Female Libido Pt.2 Chemicals Enhancers

Female Libido...it's a great thing when it's working. So lets take a look at what makes women WANT to have sex...and what dampens their libido. I will divide this  into a series that covers physical, chemical enhancers, chemical dampeners, herbal, and mental.  This is Part 2: Chemicals Enhancers. 

Unfortunately, while we live in a society where we expect our problems to be solved by taking a pill...this isn't really the case with respect to the female libido.  The physical changes are going to have way more of an impact-- especially because they address the underlying problem. And here's a general disclaimer: I'm not a doctor and if you want to put drugs in your system then you must consult a doctor first. I'm not recommending that you use anything. 

Ok, ok, onto the chemicals and drugs! First I'll list the libido enhancers with the best near the bottom. Then I'll continue with chemical dampeners. 

Enhancers

First up is pharmaceuticals.  Specifically, Viagra (sildenafil).  Yes, the exact same Viagra that men take. Shockingly, the genitals of both sexes respond well to this drug.  ''Seventy-two percent of the women on Viagra vs. 27% of the women on placebo got to 'much improved' or 'very much improved' on a scale [of sexual functioning],'' says Harry A. Croft, MD.  Harry is the medical director of the San Antonio Psychiatric Research Center in Texas and a co-author on a study where women were given does of Viagra and the results quantified.   But interestingly, while it enhanced female pleasure...it didn't do much for upping their desire and will to have sex. But it had a big impact on increasing the frequency and intensity of orgasm. So..yeah, there's that.

"I actually prescribe a lot of Viagra for women," says, Irwin Goldstein, MD, director of sexual medicine at Alvarado Hospital in San Diego and editor-in-chief of The Journal of Sexual Medicine.  The effect is mostly due to causing the clit to swell up and be all good to go.

Next up, Flibanserin which is a drug to increase female libido.  The catch? It doesn't seem to work. The other catch? You can't say it's fucking name. So I can't see this drug going mainstream. If you want to read a boring-ass study on how it was proven to suck...knock yourself out. (ok, ok, it's only a summary...if you want to read more after that you truly are a masochist.)

How about something that works? Intrinsa! What is it? Basically, it is a clear testosterone patch that is worn just below the naval.  It releases 300 µg of testosterone every 24hrs -- which is way less than testosterone treatments for men.  Many women think of testosterone as a 'male hormone' but it is actually produced in the ovaries and adrenal glands of women.  Intrinsa is made by Proctor and Gamble and has some pretty good results:  over a 6 month study, 'satisfying sexual activity' increased by 73% in the users. Why? Because testosterone makes you want to have sex and will even encourage you to take action to make that happen.  The catch?  It's not legally approved in the US but you can get it by prescription in Canada and Australia. 

Then there is Libigel.  Personally, I like the name. It's another testosterone product, this time a gel that you spread on your arm.  Basically, it works the same way as Intrinsa.  The initial version of this had a massive 230% improvement in the frequency and pleasure of sexual encounters. Which is massive.  But in the 4th quarter of 2011 it was announced that it failed the Phase III trials -- which is bad as I believe Phase III drug tests are the major safety test. So if it say, causes breast cancer or heart attacks...it fails this phase.  So they dropped the dosage and resubmitted it to clinical trials...but as far as I know it's not out of the woods yet. 

But let's talk about other potential side effects of testosterone, shall we? Too much testosterone in women could have masculinizing effects: deeper voice, more hair, more acne, decreased breast size (yay!), and making your junk get bigger. Yes...megavag! It can also mess with your monthly cycle. 

Why not use estrogen? Well, Estratest does! But in combination with testosterone. Estrogen by itself apparently doesn't have much effect on sex drive.  Estratest was developed for women with their ovaries removed...and it boosted their sex drive (providing hormones formerly provided by ovaries.)  It's now prescribed by some doctors to boost libido. Like all estrogens, the hormone may increase the risk of heart attack, stroke, breast cancer, endometrial cancer, and blood clots in the lungs or legs.

Meth. Yeah, it's time to mix it up a bit. Time to go illegal, Breaking Bad style. Meth is reportedly a massive libido booster for women and men. It makes you horny as fuck and want to fuck for hours and all night long. The main drawback is...it's meth! It can turn you into a hallucinating, bat-shit-crazy, drug addicted loser if you are lucky.  Meth can fuck you up in a hurry. There's a ton of before and after 6 months on meth photos online...and it's scary. 

Just say no to meth.

