Knowing your Little from A to Z

DADDY DOM -- from the perspective of a little.

So you're a Daddy Dom.  Don't get stuck in your head about what YOU like about it.  

You probably like:
1) fucking her.
2) teaching her how to suck your cock
3) the cute babygirl sounds she makes and how she talks to you
4 )seeing her cum for Daddy
5) beating her like a bad little girl

But if you want to keep up this dynamic, you have to look at things from her perspective and make sure you are providing everything that she needs.

Think about it from her point of view.

Here's the A-Z of Things to Consider for your Little:

a) Is he still going to be my Daddy outside the bedroom?

b) Is he still going to be my Daddy outside the house?
c) Will he hold me when I'm scared?
d) Will he tell me what to do because I'm too young to make hard decisions?
e) Will he tuck me in a night?
f) Will he choose my stuffie that I will sleep with?
g) Will he buy me new stuffies?!!!
h) How will he react to a temper tantrum?
i) Will Daddy discipline me to do the right thing? To make me grow up into the bestest girl I can be? (Not just be a mean Daddy!)
j) Will Daddy love me and be interested when I show him the things I can do?
k) Will Daddy be interested in the little girl things I tell him about? Like the puppy I saw today!!!
l) Will Daddy watch cartoons with me?

m) Will Daddy send me to bed at bedtime?
n) Will Daddy read me stories at night?
o) Will Daddy re-read my favorite book as much as I want?
p) Will Daddy brush my hair?
q) Will Daddy put my drawing up on his fridge?
r) Will Daddy give me baths and wash me?
s) Will Daddy tie my shoes?
t) Will Daddy explain to me the grown up things using words a little girl can understand?
u) Will Daddy ask for crayons for me to colour at the restaurant?
v) Will Daddy check under the bed for monsters?
w) Will Daddy remember the name of my blankie?
x) Will Daddy care for me emotionally, mentally and physically too?
y) Will Daddy help me in the bathroom?
z) Will Daddy hold me when I cry?

Your little is doing her best to be a certain age...to immerse herself in that role. She's doing it because she loves you.   And it's your job to make a safe environment for her to be little. She wants to be a good little girl for you -- but you have to be a great Daddy for her.

Then she will love you with her great BIG little heart!  And be go to sleep dreaming of you sneaking into her room in the middle of the night for a little sleep creep. ;)

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50 Ways to be a Better Daddy

I started off calling this "Rules for Daddies"...but they are not really rules becasue if you are anything like me, being told what to do makes you NUTS!

Part of being a Daddy Dom is taking the lead and helping create a world for your little girl where she is safe to be young, sweet and innocent.

If you find yourself lacking inspiration, you can refer to the following list to see what appeals to you.




So here are

50 Things You Can Do to be a Better Daddy:

1. Give her attention everyday.  Even a quick text lets her know she's in your thoughts
2. Do something with her that she's never done before
3. Commit to her in some way. I'm poly...but that doesn't mean a girl doesn't have a special place in my heart and my life.
4. Discipline her as needed. And even when it isn't needed. ;)
5. Enjoy her silly and cute side -- before she grows out of it
6. Put your fingers inside her
7. Inspect her pussy to make sure it's completely bare
8. Spontaneously kiss her hard
9. Make her tell you her dreams
10. Set goals for her to achieve them
11. Squeeze her as tight as you can
12. Think of something you love about her -- every single day
13. Put one of her drawings up on your fridge
14. Put her birthday into your calendar
15. Know her middle name
16. Get her to tell you her thoughts
17. Lick her in unexpected places and carefully watch to see the spots that work
    
18. Undress her
19. Lay out the clothes that she is to put on
20. Molest her while she sleeps
21. Pick your little girl up and never put her down
22. Ask her if there is anything she needs help with
23. If she's bratty, she wants a spanking. Give it to her
24. Clearly explain what you expect of her
25. Find out her limits...then push her right to the edge
26. Honor her for giving herself and her power over to you
27. Protect her.   If someone is pushing her around, it is your duty to step up and defend her
28. Create a safe space for her.
29. Hint and lead up to the big games you have planned for using her
30. Spoon her. She is so cute as a little spoon!
31. Buy her an unusual stuffed animal that matches her personality
32. When you watch TV together, have her sit on your lap.
33. Sing her a lullaby
34. Write a poem for her
35. Don't complain to her. You're her Daddy. Complaints go from littles --> adults.
    
