  which, aside from being poison, are also irritants.) There are also a ton of uses for whipped cream.  Slaves can be tied up together in positions where one can pleasure the other. Slaves can be forced to wear butt plugs together -- tied up and completing to hold it in the longest.  And the slaves can be tasked to make the other slave cum a certain amount of times.

It takes time and effort to keep sex slaves fully occupied throughout the day and having other girls around is absolutely essential to making sure the slaves are sexually focused the entire time. Also, having another girl or two around dressed as total sluts is a great encouragement and the girls get to have the added benefit of being surrounded by appealing eye-candy in sexy clothes.   Well, more than eye candy as these girls will want to fuck her and be doing things like masturbating to porn in front of her.

Porn is also a tool that is extremely helpful to guide a girl's thoughts and get her mind trained. She should and will have to masturbate to girls in porn on a daily basis.  This is often deeply humiliating and difficult for a girl at first -- but it is a requirement.   She must masturbate and look at images of girls while stimulating herself -- and I will guide her mind as to what to think.  She will learn to appreciate the beauty of other women. She will learn to desire them. And she will learn to love it.

A girl begins a transformation when she gives up her sexuality: she becomes a sex slave. She should be more eager for women than men.  Not that she won't get cock -- she will! But her sexuality is mine and she will learn to like what I like.

To be honest though, I know that the girls want to do these things in their heart of hearts but are way

to shy to manifest the experiences on their own. So I am just an enabler who helps the girls live out their life of fantasy. I certainly know that my sexpet Ashlie was extremely shy about girls when I started training her -- and now? She's such a slut that she now has a strong preference to cumming to females in porn everyday. She will gladly do anything at all to any female I suggest...but she will have some objections (knowing her) if the girl is hairy or overweight...so I do my best to only offer her the finest selections. But I also take the responsibility for her actions completely out of her hands: she HAS to do this to please me.

Now here is where it gets complicated.  You see, I am poly at my core. And I want the girls not only to physically love one another, but I want them to feel a strong emotional connection as well.   And this is where the concept of a slave-sister comes in.  Slaves are not allowed to be catty or mean to one another.  No, instead, I want them to open their hearts, minds and bodies to one another and gain a sister whom they trust and adore.  They will develop are real relationship...but one where they have the protection of the Master.  If one girl is mean or pulls away...she will be severely beaten and punished. Why? Because her job is to love.  She is a sexpet. A sex slave. And her job is to love physically and emotionally. Nothing less will suffice.

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50 Ways to be a Better Daddy

I started off calling this "Rules for Daddies"...but they are not really rules becasue if you are anything like me, being told what to do makes you NUTS!

Part of being a Daddy Dom is taking the lead and helping create a world for your little girl where she is safe to be young, sweet and innocent.

If you find yourself lacking inspiration, you can refer to the following list to see what appeals to you.




So here are

50 Things You Can Do to be a Better Daddy:

1. Give her attention everyday.  Even a quick text lets her know she's in your thoughts
2. Do something with her that she's never done before
3. Commit to her in some way. I'm poly...but that doesn't mean a girl doesn't have a special place in my heart and my life.
4. Discipline her as needed. And even when it isn't needed. ;)
5. Enjoy her silly and cute side -- before she grows out of it
6. Put your fingers inside her
7. Inspect her pussy to make sure it's completely bare
8. Spontaneously kiss her hard
9. Make her tell you her dreams
10. Set goals for her to achieve them
11. Squeeze her as tight as you can
12. Think of something you love about her -- every single day
13. Put one of her drawings up on your fridge
14. Put her birthday into your calendar
15. Know her middle name
16. Get her to tell you her thoughts
17. Lick her in unexpected places and carefully watch to see the spots that work
    
18. Undress her
19. Lay out the clothes that she is to put on
20. Molest her while she sleeps
21. Pick your little girl up and never put her down
22. Ask her if there is anything she needs help with
23. If she's bratty, she wants a spanking. Give it to her
24. Clearly explain what you expect of her
25. Find out her limits...then push her right to the edge
26. Honor her for giving herself and her power over to you
27. Protect her.   If someone is pushing her around, it is your duty to step up and defend her
28. Create a safe space for her.
29. Hint and lead up to the big games you have planned for using her
30. Spoon her. She is so cute as a little spoon!
31. Buy her an unusual stuffed animal that matches her personality
32. When you watch TV together, have her sit on your lap.
33. Sing her a lullaby
34. Write a poem for her
35. Don't complain to her. You're her Daddy. Complaints go from littles --> adults.
    