Other popular illegal drugs for libido? Ecstasy! Ecstasy is a possible libido enhancer because it lowers inhibitions and makes everything feel really really freakin' good.  While it most definitely is a great drug to encourage making out and cuddling, I wouldn't say it is the best sex drug because of performance issues.  Everything feels good and sex seems like soooo much effort! Additionally, it messes with guys ability to both get hard and to cum. But the aftereffects are big downer for me: it causes depression and life loses it's zip...so it's not great for a long term solution to boosting libido. 

Next up, Lybrido by Pfizer (makers of Viagra).  Lybrido is a combination drug that uses some testosterone, Viagra and

buspirone.  The first two are mentioned above and the the third, buspirone is an antianxiety drug that drops your serotonin levels briefly and makes you far less stressed or 'inhibited'.   This combo approach appeals to me because the brain is a big big factor in this equation. So this three pronged approach seems to have hit a home run with users and it looks like it will be available on the market in early 2016. 

Another drug in the pipeline is Bremelotide, which is a nasal spray that works on parts of the brain linked to sexual stimulation. So you squirt it up your nose and your brain suddenly finds it way easier to get aroused  I like this approach and it seems the most viable of the pharmaceuticals to my taste. Because it effect the brain, the brain starts sending out the right signals to help the body prep for sex. 

ArginMax has also been clinically studied even though it is a mix of herbs.  It appears to have had a massive effect on both the women's libido and in the amount of satisfaction they get out of sex. I've read way too many reviews on various websites as a result of this article: generally, these pills seem to be quite popular.  Along with GoldMax which also uses ginseng as it's major ingredient (a potent libido booster known to Chinese tradition medicine for, like, forever.) 








My favorite review for GoldMax as follows was written by Chloe Cross of Vice Magazine:

Look, not to freak you out or anything, but Gold MAX is fucking intense. I took two capsules before dinner, and without warning my body suddenly screamed YES, and the River Nile was unleashed in my panties. Thanks to GM I had sex for the first time in two months. YAY! My prey described me as being “wetter than an otter's pocket”, which I’m fully taking as a compliment.

Afterwards, he fell asleep and left me writhing around all night trying to "accidentally" wake him by grinding up against him (quite aggressively). It says on the packet that Gold MAX is a Chinese herbal remedy and as such has "no unpleasant side effects", but I got the feeling that if I took it more often it might turn me into a rapist. Which is about as unpleasant a side effect as I can imagine.

Rating: 8.5/10 (-1.5 points for the rapey bit) 

That's it for chemical enhancers. The next part will be on chemical libido dampeners. 

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Female Libido Pt.1: Physical factors

Female Libido...it's a great thing when it's working. So lets take a look at what makes women WANT to have sex...and what dampens their libido. I will divide this  into a series that will cover physical, chemical enhancers, chemical dampeners, herbal, and mental factors that influence libido. 

Physical Enhancers
To physically enhance the experience and pleasure that she feels, you can simply flood her genitals with blood so she's all horny and engorged. In order to do this: there's suction vibrators. The only one I know of that has been FDA approved (and you can get a prescription for!) is the Eros. 

The Eros is basically a little suction that goes over the clit and sucks on her like, I dunno, a mouth??  Ha ha.  Anyway, you use this to suck on the clit which increases blood-flow significantly (in many ways working just like a penis pump).  And then the device vibrates. 

The results? Well, more blood-flow in that area and all of a sudden you're hornier.  It's no big surprise. Guys will tell you that with a hard on you are way hornier. So this works for women too. In addition, it makes them wetter and more responsive to physical pleasure.

Eros Prescription Vibe:
Ask your hot doctor to
show u how to use it.

Now there Eros itself costs $179 and is prescription only but keep in mind that they are getting medical insurance companies to pay for it.

Let's face it, sucking on a clit isn't that difficult and probably doesn't require something studied by doctors in order to work. A much cheaper option is a little $15 clit vibe found here.   

Fetish Fantasy Clit Sucker

A well groomed lady using a suction vibe

Now the medical community is all excited because they found a little pump that can boost female sex drive...but they are missing a massively obvious libido booster: Masturbation!  Women who masturbate are hornier. A lot hornier. They are thinking about sex more. They are exercising their girly bits more and practicing cumming.   From a medical journal, "repetitive, high-emotion, high-frequency sexual behavior and self-stimulation may cause changes in neural circuitry that, in turn, may cause perpetuated hypersexuality."