36. Send her a letter
37. If you go on a trip, bring back a toy from your travels
38. Spank the hell out of her tight little ass
39. Give her apple juice with a bendy straw after a spanking
40. Put her in the tub and bathe her
41. Be stronger than you are: be her superman
42. Take to Build a Bear and have her make her own teddy
43. Cut her meat up for her
44. Teach her about something totally perverse and present it as an adult game
45. Call her work, "School", her co-workers "kids in her class" and her boss is her "Teacher".
46. Send her to bed when she is tired
47. Check for monsters under the bed
48. Read her bedtime stories
49. Tuck her in at night
50. Put a night light in her room so she's not afraid of the dark

    

    "Just like a lollypop, Daddy?"

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Ageplay

Ageplay is a form of roleplaying between two (or more, heh heh) consenting adults where participants act as if they are a different age than their biological age.   It may or not be sexual but the primary characteristics are the powerplay, lack of responsibility, and re-experiencing the emotional states and interactions of your youth.

Usually people pretend to be much younger than they are with common ageplay ages being:  baby (0-16months old);  toddler (2-3 years old); young child (4-7); prepubescent child (8-11); preteen (12-13); and teenager (14-17).  However, the girl may get off on the guy playing an elderly man, for example...it doesn't matter: if you are roleplaying a different age: it's ageplay.

Ageplayers who pretend to be little girls call themselves littles. They often refer to 'their little self' as way of owning their little persona and incorporating it into their adult life. Littles love to see things from a childlike perspective -- and point out when people are not sharing and being mean!

Ageplay, for me, is highly sexual but I've played with girls who love it just for the fact that she gets to
color and make drawings and just plain be a little girl with no responsibilities nor worries. A girl can get off on the fact that her Daddy will take care of everything -- and she gets to re-experience the safety and security of having an ever loving, strong Daddy who knows everything and will take care of her.

I used the term Daddy above, but that's just a form of roleplaying -- it's not required nor is the incest element a defining characteristic.  In fact, having sex with some related to me doesn't work for me at all -- yet a girl calling me Daddy and being my little girl...damn, that's hot. I think the Daddy part is one of the easiest ways to establish a roleplaying scene where love and a close emotional connection are assumed.

The real reason that I love littles

As a Daddy, there's clearly one element that attracts me to this: the big-ass heart of a little girl!! Fuck your baggage: love me like you've never been hurt. Little girls have the biggest, purest hearts -- and they love with all of it! It's not conditional. It's not judgmental.  It's just love.  And who can deny or hurt* a little girl that loves you with all her heart?!  It's addictive <3

*- Ok, I can spank the hell out of her tight little bottom...but I'm talking about heart/mind hurts.

Ageplay is not considered pedophilia or related to pedophilia by professional psychologists. It's roleplaying that allows the girl the freedom to open up like a child in ways she might not in her adult shell. And for Daddies...there is a certain assumed power dynamic of an adult having absolute say over the child -- but this dynamic can have a loving, tender element attached to it that is far different than say, a Nazi/Jewess roleplay. The Daddy has the authority but need not enforce his will so sternly: his word is often enough.  Not that Daddies don't spank ;)

Aside from the girl having all of her burdens disappear when she becomes a little, she loses not only the responsibilities in her but the concept of responsibility too. Her world becomes one about play.  And now she's free to do the things she still enjoys such as play with dolls, stuffed animals and pencil crayons. In fact, if she didn't like stuffed animals (aka stuffies) I might suspect there was something seriously wrong with her. 

