15 Hypnosis Tips

As I have previously mentioned, hypnosis is a wonderful tool for BDSM and training a slave. The use of hypnotic suggestion can greatly improve your slave’s enjoyment of a scene and improve her overall ability to serve you.  (I know, I know, I haven't actually written the How To Hypnotize Your Slave Guide yet...I'm working on it!)

But in order to use hypnosis effectively, you have to understand how to use it as a tool. There are several suggestions (no pun intended) that I can put forth that can you understand how hypnosis works and how to properly use it as a tool.

These guidelines will apply to all hypnosis and not just use in BDSM.

Here are my Top 15 Tips for Hypnosis:

1. Use a script until you are very comfortable with hypnosis. You may find it extremely useful to write out a script that you are going to use with your slave. Beginners often make mistakes when winging it but if you develop a script beforehand, then you can proofread it for errors. After you are more experienced, you will see that the script is just a general guideline-- it’s the phrasing that is of utmost importance.
2. Imagination is key. Her subconscious mind will respond best by actively engaging her imagination and use every sense possible to make it as vivid as possible.
3. Be playful. It is best to be flexible and playful...not ridged. If a certain turn of phrase seems particularly useful...use it! If she hints at something she finds deeply relaxing...latch onto it and use that knowledge to get her to ever deeper states.
4. Belief cannot simply be destroyed...they have to be replaced.
5. Support beliefs with other known beliefs. Prop up new beliefs with as much logic as possible.
6. Beliefs are extremely powerful. If you believe you can’t do something...it won’t matter how hard you try to do it… you will fail.  The belief must be changed first.
7. Strong emotions are great at cementing beliefs. The stronger the emotion is...the easier it is to affix a new belief.
8. If she is expecting to be hypnotized and allowing of it...it will be super easy to hypnotize her. So prime her a lot beforehand and get her to want it to happen.
9. Build on small acceptances and agreements. The more she begins to accept what you are saying or suggesting, the easier it will be for her to accept more difficult suggestions later on.
10. If you can logically convince her that she wants it to happen, add her imagination to visualize it afterwards. This will have a powerful multiplying effect.
11. The longer she can concentrate vividly on a subject, the more powerfully she will accept it.
12. On a topic, the first suggestion given will have the greatest effect on her.
13. Long held beliefs often come with physical and emotional reactions. What her body language closely as she will be communicating with you using it.
14. Never suggest something that could be dangerous to her.  She may be physically capable of more while hypnotized but there is a risk attached to performing physical tasks while hypnotized. So use this time for mindwork...not body work.
15. Your job is to guide her and convince her through visualization and logic. Convince her that she wants it to happen and then help her see how it feels to have that happen.  
    
    
    

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20 Ways to Have a Better Threesome

I made a prior post about threesomes but it ended before giving some 3-some tips. So here they are: 

 20 Ways to Have a Better Threesome

1. Everyone has to find each other attractive. (Finding  the right group is the hardest part.)
2. Don't try an follow a script that you've planned out of what is going to happen.
   
3. Don't ever assume that everyone is good to go. Even if they said they were in advance.
4. A massage is a great way to start
5. Throw some music on.
6. Use a big bed or a large floorspace.  (The first time I want to a certain very hot girl's condo I looked at her single bed and said, "OMG, how can you have a 3-some on that??"   --I was totally serious and she was...totally shocked.  Too soon, me thinks. Ha ha. But seriously, I think Queen is the smallest bed I'd consider buying.)
7. Three-way kisses are the bomb! Do eeet! So fun and it helps warm everybody up for more.  
   
8. If you have a regular girl, focus MORE attention on her (not on the new girl. This will make your girl feel sexier and the new girl will feel welcomed into something loving and stable. But don't be careful not to ignore the new girl either!)
   
9. Always practice safe sex
10. The new girl may be more interested in your girl than with you. Roll with it.
    
11. Take turns with 2 people focusing all their attention on pleasuring one person.
12. A some point, try to make sure all are being pleasured at the same time
13. Keep a close eye out for someone feeling left out and immediately make efforts to include them.
    
14. If you want, take a break. Going to the washroom is totally allowed. It gives time for 1-on-1 fun.
    
15. One person can go get snacks and drinks.
16. Change positions -- don't think you're frozen in stone-- if you're feeling you've been in one spot for too long...switch it up.
17. Go with the flow.  You have 3 peoples energies and ideas all intermingling: what will come out of it no one can say in advance so you have to explore and flow with it to find out.
18. Don't be afraid to speak. If you want something, say so.  If something isn't working -- find a better thing to have done to you.
19. Have fun! This is the reason you are here: to have fun. That's the primary mission.  If something doesn't seem fun...tackle her, give her a raspberry and giggle. :)
    
    
    
20. Sleeping in the middle is the hottest spot -- overheating is likely. If you tend to be cold...this spot is for you (I'm on the side if it's July, ijs.) 