So yeah, masturbating daily works wonders for female libido and is probably the single most powerful libido booster out there in any form. So if you want to feel hornier...touch yourself more. Doctor's orders.

Rest up! A good night sleep improves a woman's energy, mood and sex drive. So get your beauty sleep! 

Get groomed.  If you are all nicely shaved, showered and feel comfortable to showing all parts of your body, your are more likely to WANT to show all parts of it. Conversely, if you are self-conscious and feel like a hairy Sasquatch your sex drive will mirror that. So do whatever it is to make you feel groomed and pretty. Paint you nails. Put on lip gloss or wear your favorite perfume. 

Being healthy, fit, and well rested goes a long way to
boosting sex drive

The most powerful physical thing you can do to boost libido: exercise! Exercise has a massive impact on you giving you more energy, releasing stress, increasing your vitality and vigor. Mentally, exercise makes you feel better about yourself: more attractive and more appreciative of your body. And exercise increases your blood flow meaning your girly bits get more blood and so it is easier for them to get engorged and wet.  Women who exercise regularly have significantly higher sex drives and also, they report much less PMS and shorter periods. 

And finally, lose weight! It's been found that women with low weights and BMIs have significantly higher libidos. As one evolutionary biologist described it, "Larger women have more resources available to get pregnant and can be impregnated more easily.  Very thin women, in contrast, have a more difficult time getting pregnant so the body compensates by spiking their sex drives to increase their chances of getting pregnant."  So thin girls are way hornier and much more likely to be sexually active.  And apparently, the thinner, the better.  Now there has been some slightly conflicting info on this where being extremely thin can sometimes cause interruptions to your hormonal system due to lack of resources-- and this can occasionally cause a big drop in female libido.  But in generally healthy thin women, it causes a big spike in sex drive.  

Physical Dampeners
Any sort of 'bad pain' that is unexpected, unwanted and not related to the twisted actions of a Dom is usually a massive buzz kill. 

Additionally, there can be problems with her self-lubrication which can result in pain from excess friction and tearing while things are going in there...which can lead to apprehension about the whole experience. So a simple solution to this is a  good lube that let's her know that won't happen.  Now every pussy is different with her own likes and dislikes so find a lube that agrees with her.  Personally, I prefer O'My...as it's the best in every way from being natural to tasting awesome and truly edible. 

Other things known to kill libido? Lack of exercise. (See above.)  You feel sedentary and lack energy and this is reflected in you sex drive...so switch it up. 

Poor sleep...who feels really sexy when they are exhausted? No one. So rest up. 

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Compassion Meditation

As I said in a recent post on making slaves the best and happiest people they can be -- the responsibility of the Dom is to care for the mental well being of the slave: leaving her better than you found her.

And the readings I've on on the Vargus nerve and it's ability to have dramatic health and emotional effects that are easily measurable.  The scientists that have studied this are flocking to new-agey like practices such as compassion meditiation as it is extremely effective.

So I want my slaves to do this so their hearts are light, they are worry free, happy and healthy. So, sorry girls, you have another daily practice. ;)

Here you go:

• Sit in a comfortable position and start taking a series of deep breaths until you start to feel yourself relax
• Close you eyes
• Think of someone that you care about.  Visualize his/her face. Recall their smell, the way they feel or repeat their name...whatever helps bring them clearly into your thoughts.
• Say the following while feeling it  about the loved one:
• May you be held in compassion
• May you be happy and healthy
• May you have all that you require
• May your heart be light
• Repeat this over and over in your head while thinking of your beloved for 5 minutes.
• After 5 minutes, shift this to being compassionate for yourself:
• May I be held in compassion
• May I be happy and healthy
• May I have all that I require
• May my heart be light
• Repeat this self-compassion for 3 minutes or so.
• Shift now to someone you find more difficult --be kind and generous to them in your thoughts
• Repeat for the new person for 2 minutes
• Turn your attention now to someone you barely know:  a customer, a checkout clerk, a bus driver or server and use the compassion mantra above.
• Finally, offer compassion for everything:
• May all living things be held in compassion
• May all beings be happy and healthy
• May all forms of life have all they require
• May all hearts be light

Do this every day. It takes just 15 minutes but the health benefits and the change in you after a month are astounding.  A scientist could tell if you had done it or not by simply looking at your pulse.  Or from your brainwaves. There will be easily to spot changes in the amounts of stress hormones in your blood. They can also measure increases in skin elasticity after just one month of mental activity. And from the amount of blood flowing in your vargus nerve.