Some age players like to go to infant form -- to be just physical and maybe not even know any words at all.  It's like a self-imposed kind of bondage if you think about it.  Instead of gags and rope, the baby just plain can't speak or walk.  And there is also diapers involved which can get them off with changing -allowing for exposure and touching of genitalia when cleaning them up.  Note: they may be playing...but she still can have some big girl poops and so...well, I prefer girls in the 8-12 range. ;)

The effect of a big heart and the innocent worldview I find intoxicating.  There is one subbie I know who does it so well and so whole-heartedly that she's just seems like the most delightful sweetie ever! Even though she doesn't match the physical body type I've posted about earlier (though she does have a very pretty face and the bestest long straight black hair <3  ) ...but it's her energy and her sweet little-girlness that truly won me over.  And with Ashlie (who just had a birthday and turned 11) it's nice because they play well together and both love stuffies!

Hmmm...you know, I haven't mentioned this blog at all to her. I should really send her the link. :)

The reason I enjoy ageplay so much is also because I get to share with the girl her sense and remembrance of her awakening sexuality. I get to really learn about what makes her tick by hearing about her first feelings and awareness of sexual feelings.  From the first time she touched herself in the show to the first time she remembers squeezing her legs together in the way it felt really good.

I'm sure I'll write more about littles and ageplay...but it's bedtime. So get off to bed and I'll be up in 5 minutes to tuck you in. 

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The Best Daddy Doms

Right. You are a Daddy Dom.

You can fuck a babygirl like no other.
Teach her how to suck her Daddy's cock.
Make her make those cute little girl noises that you love so much.
Make her cum for Daddy.
Beat her senseless.

COOL. You've got like, a small portion of this dynamic down.

As someone who enjoys being with littles as often as possible, the things listed above are an awesome bonus for your girls. But when I can't get my other needs fulfilled, "bedroom Daddies" don't end up being enough for most little girls.

She will worry, "Are you still going to be my Daddy outside the bedroom? Outside the house?"  or, "Can you hold me when I am scared?"

A good Daddy will help you make decisions that are too complex.  This can be as simple as what socks match your dress best, or which stuffie to bring to bed.

Stick with her through my tantrums. Then discipline her in a loving way that will help her learn and not just scare her into obedience.  

As always, you have to win her heart and guide her mind. Daddy has to earn his respect. But on the plus side, the loyalty Daddy gets when he does this is massive. She truly loves and adores him -- not simply obeying because she is scare. She obeys because that is who she is -- it fulfills her.  Just as her obeying fulfills me.

You have to get into her mind. "Do you have a true interest in the puppies and flowers and friends and people and fun things I saw when I was away from you that I want so badly to tell you all about? (Usually very quickly and excitedly!)"  The answer is, of course: yes. (Though you may have to make her talk a bit slower so you can understand.)  I care about the things she cares about because, well, I care about her being my sweet and innocent little girl. It opens my heart.

Other things to consider: Can you realize that sometimes, when she is roleplaying certain ages, that she can't understand things she might understand easily as a Big? Can you explain those things to her?

Will you watch her favorite cartoons with her before bed? Read her favorite book to her?

Brush her hair? Tie her shoes? Bathe her or wash her in the shower? 

And for God's sake! Will you tuck her in at night?!?

And most importantly, do you want to do these things for her? To build your Daddy/little relationship? And because, well Daddy loves his little girl?

Will you ask for a coloring book and crayons for her when you're out together at restaurants? Ask yourself, "How would I feel being with my little girl at a restaurant with her stuffie?"

How will you feel if she insists on dressing up for Halloween? (My answer is, of course, "OMG yes! We have to get your a good costume that you can wear to school!") 

Remember her stuffies names? Know how serious a lost stuffy is?