36. Send her a letter
37. If you go on a trip, bring back a toy from your travels
38. Spank the hell out of her tight little ass
39. Give her apple juice with a bendy straw after a spanking
40. Put her in the tub and bathe her
41. Be stronger than you are: be her superman
42. Take to Build a Bear and have her make her own teddy
43. Cut her meat up for her
44. Teach her about something totally perverse and present it as an adult game
45. Call her work, "School", her co-workers "kids in her class" and her boss is her "Teacher".
46. Send her to bed when she is tired
47. Check for monsters under the bed
48. Read her bedtime stories
49. Tuck her in at night
50. Put a night light in her room so she's not afraid of the dark

    

    "Just like a lollypop, Daddy?"

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Ageplay

Ageplay is a form of roleplaying between two (or more, heh heh) consenting adults where participants act as if they are a different age than their biological age.   It may or not be sexual but the primary characteristics are the powerplay, lack of responsibility, and re-experiencing the emotional states and interactions of your youth.

Usually people pretend to be much younger than they are with common ageplay ages being:  baby (0-16months old);  toddler (2-3 years old); young child (4-7); prepubescent child (8-11); preteen (12-13); and teenager (14-17).  However, the girl may get off on the guy playing an elderly man, for example...it doesn't matter: if you are roleplaying a different age: it's ageplay.

Ageplayers who pretend to be little girls call themselves littles. They often refer to 'their little self' as way of owning their little persona and incorporating it into their adult life. Littles love to see things from a childlike perspective -- and point out when people are not sharing and being mean!

Ageplay, for me, is highly sexual but I've played with girls who love it just for the fact that she gets to
color and make drawings and just plain be a little girl with no responsibilities nor worries. A girl can get off on the fact that her Daddy will take care of everything -- and she gets to re-experience the safety and security of having an ever loving, strong Daddy who knows everything and will take care of her.

I used the term Daddy above, but that's just a form of roleplaying -- it's not required nor is the incest element a defining characteristic.  In fact, having sex with some related to me doesn't work for me at all -- yet a girl calling me Daddy and being my little girl...damn, that's hot. I think the Daddy part is one of the easiest ways to establish a roleplaying scene where love and a close emotional connection are assumed.

The real reason that I love littles

As a Daddy, there's clearly one element that attracts me to this: the big-ass heart of a little girl!! Fuck your baggage: love me like you've never been hurt. Little girls have the biggest, purest hearts -- and they love with all of it! It's not conditional. It's not judgmental.  It's just love.  And who can deny or hurt* a little girl that loves you with all her heart?!  It's addictive <3

*- Ok, I can spank the hell out of her tight little bottom...but I'm talking about heart/mind hurts.

Ageplay is not considered pedophilia or related to pedophilia by professional psychologists. It's roleplaying that allows the girl the freedom to open up like a child in ways she might not in her adult shell. And for Daddies...there is a certain assumed power dynamic of an adult having absolute say over the child -- but this dynamic can have a loving, tender element attached to it that is far different than say, a Nazi/Jewess roleplay. The Daddy has the authority but need not enforce his will so sternly: his word is often enough.  Not that Daddies don't spank ;)

Aside from the girl having all of her burdens disappear when she becomes a little, she loses not only the responsibilities in her but the concept of responsibility too. Her world becomes one about play.  And now she's free to do the things she still enjoys such as play with dolls, stuffed animals and pencil crayons. In fact, if she didn't like stuffed animals (aka stuffies) I might suspect there was something seriously wrong with her. 

Some age players like to go to infant form -- to be just physical and maybe not even know any words at all.  It's like a self-imposed kind of bondage if you think about it.  Instead of gags and rope, the baby just plain can't speak or walk.  And there is also diapers involved which can get them off with changing -allowing for exposure and touching of genitalia when cleaning them up.  Note: they may be playing...but she still can have some big girl poops and so...well, I prefer girls in the 8-12 range. ;)

The effect of a big heart and the innocent worldview I find intoxicating.  There is one subbie I know who does it so well and so whole-heartedly that she's just seems like the most delightful sweetie ever! Even though she doesn't match the physical body type I've posted about earlier (though she does have a very pretty face and the bestest long straight black hair <3  ) ...but it's her energy and her sweet little-girlness that truly won me over.  And with Ashlie (who just had a birthday and turned 11) it's nice because they play well together and both love stuffies!