And this will also have a massive impact on your energy levels and stressful feelings will melt away. Your sick days will plummet and yes, it even can put cancer in remission.   This is not some airy-fairy new age flakey hopefulness...this is hard science. So do it. For me...and for yourself. Do it everyday --for a month for starters.  

I love you...and this is important to me. So do eeeet! 

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On Being Thin Pt.2

This girl is crazy hot-so yummy! <3

In a previous post On Being Thin, I described the health benefits of being thin and also explained how being thin makes girls a lot hornier.  Well, this post is going to be about what I do with that info. From things that I like to see to rules for my slaves to help them stay thin for me.

Let's start off  with rules: I love for my slave to be thin and want to make it as easy as possible to make that happen for both of us. 

Same girl...still hot!

Rule #1
As I mentioned in the previous post, fasting is apparently a very good thing for the body.  So, to
encourage fasting, a slave will have 2 days a week were she eats only a tiny little breakfast or if she prefers a small lunch.  The slave will drink lots throughout the day but if she notices herself feeling very hungry or her stomach grumbling, she will have to masturbate to thin girls for me.  This way, she associates being thin and hungry with being horny:  a perfect mix.

Rule #2
Despite being thin being associated with eating disorders like anorexia and beleemia, I most certainly don't encourage eating disorders.  To be sure that my slaves don't go down that path, the key element of control must be in my hands.  I can order her to a large chocolate cake if it pleases me and she will have to eat it all. And she is not, under any circumstances, allowed to cause herself to puke with just 2 exceptions.  1) if she has eaten something that she believes is poisonous or hazardous and inducing vomiting is the correct behavior to keep herself healthy for me. 2) if she must puke, she may only do so by gagging on my cock and puking all over it.  This ensures I know about every instance of her puking and can monitor it correctly and make sure it does not get out of hand.  This is especially for girls who have already been struggling with this eating disorder -- and can give her a very viable and accepting way to vent and share the experience without having to hide it shamefully.  And if you think I am hugely entertained by repeated bouts of eating whole tubs of ice cream and cookies and then puking it on my cock...sure,  I can enjoy that a bit...but I certainly won't be allowing you  to do this endlessly while spiraling out of control. I will redirect these impulses.

Rule #3
A sex slave will weigh herself every day and report her weight to me.  This allows me to track your weight and monitor it for you.  Also, I know that weight naturally fluctuates somewhat so  the important thing is remaining aware and knowing that you will have to report your weight to your Master also is a strong willpower enhancer. And if that fails, there's always nipple clamps. *evil grin*

Rule #4
Exercise is good for you!   Even simple things like walking and biking to get around. I would MUCH rather see you eat more than you are currently eating while exercising a bunch and gaining some weight in muscle while losing body fat over starving yourself.  Ot if you're going to play games online...use a machine at the same time!




Mental and Emotional States:
Girls usually are sensitive about their weight and looks...there's a lot of societal pressure. So my goal is to assist her...being the coach, the personal trainer and the inspiration. If she feels fat and ugly...she's not going to want to fuck. She's going to want to curl up in a ball covered with blankets. So be extremely kind and sensitive! Your responsibility is her mental state...so keep her mind correctly focus and empower her always. She should look and feel hot...not look hot and feel awful.

And now, my preferences:
I prefer girls that are really skinny. Why? Because skinny, weak little girls make terrific little sluts. A weak and very skinny girl just seems submissive to me.  And my mind has come to associate skinny with horny. And you being skinny with you submitting to my control. It's all good.

So I'd like to give a few examples of things I personally find really hot...and I expect my slaves to adjust their taste accordingly so that they like these things too.

Hip bones -- being able to clearly see hip bones is so damn wonderful. They also make great love handles (nothing like a good grip while fucking!)

SMALL BOOBS -- Skinny girls don't have huge, ugly udders...they have beautiful, perfectly proportioned boobs.  Tiny boobs on a tiny frame are the ultimate in sexy.  (Some girls refuse to believe that this is a real preference -- and I've used this insecurity against them...however, they eventually found out that my humiliating usage of words like "flat", "tiny" and "double a" were really the highest compliment I have. So yeah, the emotional roller coaster...enjoy it...but it ends on a massive upswing!)  

Cut pelvis -- see the lines drawing attention like an arrow to her pussy? Divine!

