Improving Self-Image of the Slave part 2

[Continued from Part 1]
The best way to improve a slave's self-image is by helping her feel happy.

It may sound too simple, but simply telling your slave when she is pleasing you with her behavior is the best way to improve her self-image and help promote happiness. Whenever she does something that you want repeated...reward her: positively re-enforce the behaviors you want repeated. Clearly let her know that she's done well.

Your slave will most likely come to you burdened with all sorts of ideas of what it means to be a successful member of society: she should have money, possessions and a powerful job. Well guess what? Those things don't fucking make you happy!! It's a bullshit lie that money leads to happiness.  Millionaires and people making $50k a year have identical happiness scores. Material things? Nope. They offer only an extremely short term spike in happiness and then you just have more crap in your house. A powerful job? Well, no...it's not the power that makes you happy...it's the connected-ness with other people, feeling valued and being creative. So let's look at what makes people happy for real.

Top 5 Things that Make People Happy

1. Connection: Family and Relationships 
2. Compassion: Treating everyone with kindness 
3. Caretaking: Looking after others
4. Being grateful for what you have
5. Health: massively influenced by feeling empowered   

And the biggest factor in unhappiness?  Financial stress. (See, this is why we think having money will make us happy! Because we are stressed about it...but the truth is having money just stops you from being miserable: it doesn't make you happy at all.)

So guess what? You are the Master and your fucking job is to make your slave feel happy.  Happiness and self-image go hand and hand. And you job is to guide your slave and look after her.   Luckily, being a slave is one of the most wonderful and simple ways to get happy! Let me explain.

A skilled Master should guide a slave's tonal (a.k.a. mental self-talk) and he can put the slave into a position such that she is free from all financial stress and burdens.  Additionally, he can give her all sorts of opportunities to caretaking and serving and appreciate the hell out of her for it.  He can guide her mind so that she regularly focuses on kindness and compassion. And he can create a solid, safe, secure family type situation where the slave is completely comfortable and confident in her role.

Now, if the Master is vocal of his appreciation of her...she should blossom and her self-worth, self-esteem and yes, happiness should skyrocket. The slave gains satisfaction from connecting with her Master and takes pride in serving and even takes on a special and easy to understand social position amongst the community. Her ability to serve well becomes intrinsically intertwined with her serving and not having to worry about anything else.

Additionally, the Master grows to love and depend on her for her spectacular service -- and it's a real win-win situation. 

The main point is: a Master must create the right circumstances where he reshapes and recasts the slave's thoughts so that her self-esteem becomes linked to serving and gaining the approval and encouragement of her Master. 

The Master has several tools at his disposal to influence his slave strongly and improve her self-image so that she is focused on happiness.

A Master's Top 10 Tools for Improving his slave:

1. Hypnosis
2. NLP
3. Positive Re-enforcement (aka praise)
4. Setting Goals
5. Teaching coping skills
6. Mantras (e.g. compassion meditation) 
7. Visualization
8. Meditation
9. Clearly defined rules and practices
10. Punishment and sexual rewards

I will talk about each of these and attempt to link back to this article and fill these in as the sections are written. 

Ok, I still have more to say on Improving Self-Image of the Slave this will have be....

[To be Continued]

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Top 10 Squirting Lessons

Yes, females can ejaculate. I've done posts on squirting, how to make girls squirt, adventures in  milking slaves and even the science behind girls squirting. But on a more practical level, here are my

Top 10 Squirting Lessons Learned

1) Hydration is really important. So drink lots beforehand
2) Hydration is really important. So have Gatoraid on hand   (replenish those electrolytes!)
3) Press fingers on her labia to make her orgasms last longer and spray everywhere!
4) Use a blow up mattress to avoid soaking your mattress
5) A large, absorbent pad for hospitals can be great ---used underneath towels to catch the majority of it.
6) Rubber sheets crinkle but can save your mattress too
7) Squirt tends to dry clear and odorless
8) Wearing swim goggles can give you a really sexy view!
9) If she tries to stop you because she really needs to pee...you are on the right track
10) Sleeping on the wet spot in summer is awesome for keeping cool and show her just how much you love it.