Hmmm...you know, I haven't mentioned this blog at all to her. I should really send her the link. :)

The reason I enjoy ageplay so much is also because I get to share with the girl her sense and remembrance of her awakening sexuality. I get to really learn about what makes her tick by hearing about her first feelings and awareness of sexual feelings.  From the first time she touched herself in the show to the first time she remembers squeezing her legs together in the way it felt really good.

I'm sure I'll write more about littles and ageplay...but it's bedtime. So get off to bed and I'll be up in 5 minutes to tuck you in. 

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The Importance of a Warm Up

Getting a slave into the right head space is extremely important because it has a huge effect on their physiological response -- it is the difference between her getting wet and her being turned off. Personally, I make it my business to do all I can to have turned on all the time (and unless you are a bit of a sociopath...this should be hugely important to you too.)

One of the easiest ways to shock her and turn her off is by starting off with hitting her hard with a cane.  She's just not ready for it yet: she's not warmed up.  So instead of being primed for the pain and the endorphin producing parts of her brain in high gear...she just shocked and it hurts and stings and sucks for her. But that exact same hit when she's warmed up will be delightful to her and send her into subspace. ets

HOW IT WORKS
Let's look at why this works.  By starting slow and gradually working your way up to more painful activities you give her a chance to both mentally and physically prepare for it. Mentally, she may be coming back from works or school and be stressed and her mind is on mundane daily activities. So if you warm her up slowly, you give her a chance to mentally adjust to the scene and also to start to anticipate more.

Her anticipation is key.  I think of it as teasing.  You know she wants more but you're not ready yet and she has to deal with your pace and needs. Soon she is begging in her mind for more and more...so when you up the ante-- she has a sense of release. Hint and threaten her first.

Also, some light flogging and easy play lets her easily slip into her slave role...reminding her of who she really is. If you come at her like a freight train...and she's stressed and emotionally weak she may interpret it as abuse and instead of being fun, it is traumatizing. So give her a chance to let go of her daily baggage and become yours.

She also needs some time physically to warm up to higher levels of pain.  Light flogging causes blood to start flowing to her skin, and also gives the nerves a new and higher baseline that you can gradually move upwards. Think of her like an athlete who doesn't just jump into the most strenuous activity but stretches and warms up first so they are ready for the more difficult activity.

At the same time, her brain starts to pump out endorphin in response to the pain stimulus.  This has morphine like drug effects on her and is the thing that helps her convert the signal of 'pain' into an interpretation of 'pleasure'.   But the pharmacy in the brain takes a little bit to get warmed up and start pumping out the good chemicals in volume...so give it a heads up as to what is coming so when you hit her with the cane, she drops a ton of brain candy and goes into ga ga land.

HOW TO WARM A SUB UP

Warming up is quite simple...just look at whatever it is you are wanting to do and think about it on a scale of 1 to 10.  If you plan on flogging the daylights out of her..taking her to a 10 at your roughest....well, from there start a 1 and start moving up slowly. She'll love the anticipation and building of suspense.

If you are biting, I find really long, slow, lingering bites that get harder and harder as time progresses is the way to go.  But still, you can start really low on the scale and go up to a 6.  Then bite again...but move slowly from a 1 to a 7 this time.  Then move up again...starting at a 3 and going up to 8 and so on.

If you a making her gag on a dildo...give a hint about it first and then gradually up the ante.

Using hot wax? Start from a high height and less sensitive area and gradually lower the candle closer to the target while selecting more sensitive targets.

 This works for all sorts of activities...just think about where you are going and dial it back -- remember, in BDSM, it's all about the journey and not just making it to the destination. Warming up also applies to changing activities or parts of the body you are working on. If you are paddling the hell out of her ass after warming her up sufficiently...you can start a lot harder on her nipples but going straight to a 10 on her nipples won't be nearly as effective as starting at a 6 and going up from there.

Finally, warming her up gives her time to become sexually aroused. A turned on girl...will enjoy FAR FAR MORE!  If she's horny and near cumming...all the better! A girl who is highly sexually aroused can endure massive amounts of pain and it will feel pleasurable...where a girl who is not horny at all will just perceive pain.

SAFETY

Subs can react far different than you might anticipate or how previous subs have acted with you...so a warm up acts as a testing of the waters to make sure she's cool with whatever you have planned.   I've seen a slave's ass go deep purple over a huge hand-span-sized area at a hit that would have made my previous sub go slightly red.