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Going down on a girl

5 RULES FOR GOING DOWN ON A GIRL

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Going down on a girl is an important skill that we think every body should learn.  Oral Sex is an important part of any physical relationship  and knowing how to give good head or face goes along way with many people.  Formally it is called cunnilingus, many puns are made about "Cunning linguists" for communication is a very important part of cunnilingus.  Personally I very much enjoy eating pussy and am happy to try and pass on what I have learned about muff diving. And, of course, I expect any and all slaves of mine to practice this on other girls and to be really, really good at it also! So here are my five rules for going down on a girl:

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1.  Be Prepared: Way before anything happens, make sure your nails are groomed with nails cut short and no dirt under them. Wash any dirt of your hands because very few girls go for the hobo look.  Now, before going down on your lady friend (regardless if she has been your lady friend of 20 minutes or your wife of 20 years)  You have to warm her up, unlike guys who are ready to receive a blow job pretty much instantly.  Women respond better on average to being physically romanced through passionate kissing and caresses all over their bodies.  Some classic pieces of advice are “Work from the outside in” and “it’s better to be slow and steady than fast and furious”.

2.  Be Comfortable:  You are most likely going to be there for a while (unless your a biter)  So it’s important that both of you are comfortable and warm without being over heated.  When a women sits on a mans face he has to make sure that he can breathe easy even if she moves around a little while on top of him (this is especially important if any type of bondage is being used to restrain the man).  As a man with the women lying on her back you might be tempted to through a comforter over your head when you go down there, this can lead to serious over heating and lack of fresh air.  Don’t arch backwards too far or your back may get sore and force you to readjust your position at a critical moment.  Also if you are ever around carpet, be careful of cock-rug-burn as it hurts and could inhibit future performance.  For women, sometimes it’s best to have a blanket to stay warm.

3. Don’t rush:  the goal is not to see how fast you can get your tongue on her clitoris, but how good you make her feel. It isn’t a race and better, the more she enjoys the total experience, the easier it will be to make her cum - and cum and cum. So relax and enjoy the entire sensual experience...it’s not like her hard-on will go down or anything. Just be comfortable and enjoy: she will pick up on it. Remember, the goal is not to make her cum, the goal is for her to have a good time.  Some girls feel pressured to cum and feeling rushed makes her stressed. Besides, it doesn’t matter if she cums as long as she has a good enough time to invite you back to her bed.

4. Communicate with her about what she likes: You’ve gotten this far, now ask the expert: calmly ask her what she likes. Some women will know exactly what they want and you  have to make them comfortable enough to actually tell you -- by being non-judgemental and accepting. If she tells you something she likes,  do it. Better, remember it for next time.    Other women may have no idea or limited experience and don’t honestly know what they want.  Usually, in these cases, you can try a variety of techniques and see what she responds best to. Sometimes women want you to experiment and are really curious to try new things, for example, sticking a finger in her ass.  make sure you ask her if she likes fingers inside her vagina or if she just prefers tongue on her clitoris.

5. Get to Work:  You have warmed her up and she has told you what she likes so now it’s time to deliver the goods.  Remember this isn’t a rush delivery take your time, maybe kiss neck, suck on her nipples a little or lick her around her thighs.  Build her anticipation of your coming tongue on her clitoris.  Rub your hands over her body, while you make your way down to her vagina.  When you get down there remember that all clitoris’s and vagina's are different, stick to what she told you to do and you will be fine.  But remember that what she told you she likes can change without notice at any moment so be prepared to improvise.  You should know whether or not she likes fingers inside her.  if she does stick one or two fingers inside her and make the come hither motion on the roof of her vagina to stimulate the G spot.  If she doesn’t know what she likes there are three basic techniques for three different clitoris types.  The first one is the angry clitoris type that needs to be punished with as much tongue as possible with fast and powerful licks till fruition.  The second type is the soft and lazy clitoris that just wants lazy giant doggy licks steady, simple, and easy.  The third type is the hypersensitive clitoris that just wants tiny teeny little licks and motions; the key with this one is to move slowly and be on the right spot, it’s all about accuracy.   One last point if the girl you are going down is getting more and more excited without moving around JUST KEEP DOING WHAT YOUR DOING!  If she is moving around and grinding her hips, she is usually trying to get you to move to the “right spot” with out having to tell you “hey dummy it’s a little to the left”.

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