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10 Things a Dom/Domme Should Remember

1. Your submissive's well being and health must always be priority
   
2. Cuddles heal power
3. She is more fragile than you think. You can make her stronger with tender love.
4. You must establish trust with your slave before you attempt to order her around.
5. Be humble. Being a loud and cocky bastard is unappealing
6. Always communicate your desires and allow her frequent opportunities to tell you what's on her mind.
7. You always have more to learn. Part of your job is to learn constantly.
8. If you are inexperienced at something, say so. She has a right to know -- and knowing may have her speak up before she gets accidentally hurt.
9. Alcohol should not be part of your scene. Alcohol impairs you judgement and puts your sub at risk.  So stick to more straightforward fucking when drunk.
10. Aftercare is important. Check in with her often as her emotional state is your responsibility. Appreciate her for all she's given you.  

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10 Fundamental Slut Rights

These are the fundamental rights I give unconditionally to each and every slave of mine. A note on the word slut: slut is a very very good in my book. The most wonderful and desirable kind of girl in the world is a slut. They are the best and I wish more girls were good sluts. Being a slut should be a title a slave wears with pride. A slut is a girl who loves a lot, adores pleasure and loves to give pleasure too. What's not to love? These rights are irrevocable and your core rights that will never be removed:

10 Fundamental Rights of a Slut

1. Must be allowed at least one orgasm per day if wanted. She may negotiate the use of some forced chastity play or orgasm denial but this is a short term negotiation only and she may only endure such behaviors with her consent. She has a fundamental right to at least one orgasm per day, no matter what.   

2. Must be allowed to grind against her Master and behave with sneaky public sexuality. This right is to ensure that the slut never loses track of her primary purpose as a sexual being. But keep in mind that public restaurant patrons have not consented to public sexuality and so their right will also be respected.  She also has the right to attend some parties and social gatherings attended by people of the BDSM community for social interaction and, within these social gatherings behave as slutty as she desires with her Master.

3. Must be allowed to eat a lolly and in act in other ways as a sexualised little girl (see Ageplay) without you growling.  The Master wants her to be a happy little girl and never worry about too many grown up things and instead think of only horny girl games.  

4. Must be allowed to demand sex, even if Master is in the middle of doing something. Asking for sex will always be respected and never result in growling or chastisement. Sex is fundamental to a slut's well being and she will always be encouraged to be sexual at all times.

5. Must be allowed to bend over in that way to get that thing that we just dropped and or show off her body in tempting ways with the knowledge that she is implicitly asking to be used sexually. Additionally, she must be allowed to dress in skimpy, slutty, and far-too-revealing clothing at all times to facilitate the above mentioned bending over.  The slut will always have the right to dress like a slut. 

6. Must be allowed to be sexual with any of the other slaves.  Master's slaves are part of her family and she has the right to ask for sex from any of the other slaves. This right allows the slut to promote household harmony though mutual orgasm.

7. Must be allowed to join in unless she has been specifically tasked. A slut who is otherwise unengaged and without orders to the contrary, shall be allowed to join in to any sexual activity that her Master is engaged in. For clarity, if the Master is fucking one slave's ass and the slut hears this and wishes to assist, then she has the right to join in and help out --even without specific orders from her Master. This is a right designed to encourage inclusion and not have the slut feel ignored nor that she is intruding: she is simply exercising one of her fundamental rights. 

8. Must be allowed to send Master dirty pictures and messages even if he is at work. The slut is full of unbridled desires and needs the right to communicate her dirty thoughts and activities to her Master even while he is out earning money for more sex toys and slut clothing. All communications will be through private means however (ie. cell phone) and not through company email and communication lines that may result in the expulsion of the Master from his wage earning activities. 

9. Must be allowed to own as much porn as she desire. The slave slut is owned and property and is not allowed to have any possessions of her own with the exception of pornography. A slut IS allow to own as much porn as she desires. Specifically, this includes but is not limited to legal porn in the formats of books, magazines, videos, DVDs, movie files, photos and images of sexy girls from the internet.