Visible Ribs --  see those ribs? I think they are sexy. I just do. <3

The Gap:  Notice how there is a gap between her legs? Very nice! Girls whose thighs touch everywhere...just can't hold a candle to this!

 

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Dildos 

A dildo is a sexual aid, or sex toy, which can be used on both men and women. It is generally a penis shaped device, used for penetration of the butt, vagina or mouth. It can be used during both Masturbation and Sexual Intercourse. People sometimes call them "Dills" and my favorite history of the name (no idea if this is true) is: it comes from Italian word "diletto" which means delight.  But the main thing that separates a dildo from vibrators is...no motor and it just plain doesn't vibrate. 

Below is your guide to dildos. 

Types of Dildo's --Materials

A dildo can be made out of many different materials. Common materials are:

PVC- Pvc is the least expensive of the materials, however they are known to have a plasticy aroma and are porous so can harbour bacteria. It's usually fairly soft and flexible. And it also can be discolored fairly easily.  Since it is the cheapest material you will find the biggest dildo made out of pvc.

Silicone Rubber - Silicone Rubber is more expensive generally than their pvc cousins, but are much easier to keep clean as you can just boil them in water to sterilize. Another plus for silicone rubber dildo's is that they do not smell like plastic.  But they can disintegrate if you use silicon based lube. 

Chrome-plated Steel dildos - chrome and metal dildos are much more expensive than both rubber and pvc, however they provide a different set of sensations when inserted in the body. Many Dom's and mistresses in bdsm circles enjoy using this type of dildo for the very reason that it causes their play partner a slight discomfort. They do not flex like rubber or pvc dildo's; this can lead to an uncomfortable feeling. They also transfer heat really well so can provide interesting sensations when placed in the freezer. Easy to clean and sterilize and virtually indestructible. But expensive.

Pyrex glass- Pyrex glass is also an expensive material in comparison to silicon rubber and pvc. This type of dildo also doesn't flex when inserted into the body. The Pyrex glass dildo can be heated using warm water to body temperature and is easily sterilized with boiling water. Also, glass dildos heat up when inserted into the body and can feel comfortable once it has warmed to body temperature. These are great but don't drop them or they can shatter. Also, never bother with cheaper glass dildos which are much more likely to break and considering where they may be when they break...just use the pyrex ones.

Types of Dildo's -Variation in Shapes

The Double Dildo

The Double Dildo. Used for penetrating 2 females at the same time. Used frequently by bi girls and lesbians. Double sided dildo's are commonly used in lesbian sexual intercourse or in a group sex environment. They are also used in heterosexual intercourse for male anal penetration in a practice that is sometimes referred to as pegging. 

Non-Penis Shaped

Of course, not all dildos have to be penis shaped. Certain lesbians really dislike the whole penis shape thing and go for phallic shapes that are not penis-related. Say a banana shaped or ones that are shaped like cute teddy bears. Additionally, certain Asian countries have laws/difficulties with fake penis shaped objects but no problem with other extremely similar shapes...and that, coupled with 'Asian sensibilities' results in some rather odd incarnations of the dildo.

They can also be found in unconventional shapes that are more pleasure based in origin.

Strap-Ons

Strapons are harnesses made for holding dildos in place --just where a cock would normally go. This allows for women to fuck each other effectively. Or can be used as a humiliation play on males. This also works for those that do not want to or cannot use their actual penis.  Dildo require a good base and/or balls in order to be effective in a strap on harness.

Other Uses

Dildo's have many different uses. They can be used as a solo or mutual masturbation tool, of course.  They work as a sexual aid during sex both for men and women. If they are appropriately sized a phallic gag. They can also be used for artificial fellatio or for fellatio training. Larger dildo's can be used for intimidation and humiliation play. Flacid ones can be used by trans people to be placed in their underwear.

Health and Safety Issues facing use of dildos

 Sterilization of a dildo's is very important as Std's and common infection bacteria can be carried on a dildo and transferred to the person receiving insertion of the dildo. Common practice for a dildo being used by more than one person is too apply a condom over the dildo. Special care needs to be taken when using a dildo for anal insertion as they can be difficult to retrieve if it goes fully inside the anus. If a dildo should become fully lost inside someone’s anus, it is important to retrieve it – and this may require medical assistance. If the didos becomes lost and works its way up to the bladder area, a could cause a rupture and this means you’ll have to use a colostomy bag for the rest of your life. So swallow your pride and go to the emergency. To prevent a dildo from being swallowed completely by your ass, you can use a butt plug which has a large end to prevent total insertion.

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