Because people react differently to different things: a warm up can save you a lot of both emotional and physical distress.

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On Being Thin Pt.2

This girl is crazy hot-so yummy! <3

In a previous post On Being Thin, I described the health benefits of being thin and also explained how being thin makes girls a lot hornier.  Well, this post is going to be about what I do with that info. From things that I like to see to rules for my slaves to help them stay thin for me.

Let's start off  with rules: I love for my slave to be thin and want to make it as easy as possible to make that happen for both of us. 

Same girl...still hot!

Rule #1
As I mentioned in the previous post, fasting is apparently a very good thing for the body.  So, to
encourage fasting, a slave will have 2 days a week were she eats only a tiny little breakfast or if she prefers a small lunch.  The slave will drink lots throughout the day but if she notices herself feeling very hungry or her stomach grumbling, she will have to masturbate to thin girls for me.  This way, she associates being thin and hungry with being horny:  a perfect mix.

Rule #2
Despite being thin being associated with eating disorders like anorexia and beleemia, I most certainly don't encourage eating disorders.  To be sure that my slaves don't go down that path, the key element of control must be in my hands.  I can order her to a large chocolate cake if it pleases me and she will have to eat it all. And she is not, under any circumstances, allowed to cause herself to puke with just 2 exceptions.  1) if she has eaten something that she believes is poisonous or hazardous and inducing vomiting is the correct behavior to keep herself healthy for me. 2) if she must puke, she may only do so by gagging on my cock and puking all over it.  This ensures I know about every instance of her puking and can monitor it correctly and make sure it does not get out of hand.  This is especially for girls who have already been struggling with this eating disorder -- and can give her a very viable and accepting way to vent and share the experience without having to hide it shamefully.  And if you think I am hugely entertained by repeated bouts of eating whole tubs of ice cream and cookies and then puking it on my cock...sure,  I can enjoy that a bit...but I certainly won't be allowing you  to do this endlessly while spiraling out of control. I will redirect these impulses.

Rule #3
A sex slave will weigh herself every day and report her weight to me.  This allows me to track your weight and monitor it for you.  Also, I know that weight naturally fluctuates somewhat so  the important thing is remaining aware and knowing that you will have to report your weight to your Master also is a strong willpower enhancer. And if that fails, there's always nipple clamps. *evil grin*

Rule #4
Exercise is good for you!   Even simple things like walking and biking to get around. I would MUCH rather see you eat more than you are currently eating while exercising a bunch and gaining some weight in muscle while losing body fat over starving yourself.  Ot if you're going to play games online...use a machine at the same time!




Mental and Emotional States:
Girls usually are sensitive about their weight and looks...there's a lot of societal pressure. So my goal is to assist her...being the coach, the personal trainer and the inspiration. If she feels fat and ugly...she's not going to want to fuck. She's going to want to curl up in a ball covered with blankets. So be extremely kind and sensitive! Your responsibility is her mental state...so keep her mind correctly focus and empower her always. She should look and feel hot...not look hot and feel awful.

And now, my preferences:
I prefer girls that are really skinny. Why? Because skinny, weak little girls make terrific little sluts. A weak and very skinny girl just seems submissive to me.  And my mind has come to associate skinny with horny. And you being skinny with you submitting to my control. It's all good.

So I'd like to give a few examples of things I personally find really hot...and I expect my slaves to adjust their taste accordingly so that they like these things too.

Hip bones -- being able to clearly see hip bones is so damn wonderful. They also make great love handles (nothing like a good grip while fucking!)

SMALL BOOBS -- Skinny girls don't have huge, ugly udders...they have beautiful, perfectly proportioned boobs.  Tiny boobs on a tiny frame are the ultimate in sexy.  (Some girls refuse to believe that this is a real preference -- and I've used this insecurity against them...however, they eventually found out that my humiliating usage of words like "flat", "tiny" and "double a" were really the highest compliment I have. So yeah, the emotional roller coaster...enjoy it...but it ends on a massive upswing!)  

Cut pelvis -- see the lines drawing attention like an arrow to her pussy? Divine!

Visible Ribs --  see those ribs? I think they are sexy. I just do. <3

The Gap:  Notice how there is a gap between her legs? Very nice! Girls whose thighs touch everywhere...just can't hold a candle to this!

 

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