10. Must be allowed to watch and/or use porn during any and all sexual activities. The slut has very little control over her life and therefore shall be allowed to watch whatever porn she chooses during any sexual encounter or while masturbating. She will not be denied the right to touch herself while watching porn.    

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The Top 10 Reasons to Love a Slut

The Top 10 Reasons to Love a Slut

10. Because you are fearless. Will you take off all your clothes on our first real date, climb up on those sharp rocks way up there and let me take pictures of you on a busy public street? Will you ask some strange guy in a bar to take pictures of you with a dildo up your ass on a motorcycle so you can send them to me. How about letting some random girl with a broken leg fuck your ass with a strapon for a picture? Suck me off in the parking garage by your school? Yes. Yes you will. And I appreciate that. You are Star Trek Level Fearless.

9. Because you are kind of slutty. Who am I kidding, you are perfectly slutty. I still haven’t found the thing I honestly can’t do with you and I love how open you are to trying things. If I come home with an object, person or idea today, I’m sure I can have it up inside you as soon as I show it to you. And that’s where it belongs. No matter what it is. Yes, you're a crazily horny girl who always wants sex and is good to go -- and I fucking love that about you!!

8. Because you easily forgive. On the extremely rare occasions when I do something actually wrong, I apologize and you say you love me and we fuck. You don’t hold grudges against me and I can tell. Honestly I can’t stay mad at you, either, but that may be because of reasons 10, 9, 6, 5, and 4. I'm a male who's is deeply in love with you sluthood.

7. Because you have different sides. Sometimes I can whip you with a belt and pretend that you’re my boss’s wife and he just fired me and I have to work you over for revenge. And sometimes I can bring someone home and you will help me fucksaw them and ride their faces while I fuck them. And sometimes you will have slow sex with me, staring into each other’s eyes. You are everything. You are like the less fucked up sex version of Sybil.

6. Because you have really good parts and know how to dress them up. Really very good parts. And some of them you can’t even see. I think it’s a shame that you are the only person in the world who can’t see your ass while you are walking around in a thong. Yes, everyone knows this, too, because of #9 and #2. But you are a slut devoted to showing off your beautiful body in the tiniest clothes.  Sure, your bikini has 95% less coverage than a usual one...but how else will everyone on the beach know you have not pubic hair? You wear corsets like the queen of slutdom and dresses that stop cars on the street with guys willing to pay. Your ability to dress like a total slut at all times reminds me constantly about how much I want to fuck you.

5. Because I can bring anyone I like home and never have to convince them to play with you, too. It’s not a hard conversation. Everyone hopes you are home. "Do I get your slave, too?" Yes. Why wouldn't I include you? You're so sexy and would always make things better. And anyone with low enough standards to fuck me will just be overjoyed that someone like you comes as a condolence prize. Besides, I know that you're a slut at heart that needs girls too..and girls need you. So everybody wins!

4. Because you are looking out for me. You always look out for people I would find attractive. And you know me. You would never let someone go by that I would want to fuck or beat up, abuse or use without trying to figure something out. In the vanilla world, they don’t have girls like that. They have bowling and poker night.

3. Because you use porn and share. So I get to see what you like. It’s like a manual for you. I still haven’t figured out how to turn people into cartoons with tentacles in every orifice and schoolgirl skirts ripped off by multi-headed penises but I am working on it. I remind you that it's only in a cartoon that severed organs grow back.  But the fact that you're addicted to porn and use it daily is so damn hot! Every time I ask you what you'd like to watch and you throw on some gorgeous naked girls...my heart melts.

2. Because you photograph well. And I love taking pictures of you. You are inspiring and make me think artistically. Every picture is better with you in it. That stupid dog picture of them playing cards on velvet would have been better with a naked you in the middle of it. American Gothic? better with you. And if you were riding Mona Lisa's face, it would be a real masterpiece.

1. Because you cum for me. Every orgasm you has is more proof of your devotion. You haven't cum for yourself in the longest time.  That would be selfish. No, every single orgasm you have is for me and me alone.  Babe, I am addicted to your orgasms and need them. Seeing you cum is the best thing in the world. Which is why I love you -- you're a exhibitionist slut that needs to cum in front of me many times a day.

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