The worst excuse for a Daddy I've ever known actually stabbed a stuffed bunny for revenge on his little girl. In my opinion, he should've gone to the Humane Society and asked to be put down following such an incident -- so profound was his lack of Daddy-ness.

Ask yourself:
1) Will you take her fears seriously, no matter how trivial they may seem?
2) Can you reassure her and support her?
3) Help her be a better little girl? Not only for you, but for herself and everyone else?
4) Do you have the patience that is needed for a little girl?
5) Can you make sex a fun and essential part of the Daddy/little girl relationship?

If you are only set to buy your partner stuffies every so often, get off on her calling you Daddy, and you calling her your little girl... You may want to reevaluate how you are putting yourself out there. For the little girls who are looking for a Daddy outside of the bedroom as well, it can be hard having to find one who fits their non-sexual little girl needs. Her little needs to be supported and cared for emotionally, mentally, and physically as well as sexually.

If a Daddy can do these things for her...

She can learn. She can be a good girl. She can feel safe and loved. No amount of money spent on hello kitty items can compare to the simple acts it takes to make her feel safe as a little girl.

This is how this dynamic works for me. This is in no way to judge "bedroom Daddies" as some call them. No kink is better than anyone elses, all are legitimate. But just know that some littles need more than that. <3

Why do littles act the way they do?

Why does this persona come out? Fuck if I know. Why do some of kinksters dress like kittens and get fucked? And does it matter?  As long as she's horny and turned on by it. I  love to feel so turned on by her most of the time that her little comes out. So let her be that little girl. And love her as fully as you would your child...but enjoy her like a woman.

Who is her little?

Her little is her escape. When she is little she is free to feel things. She shows me that she can be vulnerable and grow from it. She has a sense of innocence and her little makes it alright for her to feel shy. Or mischievous.  She loves to please. She loves to have fun. She is not her real age but forever the age revolves around innocence. This is a key part of age play. She doesn't have to worry about anything and is free to be as sweet and carefree as a child.

Why is she drawn to Daddy figures?

I do not want to fuck someone while pretending I am their biological father.  I don't get off

on acting like a birth father. I get off on the idea of what a Daddy is. A person who is strict, but loving.. Who will give punishment when needed and kiss away the pain. A person who is interested in bettering their bottom/girl/slave and does not have fully selfish motives when topping. Not all girls crave a big headed, egotistical Dom who treats women like shit because he is a man and should deserve to be in charge. (Good lord, please don't think I am knocking you if that's what you are into...and that too can be fun --don't get me wrong!) But to me, being a Daddy is a great way to roleplay in such positive ways that opens each others hearts to one another.  Does Daddy love his little girl? Of course he does. Will he ever take that love away? Are you KIDDING ME?? You're my daughter for christsakes! I'll love you forever. We are family.

Little girl, I want you to know that it's ok to love your Daddy with all your heart. Put your trust in him. He's not going to let you down or suddenly abandon you. He's here for you all-ways.

Some littles learn how to open up with partners and even orgasm for the very first time... overcoming the self-consciousness and being allow to just be, enjoy and relax.   She need to be taken care of. Yes, sometimes babied. I sometimes need a slavegirl in a position where things aren't taken from her, but given to her. It allows me to express my love and appreciation for her.  Sometimes she may even think she is being given more than she can handle (eg. Daddy knows some twisted games to play that we can't tell anybody else about), but a cuddle and a "good girl" afterwards reassures her that she is stronger than she thought.  

This mind set is not for everyone. We all look for different ideals in a partner.

I'm just needing to get this off my chest because I have felt very judged lately, and though I have no desire to change, I had a desire to explain myself.  Personally, I love little girls who are immature 12 year olds.  Girls wanting to roleplay being 8-13 seem so sweet to me as they are adorable, yet they love their Daddy with their whole big hearts! They are old enough to want to serve Daddy and yet they may need to prove to Daddy that even though they are young: they can do anything an older girl can do.

Good luck in your kinky adventures, and stay true to yourself.

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